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Welcome to the first My Take the New Year. Or it states that many don’t want to begin this in a fashion on TV that dealt with Trauma.

Spolier Alert: Trauma is not new. I’ll clarify on why it is.

Throughout our history growing up in various circumstances, the issue of Trauma really hits us early. No matter if it’s in the family, neighborhoods, churches, jobs, or any other matter of speaking that many already know. Traumatic experiences come in many forms. Many examples and many angles. We all read about them and we all summarize it and usually don’t have answers. We don’t have ideas to convey the solutions at times. But there are some solutions that can cope with the valor of the effects of Trauma. In 2018, my home church had the third installment of Trauma that was about Healing the Family. And one of the speakers, laid in very well detailed information about trauma ranging from Slavery, to family conflicts, and the haunting memories of the pain and suffering about the use of trauma that stays hidden, but the wounds open up years later during adulthood. The speaker said over and over again: “Trauma is not new!” It’s not!

There were several clauses that compelled the issue of trauma ranging from Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, Racism and Oppression, Stockholm Syndrome Traumatic Bonding, Psycho-Physical Trauma, and Psychological Warfare, just to name a few. And what does this have to do with the black community? Part of this is not new in the black community because many of us know this very well. And it ties into today’s era that many are still scared to talk about. But why???? Is it fate? Is it going to break the family apart forever? Or is it just happenstance? And many wonder why it’s so hard to break that pain of traumatic stress NOW!

Speaking of that, there was a special that was aired on the Lifetime Channel regarding R. Kelly: Surviving R. Kelly. This special aired on three consecutive nights that the women in the special had all their say or commentary about their experiences in regarding R. Kelly. Many have said over and over again that R. Kelly had “sexual advances” towards the young girls over and over many times. And even “marrying and sexual advancing” the late great Aaliyah. Which was a false statement. As I’m watching this, many had to be like why it took this long for the women, who were traumatized by all this pain and suffering had to be succumbed to stay silent and tell their sides of the stories later on as adults? Why do the women who had to sit in front of the camera tearing up are doing this? I get it that it has hit hard on them, and many had to feel for them, but many are asking, why now? Why not then?

Many had to keep quiet about the secrets. Many had to keep quiet about the claims, or the backdoor politics to allow the alleged to walk scot free. Yes, many claimed that R. Kelly probably told the women of now, girls then to keep their mouths shut and never break a word to anyone getting all hyper-emotional years later. Well, guess what, their silence is broken. Plus in all the long traumatic commentary, it seems that also that many are calling this foul ball: It’s all fake, trying to get money, trying to be famous or just yet just want to exploit the real deal about R. Kelly that many feel it’s false. Or speaking of that, many black women and black men are actually defending R. Kelly! Are you kidding me?!!! And not only that, many folks whom have Spotify, probably logging in so many times to play R. Kelly’s music in positive aspects. But these are the folks whom probably don’t care, they are still going to play his music, watch his videos online (music videos) in all. And many still are doing it. I have some of R. Kelly’s music in my collection and I haven’t played them in a long while. Just never did. I just left them alone.

When I looked at all the segments, it brought me back to all the talk about Trauma and the effects of it. The women in the special had a traumatic reaction from the past and it’s something that they can’t shake. Many also had to ask, what compelled R. Kelly to do these things that many are assuming or believing? What is causing the matter of this to occur so many times before? Was this done to him when he was younger growing up in Chicago? As a matter of fact, when he was younger according to a previously recorded footage in the special, he was sexually approached. By one of his sisters! He said it! And he also said that it was a common thing in his family. So what do we have here is a long mental health problem. A Psychological Traumatic Problem. A problem being messed up in the community that has been aware for a long time. Especially in the black families!

This sort of reminds me of a old Chris Rock joke; no pun intended. About not leaving the kids with Uncle Johnny. He summarized about those molesting Uncles that many need to watchout for. This probably was about 2004, during his “Never Scared” segment. It may seemed funny in all, but in reality, as everyone knows, it’s the truth!

So why I’m posting about trauma here on the spot? Many of us probably encountered Trauma in various ways. Families, the workplaces, organizations, the Church, and many many different groups and cliques that we associate with EVERYDAY! Even memories being tormented or attacked of ANY KIND, even embarrassed. No matter the feeling or angle it’s all related. So again, Trauma IS NOT NEW!!!!!

And even this has nothing to do with R. Kelly alleged Sex Scandals with the young girls (now adults) you have 800,000 workers in the U.S. Government that can’t get paid due to the crappy stuff about 45’s Wall. They can’t feed their families, getting the bills paid, and any other necessity that folks need everyday. And oh, even the U.S. Coast Guard under the Department of Homeland Security! Talk about TRAUMA! This crap of this so-called president taking away paychecks for a useless wall is just that: USELESS! And this is called Making America Great Again?! For all you 45 Trump Supporters about this, are you happy about this?! And don’t even front.

So yes, this is how 2019 got started, where the ending of 2018 was left undone: devolving the ability to suck out the soul of the middle class. And I know that the new House members are in place. We got a fight on our hands now which is NOT familiar! And as far as R. Kelly is concerned, already he’s feeling the heat of all this scandalous checkered past of the accusers and also recently, Sony has cut ties with him since the #SurvivingRKelly special aired on Cable TV. And about the Spotify rating that got R. Kelly’s music on rotation, I’m scratching my head on that one. Really I am. (Spoiler Alert, there will be a first Scratching my Head of the year)

If these things are not being called out or being mentioned, I’m just saying. The backdoor has been left WIDE OPEN and many folks just come in like it’s nothing. Time to fix it and shut it down!

Happy New Year.

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So here we are yet again.

Happy New Year!

Welcome to the blog story that is traditional. Let’s review of what I said last year with a twist:

Like Sgt. Hulka used to say in the movie Stripes: “before we proceed any further, we gotta get something straight.”

I’m going to be taking this blog to new heights. It’s not just going to be the same old song and dance. Nope, that is going to be one and done. It’s going to more than just one blog story. No matter if you are in America or in freaking India, be ready. This blog thing will one day, get real. If I got to get my Periscope, or own video thing on here to help my stories, well: that’s what I have to do one day. What does all this mean? It means that I have to get better with the idea of blogging with the issues and concerns. I have to. It’s not just that thing that needs to be done, it must be done to improve. To inspire and yes, to get to the point of view that I need to display.

Yes, folks will walk tall, shoulders back, chin up, conscious up to the 10th level, and of course, this is an idea that would be beneficial. I thought about destroying this blog and ending a 10+ year streak, all because of other concerns of boredom or that same story. But wait…..this could be a benefit to help and inspire. While many might think that one story from a blog is all there is, think again!

“Stephen’s Spot” is not just about one blog story. Or one picture. Or one anything. It can be revolutionary, inspirational, conscious, fun, life experienced, or just plain normal. It’s not a one dance show. It’s one in the million that can be experienced if many take the time to read more than one. Now, I know many are just now discovering the blog based on what I have written back in 2014 or whatever. But if you (yes you) the reader actually like what I write here, in a sense of right now, thank you.

Knowingly I can’t control what others might read, but by me writing more, and thinking more, it will be fully objectionable for me to carry on. I’m in the 40-year-old plus age bracket, and yes this age bracket will indeed test my theory and summarize.

So guess what: you want Stephen’s Spot? I’ll give you Stephen’s Spot! This is no same old song and dance. Nope, not here!

So for now: let’s start my New Year’s Tradition of Stephen’s Spot that doesn’t need a repeat: What do I want to see and not want to see in 2019! 19 things by the way.

It’s GO TIME!

First Five I want to see in THAT YEAR OF 2019:

Employment/Health & Wellness/Politics/Voting

1) It’s time to work, folks. If this is the year that you will get that real job, the time is now! No more wasting time by waiting on others. It won’t work. We need to have a “Career Awareness Month”. We need to have better job fairs, career expos, have a “seasonal vet” career fair for the mature folks. Not that watered down stuff that many are getting. Even if you still have that degree in the display, that many will pass up. We have to do EXTRA better.

2) If you got to get yourself checked, do it. You know where the doctors are. As well as the dentists, eye examination folks and more. Matter of fact some of them might be near you right now. And while we’re at it, we need to for real get educated about the issues of health. I hear say, “you need to do this or that”. or “you need a flu shot.” BEFORE ANY THAT HAPPENS: ASK QUESTIONS! Forget what you saw on Facebook, know that real stuff first! Really stop and ask definite questions!

3) 2019 also means that the Congress will take over with some new #45 laws being placed unfairly. If any of the new members screw up, get on their case! Don’t just complain on social media, complain to the So-and-sos! Write letters or emails with proper sentences! You can do that, you know. Oh, and if you approve of the work that some or many are doing to help this country and mainly in your districts, show some love! Volunteer or work on their staff, help in politics on their behalf. Be an Able Body Person to carry that out!

4) You should know that 2019 is a “mini” voting year? Oh, you didn’t know this? Pay attention! It’s not the Presidential election, but maybe some of your County Judges or Superintendents will up be running on the ballot. Do better!

5) Speaking of the voting thing, this would be a good time to get your voter registration checked and/or updated to get ready for the 2019-20 election years. I want to see this happen even more. Forget waiting until 2020! It’s best to do it NOW!

Next Five I don’t want to see:
Church/African-Americans/Credit Checks/Not Voting

6) Like last year, and the year before that and previous years: I don’t want to see NO ONE complaining about the lack of this or that in the church. If you don’t have a certain something going in your church, then make something happen! Keep at it! What did I say after my father’s passing in 2017: Be empowered, and Stay in the fight!

7) And like many many years ago: I don’t want to see black folks putting other black folks down for stupid pathetic reasons! No matter what happens we must continue to look in the mirror and raise up. Either for Jobs, Education (past or present) contributions, clubs/organizations etc. And that goes for anyone else. It doesn’t matter what you got with you. Either way, NO EXCUSES!

8) Never EVER OVERLOOK THIS: Black Queens: you say you LOVE us Black Kings right? DO YOU?! Here is a “whenever you get a chance” challenge that you might not think. Cater to us for ONE DAY at a restaurant, or maybe give us a day that we might enjoy. Think it over! Many of you got Brothers, Fathers, Uncles, Husbands, Boyfriends, Cousins, Neighbors, and many other male influences that you probably know that need that appreciation! Even Black Kings whom you overlook a lot, never thought about, or being Single and no relationships. You guys go all out for your thing and we’re in the seats. Why not us?

9) I HOPE TO GOD, I don’t want to see credit checks on black folks no more. Matter of fact, not on anyone anywhere with credit checks!

10) I don’t want to see those who didn’t vote to gloat. Guess what: Elections have Consequences. Period!

Five More things I want to see:

Alumni Associations/Results Doing Actual Work and Milestones/ Black Church Groups/Black Community/Fraternities and Sororities

11) I want to see more of us ALUMNI (YOUNG AND OLD) to reinvest in our Alumni Groups. Not just for the class reunions and everyone also shows up broke, mad, left out and uninformed. If you get pissed about not being informed about a class reunion or gathering, DO NOT GET MAD AT THE ALUMNI COMMITTEE! You need to be backing up your Alumni Contacts from your classmates, anyway. And if your Alumni Organizations messes up, get on their case!

12) I want to see the results of us “doing the work”. Not just the partial results of patting on the back and say “nice work”. But also what did it took to get the results needed. And if your employee is celebrating a milestone of service (10, 20, etc), give him or her the due of respect. It’s the right thing to do. Or even if no one gives you a pin of service: give yourself one!

13) I want us “non-scared and scared grown folks in the Black Church Groups” to talk to our youth. Seriously talk to them. Some of them need us to come to them. I don’t care if they are in the schools shooting basketballs or at the community centers or in church playing Chess or Madden. Or double dutching, or even learning a praise dance. Even tutoring and READING BOOKS! Let’s learn to #HashtagAndTalk to our young folks. Male members of the church: get the young men involved in these groups! Women, you know what it is.

14) I want to see more black folks in the communities who think there is nothing there to do, start something! Stop complaining! Stop moaning! Get up and get out and make the stuff happen! Such as Health stuff, job applications, resumes, networking, organizing a business venture. Able Body folks, if you’re still standing outside of a Walgreens or a Gas Station asking for money, and if you can still move around, get inside that building and ask for an application! Why is that so hard?

15) Like last year and year ago, here is a thought: I want to see ALL fraternities, and ALL sororities to “recruit and meet up” with seasoned vets that can help out. Especially those of the black fraternities and sororities. All of the Divine 9 folks: From the Alphas to the Iotas and from the AKA’s to the Sigma Gamma Rho’s: Have a day in which YOU need to go out to the seasoned vets of those who are 40-ish and up that want to join up to support the groups you represent. And also, don’t be so VERY judgmental about those who are at that 40’s range. The best place to find us: either at our church events, alumni group meetings, etc. And this goes for the American Legion Family, Masons, Elks, Eastern Stars, and etc. WE SEE YOU! You need to re-introduce yourselves!

Final four: I want not to see and want to see.
Black Lives Matter/Volunteerism/Grown After 18/If it doesn’t work…..

16) Of all the things I don’t want to see: enough of the blame game on Black Lives Matter that seemed violent or racist. For all you Blue Lives Matter or copying off the Black Lives Matter Movement, you will suck. Instead of hating on Black Lives Matter at least go to a meeting or hear from those who lost a brother, or sister or a parent that was black. Take notes, Blue Lives Matter. And don’t front!
MASSIVE NEW YEAR’S CALLOUT: And also white folks: enough calling the cops on black folks doing CIVILIZED stuff like campaigns, jobs, barbecues, community projects, volunteering or even waiting on a client, going into their apartment, swimming, selling lemonade, or to be SEATED AT A RESTAURANT OR AT STARBUCKS! Be advised and WARNED; if you work at a job, you will be fired for these stupid acts! And it takes a SMARTPHONE with video to get you TERMINATED!

17) Now, this probably might work in this 2019: Get grown in your own work and volunteerism. We know what we need to do, and what to do this year. So why not get involved? And the time is right now! Didn’t I say it’s time to work?

18) This is for the grown folks 18 and up: HANDLE your grown business! After all, we supposed to be grown after 18, right?

19) If any of the plans that don’t work, This should be seen and heard by EVERYONE: If there are things that might be difficult, stressful, unhealthy, not financially, and many others, Leave it alone! Find a Plan B, or what you know best and stick to that! Keywords: PLAN B!

Happy New Year!!


Everyone knows how this goes yet again. And it’s really simple. No need to link or google or even #Hashtag. Today, many around the country and in the household or other areas, we Americans will be celebrating that holiday of food called Thanksgiving. From the Parades to the NFL Games, Dog Shows, or other new traditional ideas that will boost the food day. And yes, there will be us going out to the clubs and shaking off the pounds to get loose for Christmas. Or staying home for the house parties.

And yes, there will be constant reminders of the horrors that our Native American brothers and sisters will not participate in this Thanksgiving Day due to the killing of their ancestors outside of a church on a Sunday morning many moons ago. Henceforth, The National Day of Mourning. We know this. 

But this holiday, yes does have the two words of Be Thankful for the things and ideas we already have. So here in its 11th Anniversary tradition, here is another traditional Stephen’s Spot Thanksgiving Blog of “Be Thankful”. Break out the tablets, Smartphones, PC’s or laptops. Start reading!

If you have a GOOD PAYING job that is good for you and it pays well, be thankful.

If you don’t have a job and still looking and STILL not quitting, be thankful!

If you have good insurance, either health, auto, home or dental STILL be thankful.

If you have a good car or truck that gets you to work every day, and still runs well with or without repair be thankful.

If you FINALLY have a good doctor or you still don’t have one, but still want to get that monkey (and constant NAGGING) off your back, STILL be thankful about improving your health. And STILL trying. Take your time!

Now I need to say this: If you found out that you have a chronic illness like Diabetes, and you had a devastating moment of asking why it happened and didn’t have the words. But also you had conversations and online postings about those who have it already and knows the feelings of the battles, and you learn from them and they can inspire you to be better and get with the program of what they know, and still believe that it’s possible that you control diabetes and not let it get the best of you. In the month of National Diabetes Awareness Month: BE THANKFUL that you have a support system that can back you up. I’m learning that since February 20th this year. And personally, if you read my blog story about me being a now Type 2 Diabetic, I thank you. 

If you have a cool dentist and he or she is good and professional, be thankful.

Like any year, if you have lost any loved one this year or years past, and still feel down that the space is empty or the chair is empty, and you want to fill it up with a new generation of family members that want to pull ahead, even close friends, we must try to be thankful to carry on. It’s hard, but we must. I still miss my father, and like last year, my Thanksgiving will be different without him.

If you had folks praying for you all year for all the things you’ve been experienced no matter good or bad, be thankful that there are folks that know, and are in your corner.

If you are expecting a raise in 2019 and will be getting it, be thankful!

Do you still love your gifts and talents that are unappreciated? And still, do them all the time? Be thankful!

If you still got your parents and/or relatives as your back up, be thankful that they still care.

If you had a sibling in the freaking hospital more than once, who is being taken care of and heard good news about coming home, and I know this AGAIN: BE THANKFUL!

If your Mother had a minor surgery done to remove kidney stones, and blood infections, and still be able to eat or move around then some: BE THANKFUL!

Got good neighbors that know you no matter how long? Be thankful.

Met any new neighbors lately? Be thankful.

Moved to a different city recently that you feel is best? Be thankful.

Moved back to a city that is best? Be Thankful.

Got a good plan to get that next step in your career, or a different career, and a mindset? Be thankful.

If you encountered a project or program that really SUCKED MAJOR BALLS and you tried your best, and you had a bad review to feel discouraged in all, but you also realized that there are other things you can do, still be thankful that you can still other things that make you stronger! To hell with the things that don’t work. Stay with the things that can work.

For all of my church folks: if you want your Church to succeed despite those want it to fail due to jealousy, BE THANKFUL that you are willing to fight!

If your birthday or anniversary is coming up or it already happened, be thankful!

If you are STILL very introverted and darn proud of it, and not ashamed to tell about it or embrace it, be thankful!

Single and not in a relationship? Be thankful.

Married with or without kids? Be thankful.

Single and no kids? Be thankful.

Single with kids? Be Thankful.

Divorced? Be thankful.

You still have a church home that you stay and willing to have your kids to grow IN THE CHURCH? Be thankful.

If you have been given a side gig, and love it to be paid with that cash money or checks, no matter what it is, be thankful.

Got a good pet or know a pet that knows you well? Be thankful.

If you STILL give back to your community, your Alumni, your Church, your Scholarship Committees, your Fraternity, your Sorority, your Unions or other groups that have been treating you good all this time, be thankful!

If you have served in your community as an Election Inspector (like me) for 12 years or more and still work, BE THANKFUL!

Wisconsin: If you have voted in this Election and if your favorite actually WON, BE THANKFUL!

If you STILL appreciate the value of your former teachers or coaches, or former principals, of anyone that knew your value of education, be thankful.

If you can’t wait to eat the meal that gives you life, be thankful you can still eat the grub.

Still avoiding fake news? Be thankful. They suck.

If you read the old blogs that I can’t control the reading, but still want to read what I want to say regardless from my black point of view, be thankful! Not just for me, but for you.

If you STILL got stuff in your house that you want to give away, be thankful. Somebody will take it.

Still fighting Racism, White Supremacy, Sexism, and others? – Be Thankful.

Got a good business handy? And it’s good for you to make that money like Uber or Lyft or It Works? Hey, be thankful!

If you switch your career to a new company in the past year or will go to a new company, be thankful!

Own a business? Got your own time schedule? Invested in a product or material? Be thankful.

If you got many reachable sources to give, or to provide, or to share, or to support, and it’s really catching on, you better be thankful!

If you are planning to vote in 2019 and 2020, be thankful! Get your ballots ready.

If you are looking forward to another holiday weekend of fun, be thankful.

If you are NOT shopping on Black Friday, but willing to spend Black Friday outdoors in the woods or parks, Be Thankful! It’s a release to avoid a violent backlash.

If you are not shopping on Black Friday, but willing to spend your cash at a local business, or on Cyber Monday, be thankful.

If you are donating to your favorite charity on Giving Tuesday, Be thankful!

If you can’t wait to deck your halls for Christmas or Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa, AFTER Thanksgiving (some of you did it ahead of time) Be Thankful.

If you criticized Donald Trump for his “horrible so-far job” as President and his tweets, REALLY BE THANKFUL!

If you are breathing right now normally: be thankful.

If you were removed from a company that had you started in the game, then a rift in Management occurred, but went to another company that is good so far, BE THANKFUL!

If many in the black community have black pride PLUS Melanin Responsibility to uplift our black people without sarcasm and forced stuff, BE THANKFUL!

Now I have to say this again: If you kneeled while supported the protest of inhumane acts of people of getting brutalized by the police (as in the NFL Players) and support the idea of waving the flag: your thankfulness is valid because even though many of you supported a kneeling movement in a Colin Kaepernick way. NOTE: It’s not about the Flag or against the military or veterans. It’s about the ongoing concern of black folks getting the wrong treatments of social injustice!

If you are walking tall real good, be thankful.

If you are expecting a really good breakthrough, BE THANKFUL!

If you condemn any racist act on the internet, social media, at your job, or in the house, or in the neighborhood, or any act of disrespect, forced patriotism, and you had to write letters of complaints to a certain company, STILL be always thankful to get your voice heard! Put the pressure on them on not coming back!

If you are upgrading your house to be better, be thankful!

If you got a plan to take a vacation, be thankful.

If you still got your old game systems on a Throwback Thursday and they still work, be thankful!

If you still listen to your old school joints on your radio, or maybe some new school material, be thankful.

NOTE: For my readers that had to go through hell with the wildfires in California, and the Hurricanes out east, and still feeling hopeless. I want you all to understand that it’s a hard Thanksgiving Day for you as we know. But in a sense, you should be thankful that you can rebuild. And BE EXTRA THANKFUL that yet, you are still living! And be EXTRA EXTRA EXTRA THANKFUL that a breakthrough is coming for the better!

If you are a conscious-minded person, a defensive-minded person that you know is best, for your own opinions and viewpoints without any harm or hurtful feelings towards humanity, be thankful!

As of today: I’m thankful that Stephen’s Spot has now reached 1,000 posts! If you read all or some of a few blog posts within the past decade in all: BE THANKFUL! And I thank you for reading! More to come. 

For my Sagittarius readers: guess what? Our season is back TODAY on Thanksgiving Day! Are we thankful, now? (SAGS RULE!)

And finally: If I missed anything that many have thought about, and it’s good: we all should be and forever so thankful that we must march on. Like they say at the black funerals: It’s already been said. It’s already done.

Happy Thanksgiving!

#BeThankful


It’s been noted, that mother’s day is coming. Actually, it’s already here. So shout out to all the moms in the building, even if you have to play a mother to be a mother. But like many everyday values in stuff, dealing with politics and absent minded opinions meaning absolutely nothing, I’m scratching my head again.

On Facebook as we know, there will be those who will complain about not enough love for Dad’s in all. So will we be surprised after Mother’s Day 2018 is long gone?

Admit it America: has Childish Gambino told the truth in his video?

With Graduation Season College style is now in full swing, why are some black students getting “ushered” off the stage after a dance?

So I guess college students, excuse me Black College Students can’t sleep in college areas where folks can study? And get the treatment from the campus police?

Why there are white folks calling the police all because black folks barbecuing?!

It seems that Kanye West….oh what was that statement again? Nevermind.

How many liked Cobra Kai on Youtube Red? Admit it.

I will ask this: you’re in Church. And it’s Mother’s Day. Why is this day will be higher than Father’s Day?

Will Tyler Perry’s Haves and The Have Nots for this season will be the best banger ever?

Thursday Nights on TV will be not a Scandalous as in the past. Am I not the only one that misses Scandal?

This needs to be asked, why is BET and OWN allowing some graphic language? Oh, it’s cable. Nevermind.

Will the Nintendo Switch get a deal with EA sports for Madden?

Oh, when is Bayonetta 3 coming out for the Nintendo Switch?

I am seriously thinking of cutting my DirecTV Serivce for Streamline TV like DirecTV Now. Good deal or nah?

Can AT&T Prepaid get a deal about 32GB Android Cell Phones? Not just Apple!

Attention United Methodists: we are 50! But what are doing everyday for our churches to grow and be an example for others to do things the right way?

OK, I need ask this: with all this going on about Bill Cosby going to jail, about the queludes and sexual advances, and all his accolades being stripped, did Camille Cosby ACTUALLY knew this?

Heard that ZTE is facing serious trouble. What will that do for those who want to pay for a prepaid phone and save serious money?

So the 45 land crew had spouses to coming out the White House in regards to the military. Um….I have to ask this question but where were the black folks?!

Oh, yes. Every Republican fan and representative is out in fear and full force in a way to promote the good side of the red squad. Um……What good things?!!

Which song is the best Mother’s Day song we know? Is it “Mama” By Boyz II Men, “Always on the Run” By Lenny Kravitz, “Dear Mama” By 2Pac. Or others?

How many of us who don’t have a mother to go to, became that mother to go to?

For all the mothers whom are no longer with us, how will we honor their memory everyday?

For you up and coming mothers, what is your path right now?

Big questions, many will critized fathers living foul, but what about the mothers living foul? Not saying all mother’s here!

They say the Big Mamas are gone. Who are the new Big Mamas?

Show of hands: who did not know about Mr. T rapping in the 80’s about Mothers?

 

I see many Baseball Players will be wearing Pink for Mother’s Day. Yes, does Susan Komen count today? Like every October?

Milwaukee will finally get a Black Festival! In the month of August. What will this festival promote to the masses that miss African World Festival?

I see that the City of Milwaukee will get it’s Second streetcar this month. And this is only a test, right?

Wisconsin NEEDS a Trikke Shop, a Trikke Store, a Trikke Specialist, and a Trikke Advisor. What I’m talking about is a Trikke, a three wheeled Carving Body Powered Vehicle. I currently own one since the early 2000’s and I’ve used it to turn heads. It’s a Trikke 8. The Original one. Can Wisconsin get on board with this like the Segways?

 

 

What about it, Wisconsin?

 

 

And the last thing on the menu: And this is for Milwaukee; Did you really enjoyed the 3rd Annual MPS Alumni Reunion?

 

Real side note: Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers!

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers who read my blog.

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers who are changing lives.

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers who are staying in the fight!

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers whom are missed and remembered! ALL DAY EVERYDAY!

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers who are claiming their time.

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers who aren’t always living foul.

To the non-Mothers that take care of folks on the fly, even though that this day is not really for you but you act upon on being a mother in general!

Lastly, even though it’s Mother’s Day, don’t single out the Fathers. Please don’t. Father’s Matter!  And I lost my father last year. He mattered. Wait for it in June for the Father’s Day Edition of Scratching my Head.

But today: Happy Mother’s Day!

 

 

 

 

 

 


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I’m going to go to a specific topic about a health matter that we know very well. And it’s a health matter that many of us don’t want to hear, nor talk about. A health matter that many of us know through family and friends and associated know. The topic I’m bringing up is diabetes. We’ve heard of it, right? We should.

Picture this: you visit your new doctor for the first time in a while. You kept hearing about getting a physical, check up or what ever you call it. You go to a previous eye doctor of any kind to get your eyes checked in all, and then they check your blood pressure. It’s elevated. And you have to get checked up. So you exercised for about a month and then you go to a new medical physician. After your physical is done and getting your blood checked, you think it’s all good right? Not exactly.

This past Tuesday, after I was working for the Election Commission in Milwaukee, I went home to hear about my test results from my physician. Everything else was good, except one thing: Glucose. My glucose numbers was high like a kite of 237 and my A1C was like in the nines; which is kind of bad. And it was ruled that I contracted or diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. The shock and disbelief of my nurse telling me this was not good. According to them, they tracked my blood from 3 months ago. And it was high all this time. Didn’t know it. After the shocking news, there was one other source of info I had to turn to, my mother. And she knows about Diabetes because she was diagnosed over 20+ years ago. We went over the results online to get an idea about what happened and why it happened. She broke it down like, in addition to foods and drinks some of them can spike up you blood sugar. Even stress can cause diabetes. February 24th was the one year anniversary since my father’s passing, in which I know now the result of his death was coronary vascular disease. But what lead to that, was Diabetes and he was 69 years old. We dealt with death for like most of 2017 and it was not a easy experience losing my father so soon. Some of my relatives living and deceased had gotten diabetes earlier and two of my 1st cousins had amputations on their legs and feet cut off.

I have heard the horror stories particularity from those who were diagnosed and they were not good stories.

Now you probably asking like, REALLY?! How did this happen?! You’re 41 years old and African American and supposed to be healthy in all. Guess what? Like any other diseases, disorders or health issues, they can strike at ANY AGE. ANY RACE. ANY GENDER. This like bullets has no eyes to look. You can meet a dude or a chick 10 years younger than me and they have diabetes. No matter how fat or skinny they are. My former physician once told me that you can get diabetes when you get older. You know what, the doctor was right, and that quote was about 6 years ago when I was in my 30’s.

Now I’m not a happy camper that I’m the latest causality of the “Diabetic Universe”. Really I’m not. But right now, I don’t know how I’m going to adjust my life doing this blog with my stories reaching you. No I’m not quitting. This blog is not going away as you think.

Why I am telling this story? Why share this story that I know that it’s going to change my lifestyle, goals, objectives, etc. I’m reaching out to those that do WordPress or other bloggers that know what I’m going through right now. I’m new to this club that I didn’t want to join and now since I’m in this club, I’m trapped in this prison. Can’t get out. I know it’s horrifying and dead scary. But I had this quote years ago while getting checked up was something like: “Check your blood or die!” You know what, I’m bring that back. Even in this era that we think we feel good, but we really REALLY have to be sure. What I’ve learned then and now is that you can’t overlook anything with your health. You really can’t. We all have agendas and ideas to maintain, but to be real, our health comes first to the agendas. We know we want to live longer and see our future folks grow up and have kids of their own. Some of us may not be so lucky. No matter if you are a woman and yes men we must know!

I heard and read from lots of folks whom have this Diabetes to live with day after day, year after year, month after month in all that it’s not going to define them. I want to be clear that I’m not going to let Type 2 Diabetes NOT STOP ME! Oh it has slowed me down, made me humble and made me ask why. But there is another question to say the next day after seeing your doctor, “Now what?” Also, what’s next? And also where do we go from here?

We know and hear that Diabetes is not “a go away thing forever”. Yes you can manage it to a point to get it under control. But it has to stay managed! Stay managed like eating the right foods. Stay managed like getting enough exercise everyday. Stay managed like checking your blood pressure, weight, and checking up with your physician on point. And yes stay managed by taking the meds prescribed. It’s about taking back control of your health and you. Time to get moving.

Even though that it’s been a tough week of mixed emotions so far, I know that it won’t be easy to get through. If this is a lesson to be learned in all, then I’m still learning. This not just a black community health concern, this is an everyone health concern. And yes black folks, this hits us the most! Had to say that in Black History Month, but this rings true in every month. And to point out, I just watched Anthony Anderson’s Video Clip on the Get Real About Diabetes Facebook Page. Here is the thing: Anthony was diagnosed with the Type 2 about 16 years ago. And like many others, he had to ask why? He also mentioned about his father’s passing and other health related matters that hindered him. This is the same Anthony Anderson that was on Transformers, Kangaroo Jack, Barbershop, King’s Ransom, and currently, Black-ish. He also had an episode that revealed that Dre (Anthony’s Character) was diagnosed with Diabetes.

I know that this was not the news to share. But I had to bust this out because there are those whom had this for a while can understand of what I’m going through.

And yes, I’ll get the resources via the American Diabetes Association, and any other Diabetes Support Group that I can reach out to, especially to those whom are African-American knows the deal dealing with this everyday. And I’m going to start where I know: my own backyard of Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

I know it won’t be easy, but I’ll try something for once to say that I know now what I must do. This was a real set back, but it’s not a total set back of my goals and dreams in life!


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Everyone knows how this goes. And it’s real simple. No need to link or google or even #Hashtag. Today, many around the country and in household or other areas, we Americans will be celebrating that holiday of food called Thanksgiving. From the Parades, to the NFL Games or other new traditional ideas that will boost the food day. And yes, there will be us going out to the clubs and shaking off the pounds to get loose for Christmas.

And yes, there will be constant reminders of the horrors that our Native American brothers and sisters will not participate in this Thanksgiving Day due to the killing of their ancestors outside of a church on a Sunday morning many moons ago. Henceforth, The National Day of Mourning. 

But this holiday, yes does have the two words of Be Thankful of the things and ideas we already have. So here in it’s almost decade tradition, here is another traditional Stephen’s Spot Thanksgiving Blog of “Be  Thankful”. Break out the tablets, Smartphones, PC’s or laptops. Start reading!

If you have a job that is good for you, be thankful.

If you don’t have a job and still looking and not giving up, be thankful!

If you have good insurance, be thankful.

If you have a good car or truck that gets you to work everyday, be thankful.

If you have an idea or a lead to get a good doctor, but don’t have one, but still want to get that monkey off your back, STILL be thankful about improving your health.

If you have a cool dentist, be thankful.

If you have voted this year despite of the viewpoints of this hard election year, be thankful.

If you have lost loved ones this year, and still feel down that the space is empty or the chair is empty, and you want to fill it up with a new generation of family members that want to pull ahead, be thankful.

If you had folks praying for you for all the things you’ve been experienced no matter good or bad, be thankful that there are folks that know, and are in your corner.

If you are expecting a raise in 2017 and will be getting it, be thankful!

Love your gifts and talents that are unappreciated? And still do them? Be thankful!

If you still got your parents as your back up,  be thankful that they still care.

If you have a sibling in the freaking hospital, who is being taken care of, and you go there EVERYDAY, and hearing good news about coming home real soon, and I know this: BE THANKFUL!

Got good neighbors that know you? Be thankful.

Got a good plan to get that next step in your career, or a different career, and a mindset? Be thankful.

Expecting a milestone birthday? And willing to kick off a new fresh slate? Or had experienced it already? Be thankful.

Expecting a milestone anniversary? Or already did it? Be thankful.

If you are very introverted, and darn proud of it, and not ashamed to tell about it, be thankful!

Single and not in a relationship?  Be thankful.

Married with or without kids? Be thankful.

Single and no kids? Be thankful.

Divorced?  Be thankful.

Still have a church home that you stay and willing to have your kids to grow IN THE CHURCH? Be thankful.

If you have been given a side gig, and love it to be paid with that cash money or checks, be thankful.

Got a good pet? Be thankful.

If you give back to your community, your Alumni, your Church, your Scholarship Committees, your Fraternity, your Sorority, your Unions or other groups that have been treating you good all this time, be thankful!

If you have served in your community as a Election Inspector (like me)  for 10 years or more and still work, BE THANKFUL!

If you have celebrated YOUR 10th anniversary as a Alum of your College or University(like me) , and still want to give back for another 10 years, BE THANKFUL.

If you appreciate the value of your former teachers or coaches, or former principals, of anyone that knew your value of education, be thankful.

If you can’t wait to eat to your meal that gives you life, be thankful.

If you read my old blogs that I can’t control of the reading, but still want to read what I want to say regardless from my black point of view, be thankful! Not just for me, but for you.

If you got stuff in your house that you want to give away, be thankful.

Got a good business? And it’s good for you to make that money like Uber or Lyft or It Works? Hey, be thankful!

If you switched your career to a new company in the past year, or will go to a new company, be thankful!

If you got many reachable sources to give,  or to provide, or to share, and it’s really catching on,  you better be thankful!

If you are looking forward to another holiday weekend of fun, be thankful.

If you are NOT shopping on Black Friday, but willing to spend Black Friday outdoors in the woods or parks, Be Thankful!

If you are not shopping on Black Friday, but willing to spend your cash at a local business, be thankful.

If you can’t wait to deck your halls for Christmas or Hanukah, or Kwanzaa, Be  Thankful.

If you written a thank you note to the Obamas for their 8 years of service to this country, BE THANKFUL!

If you feel that my blogs are reaching to those who want to know something, and it’s been working, but want me go harder than this, tell me: should I be thankful for this talent like over 10 years?

If you are breathing right now normally: be thankful.

If you are walking tall real good, be thankful.

If you condemn any racist act on the internet, social media, at your job, or in the house, or in the neighborhood, or any act of disrespect, and you had to write letters of complaints to a certain company, STILL be thankful!

If you bought appliances for your house to use for another 10 years, be thankful!

If you got a plan to take a vacation, be thankful.

If you still got your old game systems on a Throwback Thursday, be thankful!

If you still listen to your old school joints on your radio, or maybe some new school material, be thankful.

If you are a conscious-minded person, a defensive-minded person that you know is best, for your own opinions, be thankful!

For my Sagittarian readers: guess what? It’s our season. Are we thankful? (SAGS RULE!)

And finally: If I missed anything that many have thought about, and it’s good: we all should be and forever so thankful that we must march on. Like they say at the black funerals: It’s already been said.

Happy Thanksgiving!

#BeThankful

“Be thankful for all you got!” – Natalie Cole (1950-2015)

 

 

 

 


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Oh you know I was about to comment this.

And yes, It’s Women’s History Month. That I really know. Salute to the female species..

Yes, this is the next issue of Ebony Magazine and it’s not the stories of the featured issue upcoming. But the cover story is featured with the four women all BBW and having a “golden chance” to display their craft. Yes, there have positives, and yes many have voted for displeasure of them, and yes, the health concerns of diabetes, heart disease, high cholesterol, and many other health related factors that are very common in men and women. Especially if you’re Black!

Now why I’m putting this on here? It’s it to influence the next girl to go big? No. Technically, it’s really about confidence. Confidence in you as being you. Yeah, I know that I don’t have to like it. But let me ask this? Why are many looking at this pic and hating? They know who they are. Just look at those darn posts of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and others that lit a fuse of hate. If those fear heavyset BBW whom might be offended, then you shouldn’t look! What is so hard about it? Oh is the movement thing on the BLACK Magazine. Duh!!!!

Frankly, this is not new. Folks been making fun of Plus sizers for years. And in between its like ribbing, making jokes that hurts, talks about their mamma’s being fat and so on. Don’t tell me this! OK so they got it going on now. Being able to step out and actually doing something about it without any fear. The ribbers, well they are sitting at house, blasting their liberties and not making a dime!

Look, another thing, is freedom of expression. Whoops, did I say that? Is that in the American By-laws. If those of a Jasmine Sullivan, Gabi Gregg(aka GabiFresh), or any other person whom wants to do this thing, in this era to be free of fat shaming, or wanting to be free of anti-shaming anything, then I’m not going to stop them or anyone. Look, also. Nobody stopped Ashley Graham. Just saying.

Oh, and to those whom asked about, where are the whites, asians, or non-black female displayed, you do realize that Ebony Magazine is a Black Publication? HELLO! I said it’s a BLACK Publiciation? Many are not hearing this. Especially if you had to sound out on Facebook like a fool on Saturday night. Yes the magazine has had other folks of the non-black universe in it. But with this issue and the women whom are chosen to be displayed on paper, then guess what, it’s an issue and a movement that needs to be talked about. So, in translation: we know you care. But….. It’s not ALL ABOUT YOU! Get it straight!

Maybe the women in the magazine are Big, or Fat, or whatever. Are they taking care of their physique? Are they watching their weight? How often do they get checked by their doctors? Some might say, when do you see your doctors?! Or Dietians that rate your eats and drinks you consume everyday? Or there are those who “look out for their own people” but really do they really mean that? I know folks who say that at times might be true, but there are those just to make noise and don’t care.

So guess what, this blog, nor this issue is not to hate on the BBW’s. Also, I’ve read about skinny folks and husky folks could have genetic health concerns! So everybody got a health problem! And maybe with health solutions! What’s the haps?

Sidenote: There is beauty within.

 

 

 


Some of you readers don’t know, but I adapted to a new hobby for every spring and summer season. It’s a Trikke. It is a three wheeled machine that some might call a scooter, but it is really a  body powered machine that you move from one side to another. Actually you lean from one side to another. As complicated as is, there are videos that will show you how to do it and more. The best surfaces to ride the Trikke is really on smooth surfaces such as basketball courts, bike paths in the park, alleys, sidewalks, parking lots (watch for cars), and any other smooth surface that are open.

Now I’m going to share something here. I have been riding this three wheeled machine for about 8 years. And I live in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I’ve ridden this thing in my residential neighborhood and also now at Lakeshore State Park near Lake Michigan. Keep in mind that this is in Milwaukee. And yes, I got the compliments of the nice machine in all when I go out. This three wheeled machine has been a life changer not only for fun but also for fitness. You will sweat and have fun without even knowing about exercising. Yes it’s fun machine that if you are 8 years old or up to being a senior citizen. And I should point out it does have a weight requirement, as long it’s under 250lbs. As far as price is concerned, it depends on the make of the model. When the Trikke 8 came out for example, it was ranged around $200.00. But don’t quote me on that! And for space storage, the Trikke easily folds down and can be useful for traveling and etc.

Now I have been on the website, and already folks like President Jimmy Carter, and other famous names have caught on to the Trikke thing. Another question is, can this Trikke thing work for me? Well if it could work for guys like myself, it could work for anyone. But, I have to stress this: sometimes you have to find out for yourself than through other people. It’s like going to see a movie. Yes, I have to say that. But, anyway, the Trikke is a good product. Challenging, but good. Plus, I have been reading about these Trikke Academies and I kept wondering, why not in Wisconsin? So if there are any Trikke Riders in the U.S. or some in the Midwest, please consider the State of Wisconsin as a potential stop for a Trikke Academy. I would also consider the Greater Milwaukee Area as a stop. Or maybe Madison, Eau Claire, and maybe Green Bay – you know home of the Packers.

Here are some videos from the site that can be useful