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Men’s Health Month

As many know we are in the month of June. The 6th month for me is I’m looking at 6 more months towards age 43. Hard to believe. It’s also the month of Summer, Juneteenth Day, Father’s Day, the Wear Orange for Gun Violence Awareness, Black Music Month and of course, Pride Month for our LGBT community folks.

On the health tip: Men it’s once again our health awareness month. (AKA Men’s Health Month) Start wearing the blue if you haven’t already. As usual for this I’m here to give you a summary report of my health condition. Going back to January, I went to the Eye Doctor for a Eye Exam. My vision at the time was very well overall good. Except the fact that I might need reading glasses. I know I’m OLD! But other that I didn’t need my blood pressure checked because it wasn’t that necessary like 2018.

In February I went to my medical doctor for a physical exam. The same month of my Father’s passing and yet I just had no choice of course. And when I got to the doctors this time, I was given a sheet of paper that listed all the steps of my exam: from Height/Weight to blood pressures and others. Oh, since I am Type 2 Diabetic now, I had to continue to take the medications like Metformin to maintain the condition. My blood pressure was slightly off due to my earlier exercises but I maintained my status to trying to get my weight down.

In addition to the exercises, my doctor had me to try a Low-Carb diet. In which I have to eat and drink certain foods between 60-75 carbs per breakfast, lunch, and dinner. So far the diet does work, but I have to just maintain as of today. And yes, I still keep a list of blood pressure numbers and check them DAILY! Not once in a blue moon. The Color Doctor still works. As far as my A1C: previously before 2018 ended it was at a 6.0 rating. This time around, it was at a whopping 5.2!!!!!!! Cholesterol was normal under 200, and the only thing was for me work with was: drinking water. That was it. Plus the rock music and energy kicked it up way past 10!

Oh just had a dental examination that took forever with the full mouth examination. But the way I keep my teeth clean though, nothing but normal.

So overall thus far, my health stat has been positive, but the hard part is to keep the maintenance. It happens but I have to know that health is wealth. Even for us men of course.

Now it’s time to talk about Blood Pressures yet again. The reason why I’m bringing this up is because of the passing of the late director, John Singleton. Why him? John Singleton was known for being a great director of movies like “Boyz In the Hood”, “Shaft”, “Higher Learning” and others. Yes he worked his way up, got through school, college, his fraternity of Kappa Alpha Psi, and many other accomplishments of achievements. And oh yes, he had fun doing it. But at the age of 51 years old, John died. And according to the health reports, he had a coma for a couple of days and later on it was High Blood Pressure that was the culprit of John’s death. Why I am saying this here? On Stephen’s Spot you asked? High Blood Pressure is nothing to mess with. Even if you have Diabetes, Heart Murmurs or Diseases, High Cholesterol, or many other health concerns that linger the human body. No matter what age you are! I know most Men don’t even think about this until the unthinkable treatable conditions actually happen. Why do they happen? Long job hours, stress, death/grief, bad food consumption, different way of thinking in a negative sense, etc. Any of that can or could contribute to High Blood Pressure. Sometimes the environment that contributes to the heart concerns lead to High Blood Pressure. For all the men that are wondering: “What is the problem concerning me with High Blood Pressure?” If your fathers, uncles, grandfathers, cousins, great uncles, or many other male figures that died of High Blood Pressure, or suffer from High Blood Pressure and you’ve heard the stories many times in your families or groups, then yes it’s time to get checked out!

Black men or Men in general, we don’t like doctors. I’ll admit it. But when a doctor or nurse checks you out in the office or have a traveling nurse that goes to your hang out, your barbershops, churches, or any other hang out you go to, and if that nurse for any reason checks your blood pressure and if it’s high or elevated, then you have to make some lifestyle healthy choices. You have get checked first. Then follow up with a diet and cardio exercise. Do it at least 30 – 45 minutes per day out of your leisure. If you have a buddy or family member that is going through the motions of exercise, go with him or her! That buddy (he or she) of yours probably knows the pain and suffering but is doing something about it in trying to get healthy. Learn from them! Take notes. STUDY. LISTEN. Surf on line through your Social Media feeds that know the information and ASK QUESTIONS! And also like I said earlier, check your blood pressure EVERYDAY! In the morning! Also, take a break to avoid burnouts! Even they are a health concern.

And according to NBC News in a new health report, the High Blood Pressure readings 130/80 or above is now considered high.

Even though this is for everyone to follow, but this is really for the Men and Men’s Health Month. If us men really want to be around for another 25 or 30 years of health, we need to get on the ball, now. Even if you’re just now going back. I know that were not like the women. The women know the routine and go when it’s convenient every now and then. But we don’t think like them. But if we were to take notes from a male doctor point of view like my eye doctor did me last year, then we should take heed and actually go.

This may suck in all, but HEALTH IS WEALTH, gents! If this had not been in the way, then what are we are teaching our children? Girls we know, but what about our boys? They are watching us!

In addtion with Men’s Health Month of High Blood Pressures, every man must do at least a Health Stat Check on the four categories:

Physical Health – As we know as in physicals in a health check from a Medical Doctor. The usual roundups of Height/Weight/Blood Pressure/Eyes/Throat/Ears/Feet and usually end with lab work of blood draws and shots. 

Mental Health– This is becoming new. Mental Health is important to check! Last month in May was Mental Health Awareness Month and yet many families and communities are becoming well aware about the stats of Mental Health in all families. With this being Men’s Health Month, it’s very important that each man needs to have their Mental Health evaluated along with their physicals. Mental Health can be a concern of depression, Bi-Polar, PTSD, ADHD, OCD, suicides, and many other factors that can or could be deadly in the long run in a thinking manner.

Financial Health – When you think about it, Financial Health is a concern. For us men, we heard the stories about making the money in the households for a long time. Then we fall short and have the women taking over the finances and we men just go bankrupt at times. We need to reevaluate our financial concerns and needs to establish our financial health in terms of better jobs, better spending, better insurance, and better financial reasons that we can be fiscally normal and better for the future. Invest in stock, or in a business, or build a better nest egg for your children when they go off to college. Or maybe invest in your vacation spots and important needs that can help with your Financial Health. We know the women, I’m talking about MEN!

Spiritual Health – Why this? For all of us men whom are spiritual. Those of us who use the work of Inspirational advice from Church or Men’s Religious Groups, we get this. Even our spiritual health at times need to be checked! Sometimes we fight the good fight in our jobs, families, friends, groups and others to follow. The Spiritual Health is partial important because it’s part of our DNA to be better in our households as men. No matter if you have kids or not. Spiritual Health is not just prayer, its also doing the work of those way beneath you to elevate your faith, your inspiration, and also your worth. Of course many who read this portion may not be as spiritual or they may say, “I love God but I don’t need Spiritual Health Checks!” Well let me say this: Without the will of God , we wouldn’t exist. Period! And while were on the subject, it’s time for men to go back into the church or do work for the church. The women are the gatekeepers in all, but the men need to be seen and heard also. And also for you churches that keep asking about missing men, ask them what do the men WANT TO SEE IN CHURCH? That’s the mistake that many are not doing. Even the women are not asking this question. Yeah I said it! You probably didn’t hear it at a Men’s Day service on Father’s Day, and won’t probably hear it later on for International Men’s Day in November. But I say this: ASK THEM! It’s not hard. In part of that, spiritual health can be assisted with meditation of yoga, or quiet time in place that you and God only can have conversations. I had a pastor told me to drink one bottle of water and have a day of rest. That is part of your spiritual health along with your physical and mental health.

CALLOUT: Of course, men have to step it up. Not just physical. Not just mental. Not just financial, and not just spiritual. Men, our health needs to be stepped up. If we want to live long to see legacies form, we better start NOW! Not just every June. Not just every Men’s Health Month. Not just every Black Music Month. Not just every Pride Month. Not just every start of the Summer Season! Men, let’s get really serious every day!

Happy Men’s Health Month!


Before the annual tribute to father’s in all begins, this blog is for all the Fathers young and old. Happy Father’s Day to the men whom are Dads, Grandfathers, Uncles, Great Uncles, Great Grandfathers, God-Fathers and many other father on the planet that deals daily with being a FATHER ALL DAY EVERY DAY! Oh yes of course, this is the part where many go hard and stupid on the men who don’t step up and raise their kids as much as the women. Look here: there are real daddies out there that DO and I mean DO HANDLE THEIR BUSINESS! There is no question in that. Also for many like me, another father’s day will be hard because my father is deceased for two years. And yet the memories will never die in vain. So even though I’m new to this being without my Dad, the hard thought of him never dies out. And also for those who sympathize and your Dad is still living and you’re somewhat understand that, you really don’t know the feeling until YOU go through the experience.

And also for all the women who tell the single men without kids Happy Father’s Day, STOP. You know darn well not every man is a FATHER! If you say it, we’ll tell you: “I’m not a father.” Don’t tell us Happy Father’s Day because we don’t earn it until it becomes a hard job for us to try and accept. Of course you can wait until November 19th for International Men’s Day. Or some honorable thing of celebrating Men in the church or community that don’t have kids.

With all the hoopla of Men’s Health looming for June, Graduations, Black Music Month still being celebrated, Juneteenth Day that must be examined, 45 still acting a freaking fool, and the start of the Summer Season that will commence on the 21st. Oh yes, I’m scratching my head again. Time to get the questions flowing.

Well it seems were in the month of June, and yet Pride Month is in full effect. Take a look at this courtesy of OnMilwaukee.com via Instagram:

This scene is Downtown Milwaukee. And our Iconic buildings of the US Bank and Northwestern Mutual Tower are lit in the Rainbow Colors for Pride Month.

Hold on, wait a second. Check this out:

This picture is outside of the Chase Bank Plaza also Downtown Milwaukee with the Rainbow Flag waving.

Or wait just one more courtesy of Today’s TMJ Channel 4 (dang that rhymes):

At the state Capitol in Madison last week Friday, the Rainbow Flag Flies over. All of this really was expected and unexpected.

And here at the Milwaukee State Office Building in Downtown Milwaukee:

But…..many have asked since “when are they going to raise the RGB Flag? Or to symbolize the other ethnic festivals with celebrations of Black Arts Fest MKE? Now we should know how to write letters, Milwaukee. Do we? Better get the writing! Better also take it to the CEO’s and Organizers and ASK! State your reasons why this should be necessary as an idea why they should consider this thought for every Festival Season! Don’t talk among yourselves on Facebook to get a reaction! Get to the table and conversate the idea! Heck, point me to the table! And while we’re at it, write this same letter to the Wisconsin Governor and Lt. Governor. You know their names!

Another question: If you have graduated so far to enjoy the smelling of the roses of your achievement, congratulations. Now you realize that you have to give back to your Alma Mater, right? And if your Alma Mater screws up with Alumni events planned: HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE!

For us in Milwaukee: does it feel naked not having a NBA Finals here?

If those asking about Milwaukee again, (Toronto) when will you make that visit to see the city? Got plenty of time.

Just recently, we have commentated the 75th Anniversary of D-Day. In which we honored and appreciate the Men that fought along with the Allied Forces to take down Hitler’s Forces. And yet it was a positive thing. HOWEVER: Many missed the boat when African-Americans whom also served and/or died in the battle was not acknowledged! For those whom are in the dark, the African American soldiers had to fight on two fronts: Abroad and Home. And many of the African-American soldiers never had awarded the Medal of Honor due to discrimination and being racially target just because they were black. So who’s at fault? And who is still not listening?!

On CNN, W. Kamau Bell hosted United Shades of America in which the spot light was certain cities facing the struggles of racism and systematic segregation. This time, he chose to highlight the problems of a city that is not below the Mason-Dixon line: my hometown of Milwaukee, Wisconsin. You all know that Milwaukee is hyper segregated, etc. A major concern that looms the dangers even today for employment, housing, economics and many other concerns. So after all of this, and yet many still ask about black folks in Wisconsin?

For us Milwaukeeans, Summerfest will start up the core genesis of the Summer Musical Season. Which acts that you know personally should be on your radar?

Dang Wisconsin GOP Republicans: that Rainbow Flag must got your goat, huh? We all know that when Scott Walker was in charge, he didn’t do it. So what?

Again: is Lil’ Nas X’s Old Town Road that disrespectful to country music?!

Speaking of Black Music (after all, June is Black Music Month) which Music in Black History that many know so well that it will not die through the depths of time?

Ok, this I need to know: Which artist is really looking forward to perform for the 2019 BET Awards?

As of June 25th this year, it will mark 10 years since Michael Jackson’s death. How would he feel after his legacy being interrupted again by those accusations of him and young boys, and on a lighter side: seeing his first born son graduating from college?

For baseball: there is an opening pitcher, and a closing pitcher. In regarding Juneteenth Day 2019, that is the closer. The 4th: opening pitch. Why you ask?

For all of my Pride Readers: that’s the LGBT folks. Is your Pride Month good this year so far?

Does the United Methodist Church really have to examine its own self before splitting off with the LGBT? As also with black folks?

Education! So AEW’S Double or Nothing PPV was a hit. I need to see more than just one show. So my question is what else is next?

Seriously, why is 45 is hooking up with Mexico after another hurdle with the trade agreements?

Word is that Sarah Huckabee might be gone from her White House Post. And how so we’ll know about this?!!

Which or many of us Men have on the Light Blue for Men’s Health Month?

You realize that the host city of Tampa is also WrestleMania?

And now: a moment for the Fathers. 

For all the Dads that are just now coming out, what will be your reaction for your OFFICIAL first Father’s Day?

For all the Dads that are still around kicking knowledge, what is your best advice for the new Dads coming up?

For those of us who miss our Dads. This is hard as we know. How do we go through the storm yet again that our Dad’s memories will not die? No matter when and where? May all of our deceased fathers rest in power for eternity and in peace. Mine also.

What is up with this attitude that when Father’s Day comes around, females get an attitude? Oh especially around this time of year?

When church comes on Sunday, what will be the estimated percentage of Men coming for Father’s Day? It ain’t big for many!

How many Men have actually wore Light Blue for Men’s Health Month on Father’s Day like the MLB?

CALLOUT: What is up when females telling all Men “Happy Father’s Day”, BUT MAINLY MEN WHOM ARE NOT FATHERS?!  Especially those of us whom are single, unmarried, no kids of our own and just living the single life that many feel are bad and miserable.  Be careful, ladies. Don’t snag us like that.

After this Father’s Day is over, Men you do realize that International Men’s Day is about 5 Months away after June 19th? For those of us whom are not fathers with no kids, let’s celebrate that! No matter what we do or say.

Should all Churches and Community Groups have an All Men’s Day? At least for men whom are not fathers in all?  Unsung, perhaps?

Ok, this needs to be asked: what kind of a man is an “Unofficial” Father? You heard of Honorary Degrees that might be fake. Just saying.

Another need to be asked: no disrespect to Father’s Day or Mother’s Day, but why we have slept on Children’s Day? Which is every second sunday in June?!

And………the final question of Father’s Day 2019: what will the Father’s take from this year and the last Father’s Day 2010’s Decade, into the first Father’s Day Decade of the 2020’s? That’s is even worth celebrating for the next generation to ponder in all.

For all the Dads that read my blog, ENJOY YOUR Father’s Day. Be blessed at it. Don’t let none of the disruptive folks hate the thought you got this day. If your Dad is still around kicking knowledge, hold him close! You never know when the day or the hour when it might be his last.


Well, it has been a minute that I have written a scratch blog, but as I sat back and listened to all the mess in regarding 45, Brett Kavanaugh, the Midterms, and more stories of women getting raped and others, it’s clear that this came at the right time. There is no question about it.

But yes, I’m scratching my head again.

Males: we know October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. But during September, did we wore light blue for Prostate Cancer Awareness? And oh, why don’t we see no “Fight like a Boy” gear or stickers with the light blue ribbon?!

When it comes to Introverts and yes I’m one of the many, why that is still a problem for many WHO DON’T UNDERSTAND?! Ask your kinfolk, church folks, co-workers, teachers, etc.

25 years ago, I was so hooked on the Wisconsin Badgers Football team. How has that team really paved way for the next squads that did Rose Bowl wins? Even for the school, and the state? Plus that 1993 squad was the first I saw winning something, ever!

It seems that the Brett Kavanaugh saga is just starting to unravel. All these back stories coming out. And just today, a key Republican Susan Collins just supported to get him on the bench of the Supreme Court. Women I need to ask, you really back this crap? And many feel that the decision “raped” every single American today! Screwed up! If only just only that the more votes should have happened in November of 2016………oh wait!

45 just made a comment about the concern about the sake of the nation’s boys. Really?! What brought this on? Like seriously.

In the local midterms of Wisconsin, if Scott Walker were to win in November, it would be his last. Should Tony Evers and Mandela Barnes just make that happen like under 30 days? Like November 6th?

For all the so-called Woke Conscious folks: Can you please lay down your weapons for once and actually VOTE THE F UP?!

How will the 2018-19 Wisconsin Badgers do without those whom cowardly left the squad?! Come on, man!

Oh, it seems that Halloween is upon us. Let me guess, which demons should we exercise right now? Even if his name is……..you guessed it. Same with females.

For all of the movies lately, why Venom?

For all of my Introverted folks: whatever you do, please do not be a Summer Program Developer in your community! It’s not for us being semi-communicative. Is there a way that there are Developer Programs that INTROVERTED folks can come to? No matter if it’s for a church, or community organization? I need answers! And plus it’s a problem if you have no training or apprenticeships! Or should I say ONGOING Training or Apprenticeships?

Since it’s already Autumn, what has or will be an “Autumn Suprise” coming up? And everyone will be talking about it. Just wait.

I should ask: what’s up with those Brewers? In a good way? Postseason wise.

Why is the United Methodist Church talking about the One Church Plan stuff, and not enough of it is being presented to the Black Methodist Community? Like Black Milwaukee?!

While many of you are laughing about this, the Milwaukee Streetcar (aka The Hop) is debuting on Friday, November 2nd, 2018. Which is like 2 days after Halloween. And 20 days before Thanksgiving. And many of the FB laughable are still making jokes. Hmmm…..we’ll see who has the last laugh. Won’t we?

Is the Fiserv Forum really ready for the new era of Milwaukee Sports and Entertainment? Will the Bradley Center be missed like already, The Marcus Amphitheater at Summerfest?

For my black British folks, I know that October is your month of Celebrating Black History. And yes there were or are Hackers that tried to shut your page down in a racist manner. Man, check those fools! STAY WOKE! Why? The hackers are just scared of the truth about black culture, black existence, and black excellence in all areas! And yet they hack the pages in order to have this fear. Again: As we Black Americans would say, STAY WOKE! Any questions?

Why this quote means well? “Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.”

When we say “It’s Harvest Time” we really mean to say, it’s time to take in the plants. Agree?

Why is Columbus Day is still celebrated in America, KNOWINGLY Columbus was really a thief?! Can’t stand the holiday! And usually bad luck for me gets around Columbus Day. Not with it!

With the blue wave still intact, can it withstand the October Surprise?

How will Black Lightning favor for Season 2?

I’m sure many are not job shaming Geoffrey Owens now since he is no longer bagging groceries for Trader Joe’s, right? Ever since that boost from Tyler Perry giving him a shot on The Haves and the Have Nots.

This needs to be asked: why isn’t the WWE promoting Prostate Cancer Awareness in September? We know Childhood Cancer Awareness and Breast Cancer Awareness. But yes the Men’s Health Awareness must be included. I’m just saying, WWE!

Wishful thinking: should the franchise of Revenge of the Nerds be rebooted? Nah, keep the originals!

Since the Packers are in their 100th Season, has it been a slow start? But hey, they’ve started slow and got hot when it’s stone cold. Prove me wrong.

Millennials, your favorite latte season is back. Oh, you know we still say Fall or Autumn, right?

And the last thing to ask: now since Bill Cosby is in jail, and many of the folks non black usually goes free, and you know many ask: why is still the Justice system is BROKEN?! Many because of unfair treatments?!


As the day comes for the Dads, we know that many will celebrate the men that gives us love. We also realize that Father’s Day for the church side is going to be less than Mother’s Day in which we know already. Plus yes there will be women that will moan and complain about the father’s not being there for the kids, not doing nothing for the kids, community, etc. And yes, even the fathers whom are missed in death will be everyday reminded that their ongoing spirit still lingers on. And we have to face the wacky events. And I’m scratching my head again.

Ok, ladies. Let’s be real. Why will some of you will complain about the fathers of your kids this Father’s Day?

Will all the men wear some sort of blue like the baseball teams on Sunday? It’s to recognize prostate cancer awareness.

So after 60 years in the game, IHOP or the International House of Pancakes, will be now known as the International House of……..Burgers?!! Seriously?! Will Pancakes be still selling?

Black folks: June is Black Music Month as we know. Are we educating the masses who love our music in all?

So far the hype of the Milwaukee Streetcar is gaining steam. Plus you realize it’s only 5 months away until it fully debuts, right?

Right now on the election watch here in Wisconsin, August 14th will arrive before you know it. Still voting, right?

Milwaukee: Summerfest will be here. You ready? I got tips!

Why is 45 having issues with Canada? Particularly with the Prime Minister?!

The Brewers still own the NL Central so far. Is it real yet for the Craig’s Crushers?

They say that one of the introverts’ nightmares is job fairs. Career fairs, etc. Is the prophecy true? Do we Introverts need our OWN job fairs?

For the All Black American Legion Posts in Milwaukee/Wisconsin: why do you NOT have any Sons, Auxiliary or Legion Riders Groups? I need answers!

It’s been 20 years since James Byrd, Jr was murdered. By racists in Texas dragging him to his death. Did we forget this, America?

The Milwaukee Bucks’ new home will be opening in a couple of months. Who took the tour so far?

Here in Milwaukee: the Milwaukee Police Department is rocked with pain of the death of Officer Charles Irvine, Jr. We all know what happened yet again and I know many of us are still mixed by the feelings overall by the Police: Racism, Brutality, etc. We all know. Even harassment. Even the unacceptable stuff of the moniker copied of “Blue Lives Matter.” We know it. After Officer Irvine is remembered at his funeral on June 16th, what will the attitudes of us and the Police change for the better?

Sidenote: Reference the Milwaukee Bucks Basketball Player Sterling Brown after he was tased 18 times by the MPD.
CALLOUT: For us in the United Methodist Church, specifically in the Black UMC’s and BMCR: Why are we being attacked? Seriously ask this question at the Annual Conferences! Let them know how you feel.

This needs to be asked: why there are not hordes of Harleys in Milwaukee that do parades for Juneteenth Day? Yeah, I’m asking this that needs real answers!

Anthony Bourdain passed on due to suicide. Why did he go that way?! Man! And also Kate Spade went the same.

Here in Milwaukee: what will it take for the MPS Alumni to continue the “machine of reaching out” to the former students? Besides social media? And what will it take for the Alumni of all High Schools to be FURTHER engaged?

Is there a real reason why many will celebrate Juneteenth Day and or the 4th of July in the Black Community more or less?

In two months: Harley-Davidson will be 115 years old. Black Community: WE NEED TO BE READY WITH THE IRON ELITE – BLACK BIKER JAMS! Can we do this? Last time, we were late, but on time! White folks, do not get upset about a black biker jam in Milwaukee. You know what you said 5 years ago on Facebook!

Milwaukee: who will be the best Sheriff for the County? Richard Schmidt or Earnell Lucas? Make your choice on August 14th.

Of all the field of Wisconsin Democrats for Governor: I think that Mahlon Mitchell is the underdog. Can this underdog be the man? And oh, Wisconsin never had a black governor in its 170 year history!

Why is Sheriff David Clarke still talking on Twitter? Oops, I’m sorry FORMER SHERIFF David Clarke!

Is the time for Scott Walker up? Is this is the end?

For the Fourth of July, should many design a shirt that has “The Struggle Continues” draped in Red, White and Blue? You designers need to be ready now.

So I’m reading about this extended warranty about CarShield. I like many others are tired to pay high costs in car repairs in all. Is this CarShield thing a real good deal to have? I need answers. Real answers!

For my Pride Readers: How is your Pride month doing? Now for those wondering, Stephen’s Spot on this WordPress does NOT discriminate against anyone based on race, creed, class, sexual orientations, etc.

Class of 2018, congrats. Now what? Expect a blog letter!

During the Pridefest weekend in Milwaukee, Harley-Davidson had the “Ride with Pride“. You know Harley attracts all kinds of folks, right? Even the LGBTQIA folks.

Should the Milwaukee Police Department go back and hand out Baseball Cards like they did back in the 80’s? Way before you Millennials and Gen Z folks.

Final overall question before I ask about the Dads: Has the Golden State Warriors whom just now won a back to back championship over the Cavs is considered a “Dynasty?” If you win more Championships in lets say 4 years in a row, then you can call yourself a Dynasty. Not yet, Dub Nation! Even though you got stock of weapons. Just saying.

Now: this is for all the fathers. Ladies chill out. Don’t say a word!

How many Fathers didn’t have a father go to, became a father to go to?

What is the main reason why Father’s Day is so less than Mother’s Day when it comes to church?

My father mattered. Anyone else’s father mattered when they were living? How do we continue to legacy on the real tip without having the hassle of breaking traditions? And knowing each other besides going to Reunions and FUNERALS?! That seems to be the theme for generations. It’s time to break the cycle! Seriously.

For the first time fathers: how will you really support the toughest job of backing your son or daughter?

Since when Target had the “Baby Daddy” cards out? Did I miss it? Nah, Pass.

For the seasoned vets of fathers: you know the game. Is there a father to be that you are training right now to be a great dad?

For us who don’t have children and are men and not fathers: How can we support the kids in the community with the families that need the extra assistance? Always remember, it takes a village!

For us the families that never had an experience of growing up without a father, how have our Uncles, Grandfathers, Older Cousins whom are Dads, still play a role in getting that ultimate objective in life?

I dare to ask: why there are moms “now just blaring the thought” of seeing Father’s Day Cards for Mothers? Like in 2011 in Walgreens!

For the fathers whom are behind prison bars: I know that this is a hard question to ask, but do you really have the heart to see your kids?

For the fathers that have been missing for over 20 plus years from your kids, why did you leave them?!

For the fathers that have been reformed and out of jail, was the lessons learned for the better?

For the fathers that are legendary, are you inspiring the next era to step up?

For the fathers that are still in the fight and hard working, are you quitting or not? Do you still have the fortitude?

And for the families of fathers that keep it real: what is next?

On the real tip though, listen up:

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers!

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who read my blog.

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who are changing lives.

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who are staying in the fight!

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers whom are missed and remembered EVERYDAY!

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who are reclaiming their time. RECLAIM YOUR TIME DADS!

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who aren’t always living foul!

To the non-Fathers that take care of folks on the fly, (like Godfathers) even though that this day is not really for you, but you act upon on being a father in general!

Lastly, even though it’s Father’s Day, don’t single out the Mothers that support. Please don’t. All Fathers Matter! And the Mothers (especially today’s MOTHERS) need to recognize it. Mothers you had your day last month. But today: Happy Father’s Day!


As many know we are in the month of June. The 6th month for me is I’m looking at 6 more months towards age 42. Hard to believe. It’s also the month of Summer, Juneteenth Day, Father’s Day, the Wear Orange for Gun Violence Awareness, Black Music Month and of course, Pride Month for our LGBT community folks.

On the health tip: Men it’s our health awareness month. Start wearing the blue. As usual for this I’m here to give you a summary report of my health condition. Going back to January, I went to the Eye Doctor for a long awaited Eye Exam. My vision at the time was very well overall. But the one thing had on my mind was the then blood pressure. At the time: 152/74. That’s like in the red area and screaming to go to the ER. The second option of this was the obvious one: get checked! So the same day, after realizing stress and not so baked foods can be a factor dealing with death, I made an appointment to go back to a Aurora Health Care clinic in Wauwatosa. So it came, and I chose the week of February 19th for a strange reason. It was the same February 19th that I saw my late father alive in 2017. 4 and a half days later, he died at 69 years old. After that was set, I began to do a four week exercise thing in which I changed my diet, and my weight began to go down slightly. It worked for a while. In February, after I had the physical done, I took a blood test to see where I was in all. Most was good. Even my blood pressure improved. But the next day, I got the worst news of my life about being diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. In the same week that my Father passed a year ago. My glucose reading was at 237, with a 9.6% rating. That right there, was Diabetes status. And like many who got it was not a happy camper. And I’m still not a happy camper. Since then, I’ve been going back to the doctors and registered nurses to talk about the status and also trying to manage the symptoms. First I was prescribed with medications like Metformin and Atorvastatin to help reduce the numbers. Plus also I had to exercise yet again at least 30 per day along with a steady diet. Biking, Treadmill, and regular walking. Most of this was relatively new. And some old. Also I had to track my weight daily along with additional blood pressure checks. I keep a list of blood pressure numbers DAILY! Not once in a blue moon. And I use the Color Doctor to examine and review my blood pressure. It really works.

Around April 20th, (aka 4/20) I had to go back for an another appointment to see how I was doing. It was more of a repeat of information that I explored in February. Most of the tests were normal including my prostate and liver. Plus I had to get a Tetanus Shot that hurt like you know what. For prostate checks, Men don’t overlook that. They will do blood checks on those.

Then came May 21st of checking my A1C. Went in, had the blood drawn out with urine samples and waited for 24 hours for the results. Here is the shocker: At around 5:00 in the afternoon, I got a message from my doc’s office and my A1C was reduced (REDUCED) from the 9.6 to 5.8!!!!!!!

I was shocked that with all that grind, prayers, positive music of Hip Hop, Rap, and Rock that woke me up, the stuff worked! Even though that I still have the diabetes, but I felt this was a “small” victory.

Now why I am saying this? It took an act of a male second opinion to go to the doctor. I know us Men don’t like this because of a level of trust. We’ve heard this before. Just to think that I was reading an article about Black Men getting blood pressure checks in Barber Shops. Many of them said they didn’t trust the physicans, worked at least 2 shifts due to the demand of the work they do. But when like me, had their blood pressure checks, it was a wake up call. A wake up call to eat the right foods, get plenty of exercise, take the required medications to ease the diagnosed problems and repeat on point every single day.

Yes like every family member, you think about those whom had diabetes, some other diagnosis, and others, it began to wonder on you like really?! I had a classmate that I knew since high school died at age 39 years old. He was a big dude! But I think his health wasn’t that normal seeing my friend in a oversized casket. And yes when it’s male family members whom passed at 53 or 69, many might look at them being young. My father, at the result of his passing was heart related. His final diagnosis was Coronary Heart Disease and he had that for several years. What led to that, was Type 2 Diabetes. I had an uncle who passed in 1999 unexpectedly at work with a massive heart attack. And he was a type 2 diabetic . This was around 6:30am in the morning!

If that didn’t woke me up going to the medical folks, I don’t know what will. They say that stress, going back and forth between houses, extra difficult work could lead up to issues like Diabetes or other disorders. Mainly that can happen to anyone, but specifically, us Men! Why? It’s in our families. Our history, etc.

Even though that yes Men who like reading my blogs, we don’t at times like doctors. I think they suck. However in fairness, we have to stop this feeling of being scared. Or like, “that ain’t gonna bother me.” What if it did? Then what?!

We know the women will push us in going back. They will. But I feel that us MEN need to talk to other MEN about going to doctors. My Eye Doctor did the same to me. Just us Men. Not only Women. When we are at our Men’s meetings, Golf Outings, Fraternity Meetings, or any other Male thing out there, I know that when stuff like this comes, we want to be there for our kids, nieces, nephews, grandkids, or our young dude or girl looking at us. Specifically our boys.

Health is wealth, Gents.

Dudes: we know this sucks. And I hate this also. But like NFL Hall of Famer and Packers Legend Jerry Kramer said earlier this year, “If you want to go to a ball game……..get checked!”

Get checked and screened, gents. Not just for Men’s Health Month, but for any month on the calendar! And take your boys also.


While many of us were taking the day off from work and school, the infamous Memorial Day Holiday returned as well as the “unofficial”start of the summer season. You know that is when many will start to travel alot? Yeah that one. This is also the same Memorial Day when many of us in the black community will remind the country that it was black folks that made the holiday. Long history of that missed! And also, it appears that the sacreligous saying of “Happy Memorial Day” is dumb. But however, I’m scratching my head again.

Like last year and this year and the year before that: WHY ARE WE SAYING HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY?!! It’s not for the living!

I need to ask this: does the African-American Community gets to be honored on Memorial Day when many of our black servicemen died or KIA in battle? Even while serving when the country didn’t give them love?

The month of May is Military Appreciation Month, which military member should be given love each day?

The Second Milwaukee Streetcar arrived this month, and in June, the Open House begins. Is June 8th still on your calendar, Milwaukee?

Starbucks was closed for one day after Memorial Day. You know what it means?

Has anyone really adapted to the full blown downside of Tinder?

If Call of Duty is not Nintendo Switch material, can Wolfenstein II be that combat game to become the best ever?

Next month is June: Black Music Month, Pride Month, Month set aside for Fathers, Juneteenth, The First Day of Summer………oh, you know us men realize that it’s also Men’s Health Month? Wear light blue!

It’s really apparent that the celebration of the United Methodist Church’s 50 is catching on. But after the celebration is one and done, what’s really next?

Why many ask those whom are single and no kids: “what’s wrong?”

Why many ask those whom are introverted that are “anti-social?!” Knowing its not the people, it’s really the connection.

Hold up: Noah’s Ark got a new water slide in Wisconsin. Hint it’s a snake ride. Not as you think. Wanna know?

Can the American Legion go to the inner city schools/events to assist them about black history war figures? Along with the Auxiliary, Riders and Sons? This is a serious question here. Not knocking the suburbs.

So many people think that the NFL is being unfair (still unfair) about Colin Kaepernick’s kneeling. Many have said that it’s unfair for him that he’s not signed to a team. NOW the NFL has made a rule that if a player doesn’t rise before the anthem, the team will be penalized 15 yards. There was a time that the NFL players were in the locker room while the anthem is played. Like 2009. My question is, why did 45 had to bust out saying that those who didn’t recite the anthem shouldn’t be in the country?!

Oh my God! Roseanne’s reboot and reruns has been cancelled due to a racist tweet to one of former members of the Obama/Biden Crew: Former Senior Adviser Valerie Jarrett. For you Roseanne fans: so who’s the snowflake now?

Wisconsin: we turned 170 years old this week. What about the 8% of African-Americans living in the state for opportunities?

Additional School Shootings in Santa Fe, Texas and also after a High School Graduation in Atlanta, Georgia. Now I need to ask yet again after the “March for our Lives”, why are we are NOT getting the message?!

Was this a great decision by Mayor Tom Barrett by NOT running for Governor in Wisconsin in 2018?

I’ve seen Graduations of older folks in their 90’s graduating from College. You know it’s not too late, right?

How will Juneteenth Day 2018 turn up?

This is an interesting article: The Milwaukee Journal Sentinel published a story about skills being important as degrees. Should this an idea to get folks back to work in a new way? And I know this needs to be asked: if you have a Bachelor’s Degree and you’ve been working low wages for a while well after college, and you want a newer BETTER JOB, why is this being blocked for those whom have a 4 year degree?

MSNBC had a Town Hall Meeting about Everyday Racism in America. Mainly with the now concerns of racism at Starbucks, Yale, etc. Was White America as well as any other naysayer American was paying attention?

Black Men: when we are stopped by the police or had been stopped by the police, do we feel a sense of concern like they are going to get us? And could this be one of the reasons why an interest in Police work is not out of the question?

And the Final question: Has EVERY American get this?

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Coming in June: two things to write about – A Traditional Stephen’s Spot Blog about Graduations. And MEN – I have a serious blog to write about Men’s Health and you need to listen, er read what I have to say. Especially Black Men! Blood Pressures and Diabetes.


It’s a been a minute since I did a Three Way Dance. Well this is the “first” three way since my father’s passing, but like the last couple of blogs, it’s time to get back to work. Oh yes, I got something to say about the dance I want to bust out. More like shutdown.

First Dance:

Many of us in Milwaukee had been hearing and seeing on social media about this Drag Racing announcement in areas of where us citizens and the police might be distracted and it might go out with it. What I’m referring to is this:

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Oh do we have a problem. Look I had to block out the F-Word because on the real advertisement or “announcement” that is was fully explicit. Plus also the locations of this so called drag race might be going down this weekend at the places of the Midtown Center, 76th and Mill Road near the old Pick N Save spot (WHICH IS A CHURCH NOW!) and East Capitol. And also, this is a ad and potential drag race is made up for the young folks whom probably will have nothing to do in Milwaukee.

I’m looking at this ad on Facebook and I’m like really?! Why would our young people would do this and at three different locations in Milwaukee knowing the Milwaukee Police will be on watch anyway? You young folks in Milwaukee are very very dumb doing this. Oh please, you will be thinking about jail time when doing this. And we all got this programs and stuff to do in the summer coming up and this is the thanks we get?! Really?!!

Grown folks of Milwaukee, we need to up on our game. I know it’s the first day of June in which the LBGT, Black Music, Father’s Day, The first day of Summer and a hidden message of Men’s Health Month will all  play. But don’t overshadow that our youth folks who pull this stunt per se about Drag Racing in different parts of Milwaukee will get away. I’ll bet many even those whom are Police Officers and I dare say the Sheriff Departments will be watching because if any of them catch them and throw them in jail for racing or paying that hefty fine, don’t say nothing! As I say this: GET WOKE Y’ALL!

Second card: Again, Racism still exists.

I should say racism still exists no matter how the achievements and being black.  We all know that by now, LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers will be doing the job by defending their title in the NBA Finals. Against the “Dub Nation” that is. But this recent act about his LA house being tagged with the N-word, that game is in a whole other itself.

LeBron is a NBA Champion, an Olympic Medalist, came out the Midwest as one of the best in the East, and yes, is loaded with talent. But none that does not equate the hate he felt about his house being vandalized with the N-Word on his house. King James said this, by the way:

 

In 1998: I heard in church that it is hard being a BLACK MAN in AMERICA! You non-blacks who think it’s all smoke and mirrors, don’t know squat about us being faced with hate EVERYDAY! I got 2 college degrees, a part-time job as a secretary, doing work for my Alumni and giving back by helping out voters register and pretty soon, I’m going to run a Summer Program for my church, and this month I will mark 27 years as a member of my home church. But I’ll bet many might look at that and say that’s good for a black man. BUT I am constantly (CONSTANTLY) reminded that racism still exists. Even my Father way before he passed away said that exact same thing. That’s one lesson I’ll never forget. NEVER! I even encountered racism when I submitted a resume for a job here in Wisconsin 7 years ago and also about August of 2010, I got a letter from Florida that the company I submitted a resume to awhile back, didn’t accept any African-American applicants to be trained nor hired. And months later after October 2010, I was awarded $5000.00 because of my civil rights were violated because I was one of the black applicants that didn’t get hired properly. You see, there are those in Wisconsin that do want black folks to remain poor. Remain poor until they die. Seriously, Badger State?!

What also I’ve heard that FS1 Sports Analyst Jason Whitlock said that LeBron James hadn’t experience the real racism like Emmett Till did in 1955 when he was killed at 14. He also says that guys like LeBron’s statement of regarding race in all, effects the poor, not him.

Well that’s BS.

Sorry Jason, but no matter WHAT your achievement is, your accomplishments, your hardwork from the gutter, you hardships to success, your level of consciousness, your brand of melanin attitude, or anything that deals with the success of being successful thus far as an African-American Male or Female. But remember that one scene out of the show “A Different World” when Dwayne Wayne was responding to Dean Cain’s character:

 

Yes non-black folks, African-Americans BUILT THIS COUNTRY! No matter if were the first or the next, or behind the scenes, we built this nation. Yes, many of us don’t wave the flag as much, but we have the reality that we started this joint! But all alas, no matter what achievements we get, we still get called names. Hear that Jason?!! We still get called the N-Word out of ignorance. You got #45 talking about him taking shot from the haters while in the White House, but many of the Americans gave Obama (excuse my French,)HELL due to racism in all in his 8 years in Office! And this is supposed to be Post-Racial?!

Speaking of that: let’s go to the last dance.

Yesterday, Kathy Griffin was pictured  in displaying the picture of a “beheaded bloody” Donald Trump. Oh yeah it was a gag. Funny. Poke your head as a joke. But it didn’t seen funny at at per se towards the Administration and of course young Barron.

But here is the thing, if many considered the Trump pic being graphic and offensive, what about this?

And I’m sure that we’ve seen this on Facebook.

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Oh we’re mad a Kathy’s​ picture, but totally forgot about when Obama got dissed with the pics of him being hung, burned in flames and other stuff. Hypocrites! You tend to forget, but hey it’s America right? And 45’s response is……..oh he has no response. Duh!

So Kathy apologized and admit that she went too far with the “joke”. And it costed her the gigs upcoming and her New Year’s Eve program with Anderson Cooper on CNN. Yes, CNN has New Year’s Eve specials now. All because she displayed a pic of 45 beheaded. Wow. And you know partially her career is over. But you know she’s going to get a gig anyway. Just wait. And to the conservative fools who though this was done, I have a question: Why isn’t Ted Nugent in jail after what HE said about Obama?! I smell hypocritical mess. We know it. And also many folks looking foolish about the mess about the negative talk about Michelle, Sasha and Malia. Hmm….what about that?!!!!!

That’s right. Dead Silence! Crickets!

And with that, the struggle continues on.


Oh did you see the TV?

The 58th Inauguration of the new Administration has passed to you know who, which looked like a ghost town in Washington. But yesterday after looking at the remains, the Women’s March was like a new Tornado that swept in the bare spots that were heavily empty. I mean it was a jam packed wall to wall March and protest. In Washington, it was close to over 500,000 plus that shut the city down! Washington wasn’t the only city: New York City, LA, Seattle, Indianapolis, Chicago, Milwaukee, Boise, and Madison all had these demonstrations. Even London, Sydney, and not really thought about: Antarctica! Yes even Antarctica was in this demonstration as well.

Yeah, the March was cool. All the females from Gloria Steinem, to Janelle Monae, the Mothers of the Movement, Alicia Keys, which featured Maria Hamilton, mother of Dontre Hamilton was killed at Red Arrow Park in Milwaukee in 2014. Even men like Michael Moore, Jidenna, and Maxwell all appeared.

Like I said: that was a jammed packed event not only for empowerment, but also directed at one man: Donald Trump. The same Donald Trump whom back in 2005 had the quote “grabbing them by the p*ssy” on a well known daily entertainment TALK SHOW of Access Hollywood! And many of the females at the time had on the same shirts or jeans with messages about “Donald can grab my ****** anytime.” REALLY!  Talk about Locker Room conversations. But many might know that it wasn’t all those who said it.

The turn up for the march of course went high of course. But online, the turn down of the march: MEN. As I was viewing the live feeds of the march on Facebook Live, there were men of course that were talking smack if you will about the march, there’s going to be a whole lot of sandwiches missing, back in the kitchen talk, or um some black dude on a black TV host Facebook page saying it should be stopped, and bringing up about America’s problems of overseas. WHAT!!!!

OK MEN: Settle down. It wasn’t our march. It didn’t address our concerns. And if I wanted a freaking sandwich, I’ll get it myself. Men: I’m sure we had our hatefest about this march of women hearing them roar.

But my question is: when are WE AS MEN are going to have our own march? Like for real.

When are we going to march about our concerns of immigration?

When are we going to march about our concerns of jobs and careers?

When are we going to march about our concerns of finance?

When are we going to march about our concerns of health – OOPS!  Many of us are scared about going to the freaking doctor to get checked, and having the females to take over. Really? We got reproductive things too!

When are we going to march about our concerns about VOTING RIGHTS and CIVIL RIGHTS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about our Fathers, Sons, Uncles, Nephews, Grandfathers, Male Mentors that need those connections to bond? SPECIFICALLY, BLACK MEN!

CALLOUT: Hey Fraternities: All of you. BGLO (Alpha Phi Alpha, Kappa Alpha Psi, Phi Beta Sigma, Omega Psi Phi, and Iota Phi Theta), Service, and many others. What are you doing to reach out to Men, especially young males in your communities? What are you doing also to reach out to men that want to join your frats for life that want to help your cause? Not just the young crowds, but also the SEASONED VETS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about housing?

What about the MALE concerns of education? Besides that High School Diploma, job and not actually going further. Specifically with our sons, and other male relatives? Is college on the mind also?

When are we going to march about our concerns about: racism, sexism, body shaming (heck we body shame like crazy everyday), gun violence, the phobias of transgender, homosexuality, bullying in all angles, etc. Being single. Even Introverts, Ambiverts, Extroverts? Oh I know what it is: “We men don’t get all sensitive. Don’t bring that up to make us look weak.” Hate to say it, but it’s all ready out there. Females, stop laughing.  And don’t go all MLK and the dream with that one line!

When are we going to march for our OWN male needs? No disrespect to the women whom feel that the equal thing should be on the table, but the fact of the matter is, when I see all these women’s meetings and seminars, or events, where are the Men’s meetings? For example: in the church there are more reps for females than males. There are female meetings but not male meetings. There are females in the church per se whom support the church in sense of programs and events, but the men don’t. Except when the men might have a their own fundraiser and a day on Father’s Day to set aside to support.

I ASK AGAIN: WHEN ARE WE: THE MEN ARE GOING TO MARCH FOR OUR CONCERNS?

If many of the Men, whom were watching the Women’s March in DC or in their Cities, did anyone of male folk actually steal some ideas?

Men, we need to get to work. Straight up. Enough about us on the things that we can’t touch, but what about the things that the women can’t touch, but we can to propel our concerns? Hmmm………..think about it.

And also: Educated!