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So here we are.

Happy New Year!

Welcome to the blog story that is traditional. Let’s Review of what I said last year with a twist:

Like Sgt. Hulka used to say in the movie Stripes: “before we proceed any further, we gotta get something straight.”

I’m going to be taking this blog to new heights. It’s not just going to be the same old song and dance. Nope, that is going to be one and done. It’s going to more that just one blog story. No matter if you are in America or in freaking India, be ready. This blog thing will get real. If I got to get my Periscope, or own video thing on here to help my stories, well: that’s what I have to do one day. What does all this mean? It means that I have to get better with the idea of blogging with the issues and concerns. I have to. It’s not just that thing that needs to be done, it must be done to improve. To inspire and yes, to get to the point of view that I need to display.

Yes folks will walk tall, shoulders back, chin up, conscious up to the 10th level, and of course this is an idea that would be beneficial. I thought about destroying this blog and ending a 10+ year streak, all because of other concerns of boredom or that same story. But wait…..this could be a benefit to help and inspire. While many might think that one story from a blog is all there is, think again.

Stephen’s Spot is not just about one blog story. Or one picture. Or one anything. It can be revolutionary, inspirational, conscious, fun, life experienced, or just plain normal. It’s not a one dance show. It’s one in the million that can be experienced if many take the time to read more than one. Now, I know many are just now discovering the blog based on what I written back in 2014 or whatever. But if you (yes you) the reader actually like what I write here, in a sense of right now, thank you.

Knowingly I can’t control what others might read, but by me writing more, and thinking more, it will be fully objectionable for me to carry on. I’m in the 40 year old plus age bracket, and yes this age bracket will indeed test my theory and summarize.

So guess what: you want Stephen’s Spot? I’ve give you Stephen’s Spot! This is not no same ol song and dance. Nope, not here!

So for now: let’s start my New Year’s Tradition of Stephen’s Spot that doesn’t need a repeat: What do want to see and not want to see in 2018! 18 things by the way.


First Five I want to see in THAT YEAR OF 2018:

1) Time to work folks. If this is the year that you will get that real job, the time is now. No more wasting time by waiting on others. It won’t work. We need to have a “Career Awareness Month”. We need to have better job fairs, career expos, have a “seasonal vet” career fair for the mature folks. Not that watered down stuff that many are getting. Even if you still have that degree in display, that many will pass up. We have to do better.

2) If you got to get yourself checked. Do it. You know where the doctors are. As well as the dentists, eye examination folks and more. Matter of fact some of them might be near you right now. And while were at it, we need to for real get educated about the issues of health. I hear say, “you need to do this or that”. or “you need a flu shot.” BEFORE ANY THAT HAPPENS: ASK QUESTIONS! Forget what you saw on Facebook, know that real stuff first! Really stop and ask questions!

3) 2018 means that the Congress will take over with some new #45 laws being placed. If any of the new members screw up, get on their case! Don’t just complain on social media, complain to the So-and-So’s! Write letters, emails with proper sentences! You can do that, you know.

4) You know that 2018 is a mid term voting year. Oh you didn’t know this? Pay attention! It’s not the presidential election, but maybe some of your Governors or County Supervisors will be running on the ballot. Do better!

5) Speaking of the voting thing, this would be a time to get your voter registration checked and/or updated to get ready for the 2018 election. I want to see this happen even more. Plus in the future like all these health months, why can’t we have a Voter Awareness Month? Remember this: FAAN – February, April, August and November!

Next Five I don’t want to see:

6)Like last year: I don’t want to see no one complaining about the lack of this or that in the church. If you don’t have a certain something going in your church, then make something happen! Keep at it! What did I say after my father’s passing: Be empowered, and Stay in the fight!

7) And like many many years ago: I don’t want to see black folks putting other black folks down for stupid reasons. No matter what happens we must continue to look in the mirror and raise up. Jobs, education (past or present) contributions, etc. And that goes for anyone else.

8) Never EVER OVERLOOK THIS – Black Queens: you say you LOVE us Black Kings right? DO YOU?! Here is a challenge that you might not think. Cater to us for ONE DAY at a restaurant, or maybe give us a day that we might enjoy. Think it over! Many of you got Brothers, Fathers, Uncles, Husbands, Boyfriends, Cousins, Neighbors, and many other male influences that you probably know that need that appreciation! You guys go all out for your thing and we’re in the seats. Why not us?

9) I HOPE TO GOD, I don’t want to see credit checks on black folks no more. Matter of fact, not on anyone anywhere with credit checks!

10) I don’t want to see those who didn’t vote gloat. Guess what: Elections have Consequences. Especially in this Midterm Season!

Five More things I want to see:

11) I want to see more of us ALUMNI (YOUNG AND OLD) to reinvest in our Alumni Groups. Not just for the class reunions and everyone also shows up broke, mad, left out and uninformed. And by the way, if you see an Alumni Rep at your class reunion, don’t get no attitude about your daughter or son in college needing money and you think that your old High School has no money. That will not work!!!! Just dumb. Have you heard of Scholarships, like churches hand out every year? Stop playing!

12) I want see the results of us doing the work. Not just the partial results of patting on the back and say “nice work”. But also what did it took to get the results needed. And if your employer is celebrating a milestone of service (10, 20, etc), give him or her the due of respect. It’s the right thing to do. Or even if no one gives you a pin of service: give yourself one!

13) I want us “non scared and scared grown folks in the Black Church Groups” to talk to our youth. Seriously talk to them. Some of them need us to come to them. I don’t care if they are in the schools shooting basketballs or at the community centers or in church playing Madden. Or double dutcng or learning a praise dance. Even tutoring! Let’s learn to #HashtagAndTalk to our young folks. Male members of the church: get the young men involved in these groups! Women, you know what it is.

14) I want to see more black folks in the communities whom think there is nothing there to do, start something! Stop complaining! Stop moaning! Get up and get out and make the stuff happen!

15) Like last year and year ago, here is a thought: I want to see ALL fraternities, and ALL sororities to recruit and meet up with seasoned vets that can help out. Especially those of the black fraternities and sororities. All of the Divine 9 folks: From the Alphas to the Iotas and from the AKA’s to the Sigma Gamma Rho’s: Have a day in which YOU need to go out to the seasoned vets of those whom are 40 ish and up that want to join up to support the groups you represent. And also, don’t be so judgmental about those whom are at that 40’s range. Best place to find us: either at our church events, alumni group meetings, etc. And this goes for the American Legion Family, Masons, Elks, Eastern Stars, and etc. WE SEE YOU!

Final three: want not to see and want to see.

16) Of all the things I don’t want to see: enough of the blame game on Black Lives Matter that seemed violent or racist. For all you Blue Lives Matter, or copying off the Black Lives Matter Movement, you will suck. Instead of hating on Black Lives Matter at least go to a meeting or hear from those who lost a brother, or sister or a parent that was black. Take notes, Blue Lives Matter.

17) Now this might work in this 2018: Get Grown in your work and volunteerism. We know what we need to do, and what to do this year. So why not get involved! And the time is right now!

18) This is for the grown folks 18 and up: HANDLE your grown business! After all, we supposed to be grown after 18, right?

Happy New Year!

By now, the final leg to Christmas is here. Many are out getting gifts or making that donation popping. But whatever it is, it’s almost the day in which grandma’s house will be visited, light speed to the tree will be at full throttle force. The anticipation of the excitement once again that this Holy Day of Jesus’ birth is mysterious, but is the greatest holiday of all time.

But like before: I still got questions and scratching my head!

For all of us December born males, does this matter? #12thMonthRockers


Does us in the Sagittarius game have a plan that things will be better in 2018? Keep slinging those arrows.♐♐♐♐

Did I had a good birthday on December 5th? Possibly, yes.♐

OK hold up: who is really watching and hating the Hallmark Christmas Movies?🎄❄🎄❄

Again I need to ask, are there other stories to read besides the same ol stories? Time to bust the bubble and extend the homework. Literally.

Not lame: but I only see a few African Americans in these Hallmark Christmas Shows. Why is that?

In history, the Green Bay Packers are so Dangerous in December. But not this year as much. Why?!!!!

Who really gets the Christmas Gifts: those who have nothing newborns or those who have been in the struggle?

Will fake news actually disappear from Facebook, Google or any other news outlet that has real news like last year?

What was the really best stories that captured 2017? More on that later.

With all the snow jobs lately, should there be a reduction in taxes? And should there be snow cycles for fun and at a cheap price? Still waiting for the snow cycle!

Is DirecTV Now still holding up well? I may need to subscribe.

With some of the black population supporting Donald Trump, what will be outcome of what they think they might get, knowing that part of it will get screwed later on?

With all the Christmas stuff now coming down percentage-wise, is it wise NOW to get them for next year? Think about it!

Question: They say that the females have to take over for the men for doctor appointments. My question is, are these the same type of females that really hate men? Be real honest ladies.💊

Last year many of you black queens say you love us black kings, right? Can you takes us out to lunch or dinner or a movie or have an appreciation day that YOU will be paying? Don’t just say you love us kings, show it!🍴

I know this might be old, but what is it about black women or certain type of black women who have this inner hate on black men who date other races? I mean I’m just asking what is the hold up on it? And where is the “hate” coming from? Generational? Cliques?

Many should realize that Canada does have racism like America almost, right?

Still asking: Should the Greater Milwaukee Area get a Hard Rock Café (not the Casino due to Walker’s dumb decision) in order to get Milwaukee on the map more? THINK on this Milwaukee. Hate going to other cities for the Hard Rock fun!

Best Christmas Carol?

Best Holiday Movie?

What is real hate against Obamacare?

By the end of 2017, will you really have all those 2018 resolutions in tact, knowing that many of us WILL NOT due all the things on that list? (lose weight, stop smoking, find this and that…..)

You do realize that when new years comes, you have to start filing taxes right? Keywords: TAX TIME BALLERS! 💸

Oh, many should know, but you know that 2018 is a midterm voting year, right?

Why is the Salvation Army having a hard time with the kettle donations?

So there are those still are at “war” on Christmas. For what pry-tell reason why? Bitterness perhaps?

Hanukkah is done. Christmas will be done and Kwanzaa will finish it by New Years Day. Questions?

Will us Sagittarius folks keep slinging the arrows everyday? Now that our season once again is in the books! ♐♐♐♐♐♐

Did Christmas did you well?

For the holiday jobs folks, how well did you do?

OK last question: and this is for all the cold snow haters. If you are one of the many that hate cold weather so much, then why you don’t say much about………Hot weather? Just wait until Spring/Summer 18. I’ll hold you to that.

So, yet again: Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, Feliz Navidad to all. 🎄❄🎄❄🎄❄🎁

The 10th Month is upon us. Actually its here. The same month in which Halloween is still a fun time to dress up and and look spooky and not get arrested. Well maybe not. Partially, the month of October is also a time to recognize two concerns: Breast Cancer Awareness and Domestic Violence. Now why would a male like me would be talking about or maybe getting pink and purple for the 10th month of October? Should that be a concern for Women than Men?

Show of hands (FOR THE MEN ONLY) How many of us had someone who we were, or are related to that has lost, or going though the phases of Breast Cancer? How many of us had or have those related to us that beat Breast Cancer? And check this, women don’t laugh at this, how many of us MEN that know other men, that has or had survived Breast Cancer? Now that last question is a bit strange, but it’s real talk.

According to the source from the Susan G. Komen Foundation, the chances of MEN getting breast cancer is usually found in which highlights:

The male breast

Though boys and girls begin life with similar breast tissue, over time, men do not have the same complex breast growth and development as women. At puberty, high testosterone and low estrogen levels stop breast development in males. Some milk ducts exist, but they remain undeveloped, and lobules are most often absent. However, breast problems, including cancer, can occur in men.

Plus also:

Breast cancer in men

Breast cancer in men is rare, but it does happen. In the U.S., about one percent of all breast cancer cases occur in men [42]. In 2013, it is estimated that among men in the U.S., there will be [38]:

  • 2,240 new cases of invasive breast cancer
  • 410 breast cancer deaths

Another example:

Survival rates for men are about the same as for women with the same stage of cancer at the time of diagnosis [42,67]. However, men are usually diagnosed at a later stage because they are less likely to report symptoms [42,67]. 

Warning signs of breast cancer in men

The most common sign of breast cancer in men is a painless lump or thickening in the breast or chest area [67]. However, any change in the breast or nipple can be a warning sign of breast cancer in men including [67-70]:

  • Lump, hard knot or thickening in the breast, chest or underarm area (usually painless, but may be tender)
  • Change in the size or shape of the breast
  • Dimpling, puckering or redness of the skin of the breast
  • Itchy, scaly sore or rash on the nipple
  • Pulling in of the nipple (inverted nipple) or other parts of the breast
  • Nipple discharge

As men tend to have much less breast tissue compared to women, some of these signs can be easier to notice in men than in women. These symptoms may also be signs of a benign (non-cancer) breast condition.

If you notice any of these signs or other changes in your breast, chest area or nipple, see your health care provider right away. Some men may be embarrassed about a change in their breast or chest area and put off seeing a provider, but this may result in a delay in diagnosis. Survival is highest when breast cancer is found early.

What kinds of Breast Cancer could effect men? (Again women, don’t laugh)

Types of breast cancer in men

For men (and women), most breast cancers begin in the milk ducts of the breast (invasive ductal carcinomas). Fewer than five percent of breast cancers in men begin in the lobulesof the breast (invasive lobular carcinoma) [71-72]. Learn more about the anatomy of the breast.

In rare cases, men can be diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancerductal carcinoma in situ (a non-invasive breast cancer) or Paget disease of the breast (Paget disease of the nipple) [67-69]. Paget disease of the breast is a cancer that begins in the milk ducts of the breast tissue, but spreads to the skin of the nipple. It can cause a scaly rash on the skin of the nipple. Although Paget disease of the breast is rare, it occurs more often in men than in women [69].

The types of Breast condition in which males could be effected?


The most common benign breast condition in men is gynecomastia (GUY-nuh-ko-MASS-tee-uh) (enlargement of the breast tissue). Gynecomastia results from a hormone imbalance in the body. Certain diseases, hormone use, obesity and other hormone changes can cause this imbalance [73]. For example, boys can get a temporary form of gynecomastia during puberty.

Gynecomastia does not need to be treated unless it is desired or it causes pain. In these cases, it can be treated with hormone therapy or surgery [73].

At this time, it is unclear whether gynecomastia is related to breast cancer. Although some data suggest it may increase the risk of breast cancer in men, most studies have found no link between the two [68,74-76]. 

What about risks, side effects?

Risk factors for breast cancer in men

Although some factors have been found to increase the risk of breast cancer in men, most men who are diagnosed have no known risk factors (except for older age). 


Getting older increases the risk of breast cancer. Older age is the most common risk factor for breast cancer in both men and women. In men, breast cancer occurs most often between ages 65 and 67 (this is somewhat older than in women) [68]. 

Klinefelter’s syndrome

Klinefelter’s syndrome is a rare condition that occurs when men are born with two X chromosomes instead of one (XXY instead of XY). It is related to high levels of estrogen in the body [68,73-74]. Men with Klinefelter’s syndrome have a 20 to 50 times greater risk of breast cancer compared to men without this condition [68].

Men with Klinefelter’s syndrome may have gynecomastia (enlargement of the breast tissue). Although some data suggest gynecomastia may increase the risk of breast cancer in men, most studies have found no link between the two [68,74-76]. 

BRCA2 gene mutations

Men (and women) with an inherited BRCA2 (BReast CAncer 2) gene mutation have an increased risk of breast cancer [67-68,73-74]. Men can inherit a BRCA2 mutation from either parent. And, a man who has a BRCA2 mutation can pass the mutation on to both his sons and daughters.

Breast cancer in men is more likely than breast cancer in women to be related to an inherited gene mutation. Up to 40 percent of breast cancers in men may be related toBRCA2 mutations, while only five to 10 percent of breast cancers in women are considered to be due to a gene mutation [48,77]. So, it’s usually recommended that men diagnosed with breast cancer have genetic testing for possible BRCA2 mutations (learn more aboutgenetic testing).

Men who have a BRCA2 mutation have about a seven percent chance of developing breast cancer by age 70 [78]. (In comparison, women who have a BRCA2 mutation have a 40 to 60 percent chance of developing breast cancer by age 70 [79]). Men with a BRCA2 mutation are also at an increased risk for other types of cancer, such as prostate cancer.

Other genes are under study for a possible link to breast cancer in men [80].

So Breast Cancer  is not just a concern of Women, but on a minor concern, Men YES WE MALES can be a concern about this also. Just like colon checks. Women, you too, have be checked for the colons also. Just saying.  When the time comes, detection is an advantage if you want to live longer. Now I don’t know anyone personally that has Breast cancer, but one of my Church members is a Survivor.

Here’s something: Richard Roundtree, from Shaft is a Breast Cancer Survivor! Look it up. Breast Cancer is not just a female concern, but it’s also a male concern.

Now on to Domestic Violence.  

Time to talk about. Show of hands, how many of us MEN, have been effected by Domestic Violence through Women being the victims? We better raise our hands on this one. And the reason being that many of us should know. It’s not a joke. Usually the most Domestic Violence abuse cases are usually triggered by Men. No Shiznit. But however in rare cases (women hold your laughs on this) Women can play the aggressor in domestic violence on Men. Almost like Sexual Harassment. Remember that movie Disclosure, in which Michael Douglass’ character was being sexually abused. In which the character played by Demi Moore was the aggressor. Personally, I have a close relative, that was abused in the 80’s that was domestic. Reference Asha Family Services here  in Milwaukee. Remember that blog I wrote back in the summer about Domestic Violence, and about churches should get involved with the prevention portion of it. And remember when I commented the MALE side things in which Men have to understand Domestic Violence for a male concern? Remember that? If not, go back and read it. Now if those may not remember, or forgotten. Here is a refresher thing for catching up from Asha Family Services in Milwaukee:

1) Domestic Violence is a Crime!

2) Domestic Violence is one of the most COMPLEX issue on the planet;

3) DV is no respecter of persons! – it doesn’t matter if you are black, white, latino, straight, LGBT, poor, rich, or struggling in the Middle Class. It effects everyone!

4) There is help available!  – The US Department of Justice reports that women and girls comprise the largest group of victims at 87%, with males comprising the largest group of perpetrators whether the victim is female or male.

Where does it come from? How does it happen? It usually starts with learned behaviors through family origins. Such as, when a young male commits a DV Crime, and the question of others ask where does he get this attitude from? It’s usually starts with a parent like a father, or an uncle, or a grandparent. Another could be through observation, the culture, reinforcement, community and many other elements. Health issues like stress, genetics, illness, or relationship issues can also contribute to Domestic Violence. According to the State of Wisconsin, Domestic Violence is defined as this: “The international infliction of or threat to inflict physical pain, physical injury, illness, impairment of physical condition, sexual contact or sexual intercourse without consent.”

And the three main factors from abusers: Physical, Emotional and Sexual.

Physical:  in sense of using weapons, bear hugging, Slapping, biting, Rape and making threats of killing you or a loved one.

Emotional: Forces you to sit in his presence. (or to paraphrase) or her presence. , Mindgames, Attacking verbally, calls or texts you repeatably all day, Insults your values, beliefs, religion, race, heritage or class, refuses to socialize with you and your family and friends, refuses to pay the bills or having their loved one or partner to pay the bills in a demanding fashion, tantrums like throwing things, drop papers or clothing. Plus manipulation.

Sexual: Rape, angrily jealous, gets angry if the partner or loved one in the relationship doesn’t want to have sex when he (or she) wants it, call you names like whore, b*tch, extorting unwanted sexual acts, insists of unwanting touching, and having multiple affairs.

Are we caught up yet? Especially for a month like this. At this rate, it’s all about Power and Control.

So I think it’s high time that both Awareness of Breast Cancer and Domestic Violence need to recognized closely. All organizations, no matter if it’s church, radio, television, newspaper, non profit, government, or if you just own your own blog, recognize BOTH Concerns of Domestic Violence and Breast Cancer. Already today, V100 had a day to recognize those who are going through, or lost, or survived Breast Cancer. It was called “Sista Strut”. I’m sure many cities have heard of it annually. Have BOTH a “pink-purple party for awareness” in October. Recognize the pink for BC and purple for DV. It’s not just a concern for African-Americans. No matter your background or status. It effects everyone. Literally all year long.


Unbelievable. Totally unbelievable. I have to say that today, March 9th, 2011, the 14th Anniversary of the death of Notorious B.I.G. has not been good. The Wisconsin Republicans Senators voted to move the Union Busting Bill through with a vote of 18-1, illegally!  As a Wisconsinite, I am embarrassed.  Totally Embarrassed.   And I thought being booted off your friends list on Facebook was bad. (I got something to say about that. Particularly those who add on for a while then, take off 3 months later.)For those who wanted Scott Walker in office, you made your vote happen on November 2nd. But if you are a fan of Scott Walker and don’t like his politics of this subject, you need to remove that Republican Card from the wallets and purses right now! Again, this is an outrage. It is a slap in the face of the working class, it is a slap in the face of the future, and it is a slap in the face of those who have built this thing for workers who want to have working rights. Just as a reminder, that Wisconsin started this union thing. And now, it’s becoming a thing of the past. There was a comment long ago on Milwaukee’s Real Milwaukee show on how Nicole Koglin, said that those in my age group (in our 30’s) don’t understand the union stuff. Let me comment this, and I don’t care if it makes the RSS feeds. There are those in my age group THAT DO understand this! I got friends from high school that are involved in Unions, and yes they are in their 30’s! Obviously, Nicole (as good as she is) needs to learn why these things exist and must have a reason to have it. It’s been around for over 50 years. I think education needs to resurrect here.

This is what happens when you don’t vote. The black community knows this very well: If you don’t vote, you don’t count! Period. I know that for the next election there will be more voting in 2012,  but what just happened in tonight, proves it! This is also what happens when you just sit around and do nothing. So voters, we need to turnout better than this. As for the Wisconsin 14, they were described by the ex-RNC president Michael Steele as “whimps”. Shut up, Michael Steele! The Wisconsin 14 are not cowards. They are not whimps. They are not wussies.  They maybe outlaws but also courageous. The Recall comments are just now getting to the heads of voters. Will I be recalling, you bet your next blog. I’m saying this because I come from folks who have worked with unions. No matter which one. I used to be apart of the Teamsters Local 344, and I know that African-Americans the most in Wisconsin would suffer the most. In case you’re wondering, Wisconsin does have black people, and most of them do live in the Milwaukee area. At least 41% of us do work. Particularly in the Education areas. And I know first hand that this will not die out quickly. Matter of fact, remember when former House Rep Alan Grayson, that Republicans want you to “die quickly?”  That comment has resurrected. This is embarassing. This is an attempt to bust Unions, and also in my estimation, a SLAP IN THE FACE against every working person (past and present) who has fought hard to get working rights on the map. And for those who say “I’m glad they pass this thing” there might be consequences of backing that up. My opinion, of course.

Like I said in my previous blogs, the people know that the Rookie Governor Scott Walker is known for this. When he was the Milwaukee County Executive for 8 years, he made uncessary cuts that are needy. Transit, Health, the poor, and also Unions. I think the rest of the state should have done was to research the part of him that was not well known. Again, Wisconsin: I TOLD YOU SO! All of that” Brown Bag Tea Party Movement” stuff will be nothing more than a consequence of stripping collective bargaining rights. Elections have consequences. And those who made the decision, will have consequences. They will have consequences that will pay. Big Time.

For Wisconsin: bold prediction – Wisconsin WILL be a blue state in 2012. In the past couple of weeks, President Obama has been quiet about what’s going on with the unions. And for the recalls: even though that Scott Walker can’t be recalled unless he has a year under his belt. BUT those who have been in longer, they CAN be recalled. The dragon has been sleeping, but now it has been awaken.  And……..IF Tom Barrett would have been governor instead of Walker, this would not be going on right now. So again, this is what happens when your voice isn’t heard!

As a resident, I am ashamed. But now, when the ballot boxes comes, I can’t wait to smackdown my vote. Or as it now: vote up.