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Here is the second part of the blog, “Losing Dad.”

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For a few days, the pain of losing my father was surreal. It was emotional, hard, and also didn’t felt right. But before all that began, I got my mother to come back to my sister’s house. She first wanted to water her plants, and we both went to bed after enduring a hard situation. But before I went to bed, I had to post the hardest Facebook post of losing my father. It was about 3:30am in the morning and then I went to sleep. When I woke up the next couple of hours, I got dressed to take my mother back to St. Luke’s Hospital to be with my sister. Then later on I went back to the north side to set up an appointment with the funeral home for the start of my father’s service. I also went to my parents house in starting to clean up my Father’s entertainment room to take out the rug that he heavily bleed on. And also I clean up the room that he had his last remaining days before dying so soon.

I went up stairs where I had my fun where later on he took over the room after 2000. Nothing but memories growing up. I also had the thought of taking his CD’s that he listened to while working or going to work just to try to ease some of the pain.

My dad was more of a blues fan. Listening to his music collection of John Lee Hooker, Magic Slim, and the Legendary Mavis Staples to name a few. Speaking of that, before he died, we were talking about a song that he was reminded of Mississippi and the south. The name of the song was called, “I’ll be rested”, in which I had a thought of listening myself during Black History Month. But that was then. I began to grab more of his mixtapes on CD’s that he often listen to while working in the house or his days at the Post Office. Thinking about also making a playlist in honor of him when Father’s Day comes as well as his August 18th Birthday.

Plus at the house I had to find some necessary pictures of him and us on our vacations, events, earlier times before he was married, school, the military, and others. Collectively, we had a collection of pics gallore! Later on in the week, I’ve done more cleaning, plus gathering more material that would be beneficial for the Funeral arrangements that was upcoming. Ranging from marriage certificates, to forms of military honorary discharge papers. And in my mind, this whole thing was just surreal gathering the stuff was just that. Surreal.

In church on Sunday after my Dad’s passing, my pastor preached a sermon called “Don’t Be Afraid.” In which he used me as an example of what I went through on the night when I discovered Dad dead in his Entertainment Room. It paled in comparison of what I talked about previously about that even though the situation was hard to swallow, I had to do something in general. In maintaining control of the ship to maintain order. In a spiritual effect, I think that Dad would approve it very well. Plus I highlighted the things that I summarized:

He was a member of my church for 47 years. – In December of 1969, he married my mother. Which also made him a member of the church since.

He wasn’t an “every Sunday” church member, but he was a member.

He was around for my graduations, my sister’s graduations, church events, even the Veterans Day Celebrations at my church.

Always known to fix things around the house, home modelings, woodworkings and others.

He also matched my church salary to make sure I was financially well. He knew I wasn’t making enough as a Church Secretary, but he wanted to help out. And he did. Plus with that, he supported my sister’s needs as well.

And as far as a lessons learned. They spoke for itself. Even the hard lessons!  Plus I thanked the church for the support.

February 27th was the meeting at the Williamson Funeral Home, which is black owned. And plus in history it was mostly that they buried more of my folks. Even my father talked about the owner all the time. We were at the office getting the service for Dad prepared. We chose the date Friday, March 10th 2017 as the day with a visitation date of March 9th. The site of the burial we chose was the Southern Wisconsin Veterans Memorial Cemetery in Union Grove. Plus, I have an Aunt that is buried out there since 1997. Plus two of my church members are buried and entombed at the cemetery.

Along the way we had to get the additional information of his insurance to cover the costs of the funeral including picking out his casket. And for the Committal portion of the funeral, my mother would receive the folded flag, and there was a mention of the 21 Gun Salute that was added as part of the service.

After the service was set up, I immediately went to my Facebook Page to inform my followers, phones convos, text messages and others on Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram and Google plus to give the official rundown of my father’s funeral. The dates, places and etc. And likewise, more condolences poured in.

In the remaining days, I also got my Dad’s dark blue suit jacket and light gray trousers. The very same set he wore to my uncle’s funeral in early September. And there was additional shopping to conquer to get shirts, ties, socks and for me, I had to purchase a dark blue jacket, a light gray pants to have an idea (via my mother) to dress like Dad for the funeral.

The notices in the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel and the Williamson Funeral Home Website were set to view on the Wednesday before the visitation. And the booklets had to be printed for the funeral as well. Thanks to Great Impressions here in Milwaukee, they were excellent later on.

Part three of “Losing Dad” will continue with the Heartbreaking visitation, the funeral, and the Committal Service.


I gotta say this. I know it’s Veterans Day, and by the way, shout out to the Vets that served. The real ones that really served. As always, your services to this nation is always blessed and appreciated. Many of us who say Thank you for your service is not saying it out of spite. It’s really out of respect. Even if we don’t agree with the rules of war or killing people. Or making that decision. BUT: I thank you regardless out of respect.

OK now on to the matter at hand:
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This creepy red cup that some or many of the Christians are mad at. Really Christians?!!! You’re mad at a red cup. This one? Seriously?!!! From one Christian to another might be having their feelings hurt OVER A RED CUP from Starbucks, quit your whiny attitudes and shut up! What is up with the real deal with these red cups? Are you mad because YOUR designs didn’t get the cut? Come on y’all it’s just a freaking RED CUP! If you are so offended by a RED CUP, then why don’t you get a job and ACTUALLY design a cup that fits you?!

Matter of fact, why didn’t you whom are offended write to Starbucks personally and ask them to design a Red Cup differently? Oh, I’m sorry it’s too late. It’s been a bad day. Your bills are due. WOW! Your kids are about to ask those why questions. The colleges of Missouri and now Howard University are being targeted for Racism against black students, some Veterans are Homeless, families need food and clothing, you got fired, your credit score is not up to par for a job in discriminatory manner,  your givings are way behind, and you’re mad at a RED CUP! Oh give me a break!

I’ll give those something to cry about. Literally!

For some of you Christians who hate this, you’re giving Christians like me a bad rap with this so-called hypocritical mindset of a drinking RED CUP! I bought a Red Flask from Starbucks years ago, and the flask had the (RED) symbol on it in support of World Aids Day in December. There was no fallout from that! Why? It was for a cause. This RED CUP that many of you are mad at, means nothing to be mad at!

Get it together folks. And mean to ask again: what is the real argument? Oh that’s right, the War On Christmas. The war on Jesus. The war on that time of the year when we have to tell the good news of John 3:16. The war on the greatest holiday of all time! And the war when either Santa, or our parents, or us, have to buy gifts for the kids and family. Yes, I think that is sinking in!


I’m going to bust out some questions that really have my head scratching. Some fun, mostly serious. Usually I do this around the end of the year, but this is a warm up in which in December, next month you will see a different turn out.

  • I know it just ended, but why do folks on FB (in a negative sense) spelled Halloween like this: “Holloween”?
  • Has Sheriff David Clarke really put himself over his head about Police Brutality being over? And being scared of black media like Roland Martin on TVOne?
  • Do we really need Paul Ryan to head the Speaker of the House?
  • Anyone from your past STILL has a crush on you and don’t know it?
  • We know (mostly in Milwaukee) Sheriff David Clarke and is almost related conservative commentary. So why the phrase, “Black Lies Matter?”
  • Speaking of which, do people really think that Black Lives Matter is out to kill cops?
  • Take a wild guess: Still, despite of the suggestion of Louis Farrakhan from the “Justice or Else” Rally, are you really going to do Christmas shopping and tell your kids that “I picked out those gifts, instead of Santa Claus?”
  • Veteran’s Day is coming up. Whose lighting the houses green?
  • Will us Sagittarians be really ready after the Scorpios give up the Zodiac Baton? And rule the 9th house as any Sag should?
  • Why did the Christmas stuff came out SO EARLY in the stores? Right after Halloween?
  • For those who like to sabotage High School Class Reunions, or any Reunion: WHAT IS YOUR BEEF?!!!!!
  • For all those who say “We can’t find anyone in the black community” in relation to jobs, where and what are you digging?
  • For the Church Haters out there: Are you really believing that ALL CHURCH MEMBERS AND BISHOPS, MINISTERS, are all the same team to take your money and be pimpish?
  • For all you BGLO/Divine 9’rs out there, DO YOU REALLY invite Iota Phi Theta to your functions, or you just leave them off your plans to attend? Just don’t say, “well we attempt to contact everybody to come…….” TRY HARDER! I mean it with love.
  • Will you, the average voter are assuming that after President Obama leaves office in 2017, still believe that the “nightmare” will be over?
  • Will the Green Bay Packers win the Superbowl, WITHOUT Jordy Nelson and prove to have 14 NFL Straps?
  • For all you Conscious folks out there, always posting those memes on Facebook, and Instagram. Are you really serious about the things you say and believe, or what?
  • Why do folks on Facebook have to post a “photoshop” photo of President Obama and Michelle in a Pimp and Prostitute look? Are they really this dumb?
  • For those who are looking for a man, (especially Single Black Women looking for love) why at times do you have to say all men ain’t you know what? And having this bitter generalization attitude? Not every man you generalize is not your father who left you at 13 or earlier!
  • Not to pick on the Italians, but why was a young gymnast from your country had to say something about painting her skin dark to win gym matches? REALLY?!!!
  • Here is a question: black folks I need to ask, when facing all the problems in the cities, northern cities per say: Why move to Atlanta? Does the ATL have problems like oh……….Milwaukee? Or any other city that deals with high unemployment, racism,black violence,  discrimination against Blacks, etc. No matter where you go, there are problems EVERYWHERE! Especially in states where Slavery started. Just saying.
  • Can those who have Drones flying around, actually get jobs with big bucks?
  • Can Rachel Dolazal and Raven-Symone be really traded?
  • Speaking of Halloween, most religious folks think it’s the devil’s holiday. Do they realize that has connections to All Saint’s Day, that is a religious occasion? And oh, by the way, not to knock on anything or anyone, the devil does not take a holiday. Even if it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas, your baby’s birthday, or 9/11. I’M JUST SAYING!!! Be on watch!
  • And the last question: why are our kids whom are 7 to 11 years old, in Milwaukee are getting robbed for these Hoverboards? And the thing is they probably robbed them for some drug money. Or because they are poor for not having food, and didn’t mean to do it. Think about it.

There will be more to come. Just wait for it toward the end of the year.


For quite sometime, I had to sit and reflect on certain things about those who attend church and those who don’t. Especially those who grew up in church and now have a conscious decision to condemn it to be a freethinker. Yes I’m talking about them as much as those in church who might not do the Christian thing of giving and feeding. That being said, I’m going to bust out a exclusive of my own experience that if you are a church attendee in all that acts a fool at times, and a non/former church attendee that talks smack of deliverance. Guess what? It’s time that I put the gauntlet on the line where it lies: in the darn middle!

And to add: I’m going hard on this.

Now you may have seen various comments and things on Facebook or Instagram, the memes, or any other blog, or radio broadcast about those who think that the church is full of the hypocrites that go in all of the Sermon, and then afterwards they go to the Red Lobster for their sunday grub and go home. Then they don’t do the things they say they going to discuss about during the week. Does that sound familiar? Does it? Oh, and they pour in the money so the pastor can have that big mansion like house in the hills with the Jaguar in the front! Hmmmmmm……..Reallly? Yes I know i’m not the only one that had to comment this. But however, not all pastors don’t have big mansion like houses or Jags that the members pour in for Apportionments! And where is this coming from? Ask those who formerly went to church and really have that conscious Free-Thinking mindset. Or ask those who are not a member of a church who happens to go online to social media and literally BLAST the churches or the mindset of a church because it’s on the northside, or whatever. And that can come from a “Activist” that goes from protest to another!

Are they speaking the truth on this? Partially, they are half-right. Not totally right.

Now let me asking these questions.

  • Are these folks who condemn the churches straight to hell on Social Media think they have all the answers?
  • Do they have the answers to believe that being a free thinker is all what it matters?
  • Do they honestly beehove all the actions that they went though thinking that it wouldn’t be a future threat?
  • Do they TOTALLY HONESTLY AGREE that all churches should be on the duty in and outside the table in the community?
  • Do they honestly believe that they are hurting those who are giving their DEAD LEVEL BEST everytime they go into the church for service? And then later on to do more to volunteer and give back?
  • Do they STRONGLY FEEL that those go to church are coming out with a hypocritical agenda against those who don’t? Educated, Financially Stable, Attendance, Time and Talents, or any other option or goal that the goers strive EVERY TIME they learn from?
  • Do they actually care?
  • Why do they care?
  • And the personal favorite, in regarding the love of God, where is the fear? That’s right I said it!

I want the non-church goers and former church goers to answer these questions themselves. Go ahead share it. Don’t answer them to me! Don’t comment to me! And frankly those who do go, just sit back and be silent for a bit.

Now for you Church Attendees. Regardless if you are Christian, Jew, Lutheran, Muslim, Catholic, or any other religious connection. Let me ask these questions:

  • Are we really doing the things that we set out to do?
  • Are we Ashamed of the summaries of Christ? Or Allah?
  • Do we really go out to eat AFTER we hear the Sermon?
  • Do we do the work that our denomination or non denominations set out for us to do?
  • Do we actually set out and tell the good news?
  • Do we summarize our lessons learned throughout the week?
  • Have we really watched our attitudes and avoid being “hypocrites” with our actions and what we say?
  • Before the service starts, do we greet and or smile?
  • When the Pastor says “go out into the world and spread the good news”, do we?
  • When we have our days of giving food or clothing, are we following OUR rules? Making sure WE don’t get in trouble?
  • Is it well in our souls in trying to serve? (A nod to the United Methodist Faithful)
  • In discussions of being Godly, are we conscious at the same time? (I.E. Black Conscious, Socially Conscious)

This is why I’m busting this out. For all those who know it all either in or out of church, I got news for you: There is always something else!  It does not matter what church or denomination you belong too. And this goes for those who went let’s say:went  catholic or COGIC for about 5 years and assumed that they know everything and leave the church because of the worst things like: “Oh the bible is full of BS!”  Have you ACTUALLY read the bible? Have you have ACTUALLY READ the scriptures in your parents house or library or your grandparents house? Have you actually had your grandmother or grandfather,whether they living or deceased asked YOU (I’m talking to the know it alls per say) what did it meant? See, we don’t know SQUAT!  Man……some of us are just like immature kids. We don’t know squat, period! It’s all about tip toeing around the pond and not actually going into the pond!  And having conspiracy theories that many don’t understand. And on a side note, I will say that affects Church goers also.

My late Grandfather. One of my late Grandfather asked one of my family members about the bible when he was living, and he responded, “what do you know about it?” This is coming from him who was an Eremitus of his Church Sunday School for many years. That’s right, look up the word Eremitus to see what it is and you’ll know why it’s missing.

I have indicated before that I’m a 4th Generation United Methodist Church member. I was confirmed in the church in 1990 at the age of 13. That’s 25 years for so many of you keeping count. And yes, like a few others, I had and have ministers in my family that expand 2 or 3 generations. From my Great-Grandmother’s generation to Generation X. And yes, I had and experienced the good in folks, bad in folks and those who was just there for a short stint and moved on to greener pastures. And there are those who’ve been in the game through generations are sticking around want to make something happen. I’m sure many of you reading this who do dedicate services to your churches of any kind, that when you hear about all the negativity, you keep going with your craft to discipleship. No matter what anyone tells you. Even if they are church goers or not! Also be careful of the work that it arises.

And for those who are the former church goers and non-church goers who keeps talking about the hypocrites, what the pastor, bishops and apostles are doing in the sanctuaries along with the members: CUT SOME OF THE MEMBERS YOU KNOW SOME SLACK!!!!!! There are members in churches that are trying their dead level best to rise up and do something for their organizations. All of you really need to get your heads examined. Stop being so judgemental. And don’t generalize THE WHOLE DANG CHURCH! That is one of the main concerns of this whole conversation. Folks seem to generalize the whole group all the time. Just like when a black dude or a black woman per say sees their son or daughter making crimes and it blows up on TV or Facebook, guess what is going to happen:

Other communities will be like, “Oh, the Black Community this. Oh, the Black Community that……….”  And don’t even scream out #BlackLivesMatter!

The Black Community knows very well about being generalized as a whole, when it involves just a few knuckleheads. Where as when you have some church members or some church community members applying for a jet, or a new car: the whole village or city will be on their throats. Tell me I’m not lying.

There was a song that came out way before Generation X blew up, but our Baby Boomer counterparts know it: “Everybody Plays A Fool.” It’s not just church folks. It’s not just non-church folks. It’s EVERYBODY!  Whether you attend church or not, we need to watch it. We need to be accountable of what we do, say, think, or have opinionated viewpoints. Yes, that includes me.

Just recently, I was listening to one of my Black Milwaukee Radio Stations. Actually, it’s WNOV. It’s the only black radio station in Milwaukee. And a interesting question came up about Christians after church. The caller, assumed is Christian and a Female, that phoned in during the mid morning hours asked about why Christians don’t always spread the good news. The caller emphasised about going to the church, hearing the Pastor’s Sermons and after all of that is said and done, they go out to dinner and go home for the week. So after hearing that, (which is not new) my question is why was the caller asking the host about the church going procedures? And second, what is SHE DOING? Not judging, but asking. What is she doing to help to spread the good news? What is she doing with examples of her plight of her craft to ensure that good news? Not to comment further but the questions she asked the host, she should be asking herself those questions. No offense to her, her church, her ministry in all. But I would ask myself those questions instead going on the radio publically. Why you ask? It’s been asked over and over again. So why is this new?  And plus not everyone is the same as the female caller! Everyone’s God Given Gifts are different. That I’ll agree with.

  • Do I do the christian thing by helping out others or supporting others to the best of my ability? Yes.
  • Do I act as a hypocrite or charlatan for others? No. I was raised way better than that!
  • Do I give and receive as any other Christian? Yes.
  • Do I love God’s Grace and well as fearing God’s outcome? Yes.
  • Am I perfect as a Christian? NO!
  • Do I strive to be the best I can in and out of church everyday? Yes.
  • Do I force my Christian hand down the throat of those who moan and groan? As in those who don’t want to hear about the God Stuff? No.
  • Do I find ways to improve my church home as well as the community alike? YES I  DO!
  • Have I been in a situation in church where I was a victim of someone’s hypocritical mindset? Yes I have.
  • Have I been criticized by those who are haters in and out of the church? Yes.
  • Do I honor the work of the church with my gifts and talents and share that with those on the regular level? Yes.
  • Do I run around the sanctuary being filled with the Holy Ghost like those MegaChurches or any other church that does this? NO!!!!!
  • Do I tithe or have I tithed or attempted to tithe? Yes. And I know where the money goes.
  • Have I ever heard the words Hell and Eternal Damnation and ran out of the Sanctuary? No. And by the way, if those say “D*mn” in a church sermon, should realize that it came from the bible. It’s not all cursing related!
  • Have I dressed up in Jeans as well as a Suit and Tie? Of course. There is a rule that come as you are.

All of those questions and answers, I have experienced thus far. But like many others there is so much work to be done. AND YET I STILL GO!  Plus the things I described here, even though that my church experience have been shaky, mean, and also normal, I still go.

Do we say these things where our troops go to battle, or our officers on patrol, or any other high ranking official go and perform their duties? Even though we talk smack about them but still give them high  praise? We need to work on that.

I said before that there are hypocrites everywhere. Don’t fool yourselves! It’s not just church! Right now at work, you might have a hypocritical boss or an employee that constantly berates you like hell and you want to strike him or her.  But you still might continue to work or quit the job to go to another. Or start your own business.

You might had run ins with a Police Officer, a Deputy Sheriff, or maybe a well known official that seems nice, but is a hypocrite.

You might have hypocritical Football Fans in bars and at your house. And you root for the same team!

What about the activists or those whom are so conscious (UH-OH) who march around like kings and folks eat it up like clockwork? BUT…….might have hypocritical mindsets?

You even might have family members or group members, or Fraternity/Sorority Members that are like this. And wonder why you stopped talking or chatting or texting. Then they show up at a funeral having this solace to cover up the hypocrite behavior. HELLO!

I had ran into job related folks in Milwaukee whom were hypocrites because of my education I got from UW-Stout by not going on campus. I know the organizations and names very well. As well as those other companies that refused to hire black folks in the Greater Milwaukee Area based on income, experience, training, education and zipcodes. Tell me I’m lying Milwaukee! And I have never forgotten that. Even when I got my degree nearly 10 year ago on Stout’s campus through the commencement.

So I say this: we all need to look in the d*mn mirror. And really go out with a purpose and objective! The “Come to Jesus Meeting” is up and the seats need to be filled.


To the residents of Charleston, South Carolina and to the members of Emanuel AME Church, sympathies and prayers are being sent! This incident has not only shocked your community, but also, any community in America that identifies with the incident shares your pain, your concern, your deaths and also your deep understanding of the struggle of African-Americans seeking refuge without the use of violence in this country!

In 1963, four little girls in Alabama were killed under racial implications of being black. Just yesterday, and in 2015, 8 members of the Emmanuel AME Church and it’s Pastor, Clementa Pinckney, a long time State Senator Democrat of South Carolina, and Pastor of the AME Church, were killed during a prayer meeting at the historic black church. The pastor also pushed for an idea to put body cameras on police officers in his native state. And mostly to them, the pastor wasn’t just this pastor of a church, he was a figure that many looked to, influence, recognized, and also related to the issues that many know all too well.

Now there are those who are cynical, those who have those historic hatred about churches, about the money, about Sister So and So with the “Fashion Show” dress on, or Brother Usher always messing with the members in the back for more money in the collection plate, or there are those who feel about Jesus (whom was black) or the ongoing hypocritical minded of them seeing this attitude, and having the youth not participate in certain activities that the older church members seemed disliked, put that away for a minute. Tone it down! Or this case put it on pause. Those things that I just described, can also happen in your workplaces, malls, your favorite club to get your dance on, a Juneteenth Day festival, a family reunion, a class reunion, or any other place or activity that can have folks being all so drone minded of being one-sided about one thing that many don’t really know, or not enough knowledge. Even if it’s your neighborhood, or on that thing called Facebook! So it’s just not just the church only! I think we need to check ourselves that anything or anywhere, there might be and are hypocritical minded folks who are just being hypocritical about anything that does not pertain to them! Let’s be clear and be honest: there are hypocritical folks everywhere and just don’t assume it’s always the church! I don’t care how conscious us citizens can be. Or even how smart we are. But when an unexpected hate crime onslaught on nine innocent folks who were just praying during a bible study, or for whatever they were praying for, what does that mean? And also that talk about Gun Control will likely continue!

And I’m speaking as a METHODIST MEMBER. Even though I’m United Methodist, but the Methodism connections of AME, CME and Free Methodist, needs to be on one accord of who we are and what we should be about! 

This is not the time who say or comment, “Oh those hypocrite christians got what they deserved to be killed!” We don’t know them! We don’t know what they did in the workplace, their old schools, their activities in the community, their upbringings, or whatever. We don’t know them! And we don’t know if they weren’t hypocritical. But we can understand the pain that they suffered under a bullet in that mass shooting. So the shooter Dylann Roof who should be in college getting a job, goes into the bible meeting, with guns loaded says that “you raped our women and taking over our country. You have to go.” Then the shooting started. My question is what was this mixed up minded 21 year old white dude thinking about? That he had to say that he had to do it. Do it for what? White Supremacy?!

By the way, if any Facebook user has this dude as a friend, its better to unfriend him now.

Note to the descendant traits of White Supremacy, even though you didn’t start the fire, you could have a way to use a way to put it out! 

From my understanding about the Emanuel AME Church, it’s not just a church building. PAY ATTENTION!

  • This has historical meaning and connections in confronting the horrors of slavery and racism. It was burned down, and rebuilt after 1865. One of the founders, Denmark Vesey led a slavery revolt in 1822.
  • It is the third oldest AME church in the world.
  • It was significant with the Underground Railroad.
  • The congregation had underground services at the time between 1834 and 1865 during the time when black congregations were outlawed.
  • Famous black figures of Martin Luther King, Corretta Scott King, Roy Watkins, and Booker T. Washington have either preached, lead marches, or any other civil right activity in part of the life of the church. Even those who wanted to run for president, also stopped by the church.

Like any other black church in America, this also was under targets of violence that made the list. A list that many black churches does not want to be on. And it wasn’t just on black churches, it was an attack on the black community. And most recently, a Baptist Church in Memphis Tennessee, was interrupted by gunfire, during choir rehearsal. I tell you, it’s senseless and crazy at it seems!

Now I know many have seen the prayer circles that were shown on TV and the internet. I know many had to bust out the “What are they Praying for?” speeches. Don’t go in on that. This is not the time! Believe me, it’s not the time!

This weekend is Juneteenth Day, and as well as Father’s Day it’s going to be sad for the families. It’s going to be sad not to see Pastor Clementa Pinckney with his family, and not seeing his daughters coming to him to say “Happy Father’s Day, Daddy!”

At the end of the day, after all of this is over, like Milwaukee Assistant Pastor (and Milwaukee Marshall Alum) Dana World-Patterson said at my church’s Love Is event: “You see something, say something and do something!” Enough of the so-called no snitching rules. No matter what era it happens to be.

Send sympathy to the victims of these names as recorded by Yahoo:

• Cynthia Hurd, 54, a manager with the Charleston County Public Library system.
• Ethel Lance, 70,
a retiree who recently worked as a church janitor
• Rev. Clementa Pinckney, 41,
a South Carolina state senator and pastor at the church
• Susie Jackson, 87,
a longtime member of the church
• Depayne Middleton Doctor, 49,
former Charleston County community development director
• Sharonda Coleman-Singleton,
a church pastor, speech therapist and a high school girls’ track coach
• Myra Thompson, 59,
a pastor at the church
• Rev. Daniel Simmons, Sr., 74,
another pastor at the church
• Tywanza Sanders, 26,
a 2014 graduate of Allen University, where Pinckney was also an alum

And in addition: Emanuel AME Church has a Paypal Account in which you can donate. Yeah I know that those don’t like money with churches. But at a time like this, they could use something additional financial offering out of respect.

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Oh, the irony in the Month of march. Thus far it’s about March Madness, St. Patrick’s Day, and yes spring is coming. However, in the same weekend of Friday the 13th, the punishment of the suspended SAE Fraternity Members continued as well a dumb fight in a Brooklyn McDonalds. Plus, why Pastor Creflo Dollar should NOT get a jet for the church as he thinks. Oh technically, the madness is here and it’s ironic.

First, as many know thus far, the SAE Fraternity Members of the Oklahoma Universtiy are officially gone. All because one of the members who was chanting the proverbial, “there will never be a n*gger in SAE” song. But there are those comment that the students shouldn’t be taken out of the school despite of the word being scripted over, and over again. What that means is, there are those who some what use the N-Word need to be punished alright. But in a sense of relation to blacks in all, and the brotherhood bond, why couldn’t some of the fraternities invest in the Black Community (mainly the white Frats) and actually donate their time and effort to work in the Black Community! Plus the idea of all of having them to take African-American History, and almost every single course of BLACK HISTORY as possible. Oh yeah, they need to! The firestorm of this banishment should serve notice that when you use words or things to degrade others being a put down, then maybe that portion needs to be clarified, talked about, and summarized as much as anything else. Now, when the song was sung, and the SAE fraternity members were just saying it like it was enjoyment, they probably don’t know who or what prompted them to sing that. They say they were drunk (OH REALLY?!!) We’re blaming alcohol on this? Stop the freaking pain! It doesn’t matter if they sung the song with Jim Beam or Grey Goose, they sung it! Period. And they are paying for it. Now word ialso that the Alumni of the SAE Fraternity have gone out to get the lawyer who was once hired by Timothy McVeigh after he blew up the Federal Building in 1995. Just a thought, the Oklahoma City Bombing’s 20th Anniversary is next month. Scary. What will the Fraternity accomplish in terms of one or a few knuckleheads chanting a song about lynching black folks and not inviting them in club to establish that “brotherhood” that they have been preaching about since 1856? And will this be the ultra matter of resolve? We’ll see. Just keep the finger on the pulse.

Second: Fighting in the BK.

I know when the letters of B & K come up, it’s Burger King. But not really, it’s really about Brooklyn and the 5 girls fighting against one at their local McDonalds. We’ve all seen it. 5 girls against one. What is this, a handicap match? Now everyone in the darn restaurant is looking at the fight and yes there well those who had to get it on the camera phones in all. But if that’s the case why didn’t no one, (AND I MEAN NO ONE) stepped up and actually broke up the fight? Are we that blood thirsty for real? I mean you got 5 girls here, beating up this one chick and had her head stomped! Really! MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL! NONE. Were there any responsible adults in McDonalds that stopped by and made sure that no one should have gotten hurt Now one the real, all five of them have been pressed charges and similar fashion, and one of them, Aniah Ferguson is a gang member. She stabbed her Brother, made threats to her grandmother, and have a list of crimes and again: only 16 years old!!!!!!  WHY IS SHE STILL OUT AND GOING BACK IN AND GOING BACK OUT? Oh lord have mercy! These young ladies may not have much of a future all because of stomping and gang tackling this one teen in a McDonalds restaurant after school! And don’t say, or hashtag #BLACKLIVESMATTER on this because it don’t matter at this point! IT DOES NOT! Neither does the stupid “Stop Snitching” Rule. Throw it out the window. Aniah Ferguson better need to know and be saved by Jesus NOW before it’s too late! I hate to get churchy, but I’m sorry. This young lady (and I mean YOUNG LADY) needs to get help somehow, someway NOW!

Back in my day, it was one on one after some folks want to trigger thoughts in my head. We fought! But now, with this new mentality, everybody wants to jump in to get famous. To the parents of those girls who had to get their way, can you please call the boarding schools and get your daughters disciplined? I mean dang. Or, be like when you send your sons off to Boot Camp, the girls need to sent off to boot camp also! Yeah I said it. If you can send the boys off to boot camp after their run ins with the law, then that must happen for the girls too. I know it’s March and it’s Women’s History Month. But I’m sorry, that doesn’t matter at this point. What matters the most, is discipline! And unfortunately, tax payers like me and others in America will be fitting the bill for it!

And the third dance card: Jet planes and pastors.

I was going to say something on Facebook about Creflo Dollar, and this idea of his congregation forking over 60 Million Dollars. But no, I’ll do it here. Well, let me say this as a giving, volunteering, gift talented, 4th Generation, Black Man that is part of the United Methodist Church: NO!!!!! Absolutely NOT! Ok, a Jet. Really? If anyone in that church or MegaChurch deserves a Jet, it should be the members themselves period. Or on a similar fashion, here is a part where I play devil’s advocate. If Creflo Dollar the Pastor, wanted to raise 60 Million Dollars for his congregation to invest in something, it should be as follows. Oh, and non-church going folks, you’ll like this from a church going person:

1) Scholarships for the college bound students.

2) A new business to start up that is beneficial to the chruch community, or maybe NEW JOBS!!!!!

3) Homeless Shelters or Homeless Apartments.

4) Transportation purposes to get the church members to and from church in a faster fashion.

5) Assist a neighborhood project.

6) Investments in stock and bonds.

And….I can go further and further.

Since then, the Pastor had removed the website that promoted the Jet. And many like before, there were critics whom had to say that “this is why I don’t go to church and its all about the money”. WELL I hate to say that EVERY BUSINESS you see and work with, party with on Saturday late nights and donate to are about money too! Don’t front! Many of you probably spiked up the St. Patrick’s Day parties at the bars and clubs per say and the folks still reaking up the finances. Well, if it took a lot of interested folks on a day where St. Patrick allegedly banished reptiles from Ireland, with the bars packed with fans, green and beer, how many of you probably pack a church on Sunday Morning by just showing up?! Don’t worry I’ll wait!

Speaking of St. Patrick’s Day, look for that in my next “A Blog To” series. And guess what, it’s aimed at a group of folks that need to listen up: African-Americans. Or the African-Americans whom don’t acknowledge the tamarite of Black History Month, but rather go green on March 17. Oh yes,  I WILL go in!


Here is a bonus. Since the year is coming down, and already I know that the new year is up in different parts of the world, I will share my best tweets from Twitter in which kept me going in 2012. Oh, by the way, I’m doing it more in 2013!

January

  • NewYearsDayTweetjack: Happy 2012!!!! Year of the Dragon!#newyearsday #milwaukee #wisconsin
  • NewYearsDayTweetJack: The new year is like a blank check. What are you going to do with it? #2012 #newyearsday  #milwaukee #wisconsin
  • Four words to remember in #2012: get out and vote! #milwaukee wisconsin  #newyearsday
  • 2012TweetJack: Every chinese dragon born person should have a “dragon party” this year. After all, it is the year of the dragon.
  • The church is supposed to be a charitble, sacrificial, organization. Real talk from the pastor. #rethinkchurch #umc #milwaukee #wi#2012
  • Flynn to Finley! Touchdown, #packers! 6 TD’s! Happy New Year!
  • Show of hands: Who’s going to see Redtails this weekend? With no bootlegging necessary?
  • ChineseNYTweetJack: Dragons stand up! Enough said.
  • Shout out to MasterLock! #SOTU2012 #Milwaukee

February

  • Whoever set up those computer graphics and lights, really has a good paying job. Just saying.
  • #BlackHistoryMonth TweetJack: “God gave me a voice to sing with, and when you have that, what other gimmick is there?” – Whitney Houston
  • “How long, not long. Justice will come.” – sermon quote.#rethinkchurch #unitedmethodistchurch #milwaukee #wisconsin#blackhistorymonth2012
  • What the?!!!!……#grammys2012
  • #BlackHistoryMonth TweetJack: “Nobody likes to be picked on. Nobody.” – Whitney Houston
  • Last time I saw BeBe and CeCe Winans in person, it was in 2009, but it was at the Tom Joyner Family Reunion. #WhitneyHouston
  • “Faith always moves towards it’s goals.” That’s real talk. Eulogy quote. #WhitneyHouston
  • My comment towards the end of the service, No words. NONE.#WhitneyHouston
  • As I sit to listen to more of Whitney Houston’s joints, I got a good complement today. Talk about appreciation. It’s a family thing 🙂
  • #blackhistorymonth tweetjack: 10 years ago, Halle and Denzel won their #Oscars in the same night. Now a decade later for Octavia Spencer.

March

  • They say that death happens in 3’s: We know Don Cornelius and Whitney Houston, and now Davy Jones? Man, the saints are checking out!
  • “If his eye is on the sparrow, why am I worried?” Sermon quote.#rethinkchurch #unitedmethodistchurch #milwaukee #wisconsin
  • #TweetJack: Just realized that when I was playing Whitney Houston’s song, “Love Will Save The Day”, one thought to mind: Bobbi Kristina.
  • TweetJack: “If you don’t know, now you know….. ” Still real after 15 years listening to the Notorious B.I.G.
  • Looking at Oprah’s interview with #WhitneyHouston‘s family. How soon is too soon? Sometimes that question needs no comment. Just saying.
  • TweetJack: Looking at 227 now. The one with Run-DMC featured.#classic
  • TweetJack: MC Hammer is now the golden age of 50. Still too legit to quit. I should play those hammer hits again!

April

May

June

July 

August

September

  • Real Talk VP! “Osama Bin Laden is dead and General Motors is alive!” #dnc2012
  • Wow! #thisfallbelongstoball. I like it. #GOBADGERS #B1G #wisconsin#badgers
  • Real talk from Sister Simone: “We care for the 100%” #DNC2012
  • Is somebody DJing at the #DNC? Who ever it is, it’s a good look.Props. #DNC2012
  • This has been a Super Saturday. Hearing and seeing the 44th President was a honor for me and my mother to witness.#obama2012 #Wisconsin
  • “What works in the Real World, is cooperation.” – Bill Clinton#DNC2012
  • “Ask Osama Bin Laden if he was better off than he was 4 years ago.” My comment: #boostershot#DNC2012
  • I am an alum of a community college. Bank on it folks. Got it in 2000. Its a good thing. Go get yours. #dnc2012
  • “I’m no longer just a candidate. I’m the President!” #DNC2012#boostershot
  • TweetJack: Since the news of the WiiU came out, some folks have to go negative about a product that won’t do well. Did they tried it?!
  • “We must be like Eagles. Not chickens!” Sermon quote.#unitedmethodistchurch #milwaukee #wisconsin #rethinkchurch
  • Best line from @BarackObama in #Milwaukee today: “I don’t see victims here today. I see hard-working Wisconsinites.” #obama2012#Wisconsin
  • I said it again: #packers got robbed. What is up with these refs? Time for a background check!
  • Listening to WNOV right now. Plus Dr. Maya Angelou is on. Cool.
  • With all due respect, historically years have had their due. But now, it’s time for something new. Just saying. #wisendebate
  • Tweetjack: It seems that my tweets from the pews every Sunday is good to many but recently raising eyebrows to some. I write these (cont’d)in order to help spread good news from my church’s sermons every Sunday. Why? its not because of technology, but also to enlighten (cont’d) someone or somewhere. So with that, I’m going to keep tweeting from the pews. However, in order to understand a sermon or speech (cont’d)You have to read or hear EVERY WORD! Not bits, or pieces. Know the 5w’s and articulate them in YOUR christian life, everyday! (cont’d)And also use that to be relevant in the church as well as outside of the church. I’m just saying as a church going, tweeting person.(cont’d) So either to agree or disagree, fine. Just my two cents.
  • We have suffered from “Romneyism!” Sermon quote. #rethinkchurch#unitedmethodistchurch #milwaukee #wisconsin

October

November 

  • #milwaukeeslang is trending.
  • Defense WINS Championships! I keep saying and telling that!#Obama2012 #Forward2012 #teamobama #fourmoreyears
  • TAM-MY BALD-WIN!!! *clap, clap, clap clap clap* TAM-MY BALD-WIN!!! *clap clap, clap clap clap* (repeat) Word she won over Tommy Thompson.
  • Look at Melvin Gordon checking in! Touchdown, #Badgers!
  • Looking at the #Milwaukee Holiday Parade. Yeah. Been there. Done that.
  • Not a fan of Detroit or Houston, but this was indeed a NFL Thanksgiving Classic.
  • Tweetjack: So Gangnam Style got over 800,000,000 hits on YouTube, eh? The dance craze continues.

December

  • “Don’t put all your trust in the plan!” Sermon quote.#unitedmethodistchurch #milwaukee #wisconsin #rethinkchurch
  • My #December5th Birthday is here. For the 36th time, another notch is on the belt. All thanks to the almighty for another year! 3-6!!!
  • I know we Americans have the Freedoms and Rights in all. Not hating. What is needed is more responsibility and accountability of what we do!
  • Christmas is about the birth of the light”
  • In between the #Christmas movies and music, #Roots is a plus. No matter what.
  • In the next 24 hours, 2013 is coming and 2012 will be in retirement.

Let me unleash something what I am about to say. Yes, in the continuation of my commentary of the Newtown Tragedy, I am going to go off on a column that I read on Facebook recently. And no, Facebook is not to blame in all of this. This was recently published on the website Deadspin.com in which folks in Alabama weren’t very pleased that the football games on Sunday Night were interrupted when President Obama spoke about the victims who were perished this past Friday.

This was the article, and I edited the words for those who would not be offended, “Take That N****r Off The TV, We Wanna Watch Football!”: Idiots Respond To NBC Pre-Empting Sunday Night Football” Really.  Who in the living hell said this?! It’s not a surprise that there are those who hate the President. But yelling at the screen calling him the N-word while trying to watch football is not going to make things better. I kept saying this, ever SINCE President Obama came into office, oh yes the hate has risen. And for those who still think that Obama is the cause of this recent racism, you and the Ann Coulters of the world are just punks in the same wooden peg. Even though the link has been picked up on the deadspin blog, but the original story goes back to the AL.com newspaper site where some Division II Football Players (in a sense) typed the tweets just to show some hatred on the 44th President all because this tragedy interrupted the Football games. PATHETIC!

Oh, and the hatred of African-Americans still rises.

So there are those who “really think” that the Football games are more important than the children and adults in Newtown Connecticut were shot and killed under the national tragedy? They really think that’s the case? Well you what, I watched football today between the Green Bay Packers vs. the Chicago Bears in their NFL Old School Rivalry Series of 100+ Games. Even those that the Packers won and were crowned the NFC North Division Title (Sorry Chicago Bears it had to be done YET AGAIN, and Brandon Marshall) that game wasn’t just as important of what had happened in Newtown. Other football players like NY Giants’ Victor Cruz expressed his concerns also. Yes, these are pros playing for lots of money, but they also realized that their games aren’t that important than the shootings in a elementary school that killed innocent children.

But to the haters, I have two words: YOU SUCK! – Literally.

If this were a church service on a real tip, your pastors would tell you that Football is not going to get you into heaven! I’ll bet the so-called residents of Alabama who like to express their freedom of speech behind the smartphones or computers are likable heroes. Those “heroes” are just dumb cowards, racists and punks. And I dare say: TRASH! I’ve been saying this since the MyFoxMilwaukee Blog days and I’m saying here: ONCE AGAIN – If you don’t like Obama, don’t talk about him. PERIOD! And if you think that your favorite teams on Sundays are going to save you, you got another thing coming! Aaron Rodgers and many others will play, but will they see you on the operating table? NO! I like looking at the Packers and other stuff too, but that will NEVER get you beyond the heavenly gates! The President himself is a Chicago Bears fan. We know this. But he knows that the Bears will not get him “peace in the valley”. One of my favorite national columnist Roland Martin is die hard Houston Texas fan. I see him on twitter with the Bulls on Parades and his infamous “Touchdown Houston Texans! ” tweets. But the Texans plus his Fraternity Alpha Ph Alpha, will not be heaven bound. Whoever said that racist mess on Twitter must be a joke! And those who probably chimed in on that conversation, are a JOKE also! I’m calling them out of being accountable. Even though you may not like President Obama in general, but he is STILL the President. And even though you or others may not like him, but his remarks of the Newtown tragedies are spot on. Note to the haters by the way.

That right there, is much more common sense than having no common sense. Which America must get back.


2012

By now, everyone is probably is making those new year’s resolutions. Things that have to be done in order to get the year started and completed by the end. But here’s something that needs to be understandable: When people make resolutions of anykind, sometimes people fail at them because they don’t follow through. That’s like saying some one said: I’m going to lose weight, and stop smoking. And months later, the weight goes up and the smoking packs are in the house.  Best advice: If you are going to lose weight, stop smoking, be active looking for work, vote, or go and hook up, just stick to it. – EVERYDAY!

Now I am going to list 12 things that I do and don’t want to see in 2012:

For the do:

  1. I want to see African-Americans more out to find work.  And those actively looking for work, need to seek and help those who can’t find work.  Time to network, black people.
  2. Voting. It’s a right. Get out and Vote, America.
  3. Get involved in activities.  Those in Milwaukee, they say that the city doesn’t have an “Identity”.  Start a new identity that can mean something positive. And have some Dragon Parties. It is the “year of the dragon.”
  4. Go to church! – Really go.
  5. Take part in Education – either go back to school or go to a educational thing to get involved.
  6. Get checked for health reasons and financial reasons. Get out of Debt, Collections, Diabetes, Cancer, etc….

Now: the things I don’t want to see in 2012:

  1. Since this is an election year, I don’t want to hear nor see folks complaining about voting and the results of it.  If you don’t vote, you don’t count. PERIOD!  And don’t be one of the “voters” who like to say, “I just want to see what happens.”  – Not this year!
  2. No more going on Facebook, Google+, or Twitter making statements of deleting folks, or considering famous folks to be dead. In the words of my Father, That is out!     I don’t care if it’s your page. I’m just saying.  Just do the deletions privately. And cut out that fake twitter deaths.  Stupid!
  3. To those who like to troll, stop. Please stop. The trolls don’t have nothing to say except whine and complain and trying to be “famous”.  And by the way, I haven’t commented in a while because I’ve been screening comments on this blog. No more trolling!  Watch what you say and type, WordPress!  And just for record, it’s not denouncing the First Amendment. I embrace it too. But I’m also being responsible.
  4. African-American Women (those in the 70%) and those who are successful businesswomen need stop complaining about having the various degrees of education and no man.  Hey, I get it. But do you hear me complaining about this: “I have a Bachelors, Associates, High School Diploma, involved in activities, working, vote in every election, involved in Alumni Groups in all, and I can’t be down with a chick”. Apparently not.
  5. Our youth and young people need to stop having fun by tearing up malls, festivals, bullying on the internet, and gas stations. Do you hear me, Milwaukee?  It’s time to stand up and let them know that what they are doing negatively, can lead to more crime, drugs, can’t find a job hustling hard, and even death!  And that sagging pants thing has got to go!  I’m sorry. In addition: STOP WEARING PAJAMAS IN PUBLIC!  TACKY!!!!!! I don’t want to see no one’s favorite Tweety Bird PJ’s wearing around Walmart or the Mall!  Fashion police must be in real effect this year.
  6. Grown folks: stop acting like children. I mean there are children watching. Even if it’s debating Pastors, on the road flipping birds, or whatever. Stop the pain!

Yes, I have more reasons, but then again I had to list 12.


I’m going to be PC here today. All this time, I’ve been paying attention to those who I thought were real. Church members, celebrities (ala Kim Kardashian) and many others things that I can think of. First, this is for all the church folks. Those who punch the pews, and listen to the sermons while texting and tweeting with facebooking each time when a sermon arises. And for the record, and I’m making this public, I do tweet in my church services and I do it for a reason: I’m reshaping the thought of communication in the church. Yes, I am apart of the United Methodist Church in the “rethinking the church” ideas. This is one of them. Now to those who oppose this in the sanctuary, maybe you need to give this a try and hating the idea. I don’t care if you’re old school from the 1970’s and trying to carry it out. With all do respect, but times have changed.  And I’m not going to burn in flames on a Sunday morning.

Which leads me to my second point. To the “real” church members those who again pack the pews and give, good work. And to those who don’t pack the pews, and having those back stage politics, one of these days you’re going to have trouble. This shouldn’t matter to any denomination. Anyone can relate. I know what you’re thinking: yes, I’ve been a giving person for alot of years and I worked in my time in for the church. And I’ve been doing it for 20 years! Plus I had to debate the pastor, deacons, and those in charge of why the church is not going up and you’re judging me?!!” Let me say in response that yeah, you’ve done your job for 20 years. And I think part of the debate, was in fact drowning yourself, and drowning the face of the organization. Just because your name is on the roster, doesn’t mean you’re a “real member”. For those of you already know, from your Fraternities, Sororities, Elk Groups, Mason Lodges, etc. You should know that having a name on the roster doesn’t mean jack squat! I’m going there. It’s all about the WORK! It’s all about the contributions, donations, etc. You feel me? Now I’ve been hearing  from the older crowds about how to get the younger age ranges, from 18-35 or up to 40, involved in the church. Well to the older crowds, as the younger kids would say, you better be real! I don’t’ care if you are in your 60’s, or maybe 70’s! With all do respect, you had set the standards, but now it’s a new ball of wax and alot of what you did, may not work for those like me today. Tell that to your groups.  And especially to those who are coming up trying to hustle, or making that money without getting the principle.

Second, Kim Kardashian. When will she learn? 72 days of marriage. Please.  I have family members that have been married since the 1950’s that are still married. And my parents have been together since 1969. What some of these so-called marriages today are lacking is commitment. I hear this from those who are already married. I begin to question is this whole marriage game is shaking down to whatever. Now I got folks close to me that want me to dive in. Note to those when I say this: Not a chance! Some folks in my family once said that if you’re not mature (and the key word is mature) enough to handle a commitment, you do NOT walk that aisle. Was Kim Kardashian mature to Kris Humphries for those 72 days? Was she mature to Reggie Bush? I think the answer was no. I know it.

What I ‘m trying to say is, that if you’re going to be real at something, or someone, just stick to it. Do your job, and I’ll say this as a member of Generation X, quit your whining and save the drama for your mama! Just like the line from Higher Learning when Laurence Fishburne’s character Maurice Phipps kept saying “you have to have a plan”. That is the only way for anyone or anything to survive. And that is what is needed now.  It doesn’t matter what race, creed, class, gender, economic status, looking for work, education, changing jobs, losing weight, how to vote, or whatever. It’s the same thing.