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It’s a been a minute since I did a Three Way Dance. Well this is the “first” three way since my father’s passing, but like the last couple of blogs, it’s time to get back to work. Oh yes, I got something to say about the dance I want to bust out. More like shutdown.

First Dance:

Many of us in Milwaukee had been hearing and seeing on social media about this Drag Racing announcement in areas of where us citizens and the police might be distracted and it might go out with it. What I’m referring to is this:

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Oh do we have a problem. Look I had to block out the F-Word because on the real advertisement or “announcement” that is was fully explicit. Plus also the locations of this so called drag race might be going down this weekend at the places of the Midtown Center, 76th and Mill Road near the old Pick N Save spot (WHICH IS A CHURCH NOW!) and East Capitol. And also, this is a ad and potential drag race is made up for the young folks whom probably will have nothing to do in Milwaukee.

I’m looking at this ad on Facebook and I’m like really?! Why would our young people would do this and at three different locations in Milwaukee knowing the Milwaukee Police will be on watch anyway? You young folks in Milwaukee are very very dumb doing this. Oh please, you will be thinking about jail time when doing this. And we all got this programs and stuff to do in the summer coming up and this is the thanks we get?! Really?!!

Grown folks of Milwaukee, we need to up on our game. I know it’s the first day of June in which the LBGT, Black Music, Father’s Day, The first day of Summer and a hidden message of Men’s Health Month will all  play. But don’t overshadow that our youth folks who pull this stunt per se about Drag Racing in different parts of Milwaukee will get away. I’ll bet many even those whom are Police Officers and I dare say the Sheriff Departments will be watching because if any of them catch them and throw them in jail for racing or paying that hefty fine, don’t say nothing! As I say this: GET WOKE Y’ALL!

Second card: Again, Racism still exists.

I should say racism still exists no matter how the achievements and being black.  We all know that by now, LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers will be doing the job by defending their title in the NBA Finals. Against the “Dub Nation” that is. But this recent act about his LA house being tagged with the N-word, that game is in a whole other itself.

LeBron is a NBA Champion, an Olympic Medalist, came out the Midwest as one of the best in the East, and yes, is loaded with talent. But none that does not equate the hate he felt about his house being vandalized with the N-Word on his house. King James said this, by the way:

 

In 1998: I heard in church that it is hard being a BLACK MAN in AMERICA! You non-blacks who think it’s all smoke and mirrors, don’t know squat about us being faced with hate EVERYDAY! I got 2 college degrees, a part-time job as a secretary, doing work for my Alumni and giving back by helping out voters register and pretty soon, I’m going to run a Summer Program for my church, and this month I will mark 27 years as a member of my home church. But I’ll bet many might look at that and say that’s good for a black man. BUT I am constantly (CONSTANTLY) reminded that racism still exists. Even my Father way before he passed away said that exact same thing. That’s one lesson I’ll never forget. NEVER! I even encountered racism when I submitted a resume for a job here in Wisconsin 7 years ago and also about August of 2010, I got a letter from Florida that the company I submitted a resume to awhile back, didn’t accept any African-American applicants to be trained nor hired. And months later after October 2010, I was awarded $5000.00 because of my civil rights were violated because I was one of the black applicants that didn’t get hired properly. You see, there are those in Wisconsin that do want black folks to remain poor. Remain poor until they die. Seriously, Badger State?!

What also I’ve heard that FS1 Sports Analyst Jason Whitlock said that LeBron James hadn’t experience the real racism like Emmett Till did in 1955 when he was killed at 14. He also says that guys like LeBron’s statement of regarding race in all, effects the poor, not him.

Well that’s BS.

Sorry Jason, but no matter WHAT your achievement is, your accomplishments, your hardwork from the gutter, you hardships to success, your level of consciousness, your brand of melanin attitude, or anything that deals with the success of being successful thus far as an African-American Male or Female. But remember that one scene out of the show “A Different World” when Dwayne Wayne was responding to Dean Cain’s character:

 

Yes non-black folks, African-Americans BUILT THIS COUNTRY! No matter if were the first or the next, or behind the scenes, we built this nation. Yes, many of us don’t wave the flag as much, but we have the reality that we started this joint! But all alas, no matter what achievements we get, we still get called names. Hear that Jason?!! We still get called the N-Word out of ignorance. You got #45 talking about him taking shot from the haters while in the White House, but many of the Americans gave Obama (excuse my French,)HELL due to racism in all in his 8 years in Office! And this is supposed to be Post-Racial?!

Speaking of that: let’s go to the last dance.

Yesterday, Kathy Griffin was pictured  in displaying the picture of a “beheaded bloody” Donald Trump. Oh yeah it was a gag. Funny. Poke your head as a joke. But it didn’t seen funny at at per se towards the Administration and of course young Barron.

But here is the thing, if many considered the Trump pic being graphic and offensive, what about this?

And I’m sure that we’ve seen this on Facebook.

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Oh we’re mad a Kathy’s​ picture, but totally forgot about when Obama got dissed with the pics of him being hung, burned in flames and other stuff. Hypocrites! You tend to forget, but hey it’s America right? And 45’s response is……..oh he has no response. Duh!

So Kathy apologized and admit that she went too far with the “joke”. And it costed her the gigs upcoming and her New Year’s Eve program with Anderson Cooper on CNN. Yes, CNN has New Year’s Eve specials now. All because she displayed a pic of 45 beheaded. Wow. And you know partially her career is over. But you know she’s going to get a gig anyway. Just wait. And to the conservative fools who though this was done, I have a question: Why isn’t Ted Nugent in jail after what HE said about Obama?! I smell hypocritical mess. We know it. And also many folks looking foolish about the mess about the negative talk about Michelle, Sasha and Malia. Hmm….what about that?!!!!!

That’s right. Dead Silence! Crickets!

And with that, the struggle continues on.


This whole thing about trolls are just whatever. We read about those everyday just making a fool of themselves everytime they put out a meme, a comment, a posting,  or making fun of someone or something that can lead to someone being banned from Social Media for life. Oh yes we know.

Henceforth, this is in relation to those  whom have no life by making those suffer. Oh yeah: what goes around, comes around.

Milo Yiannopoulos or whatever his name is, last year struck a nerve of SNL Actress and Ghostbusters Star Leslie Jones, all because what he was trying to do is to get her to have some thick skin of something like that. THICK SKIN?! REALLY?! All because of a movie that didn’t do justice that well in 2016. But what made matters worse it led to bullying online. This reminds me of those who want to “rib on those” just to gain attention. That’s all there is. And these “Ribbers” HAVE NO F-ING LIFE! They don’t. Oh by the way, Milo wants to have a scholarship for white folks. Let that sink in.

Fast Forward to 2017. I’m looking at Real Time With Bill Maher this past weekend, and the Milo dude was on the show talking about Free Speech, Trump, his Gay Lifestyle with Pearls, and all this other stuff. I’m like, Who cares? When I looked and listened to this goober, I’m like: Is this the dude that dissed Leslie Jones last year?! Dude looks like a rejected version Morph from X-Men Cartoons! Man, if this was back in the 1980’s he would have been beaten up in a school yard Street Fight. Oh yeah I said it! Back in the day, I got bullied all because of my size and difference. But sometimes I remembered saying this: sometimes you got to a fight back. Period. No matter if it was against some punk kid that kept harassing you all because you wouldn’t fight back. BUT HATERS BE DAM*ED! You will get fought back. Just wait.

I’m going to say this: Milo is a hypocrite. Yeah I said it. He, just any other person will go around and prance around thinking that all this talk poking fun per say is all about Free Speech. Sometimes that “Free Speech” will backfire. Folks who do all this “Shock Jock” comments is all for attention. 10 years ago, ex model Adrianne Curry had her Shock Jock moment when she wants blacks to get over slavery, and to boycott BET and Black History Month all for attention. Guess what? SHE FAILED! She’s not speaking now. She learned her lesson by not dissing black folks in a way of the verbiage “to get over slavery”. Sorry! Even I had a saying all that when Channel 6 here in Milwaukee had blogs!

Just as wise advice to summarize: Black History Month and BET are still alive. Like it or not.

So this Milo dude better be aware. (Warning Shot)

All that shock jocking he’s doing is going to fade out. And basically the best way do it is what Roland Martin suggested on Social Media: Ignore him. Oh yeah, Milo maybe winning the battle now according to those who agree with him per se, but HE WILL LOSE the war later! Trust me on that. And by ignoring this hater will do just that the most. And 10 years from now when I’m almost 50,  he’ll be nothing but a blemished memory that wasn’t all that anyway. Just like any other hater, or troll that will not matter. Not just in the schools, but also Online, at Work, in Church, at the Clubs, at Walmart, the Malls, Summerfest, or anywhere else. Even in the house!


Oh did you see the TV?

The 58th Inauguration of the new Administration has passed to you know who, which looked like a ghost town in Washington. But yesterday after looking at the remains, the Women’s March was like a new Tornado that swept in the bare spots that were heavily empty. I mean it was a jam packed wall to wall March and protest. In Washington, it was close to over 500,000 plus that shut the city down! Washington wasn’t the only city: New York City, LA, Seattle, Indianapolis, Chicago, Milwaukee, Boise, and Madison all had these demonstrations. Even London, Sydney, and not really thought about: Antarctica! Yes even Antarctica was in this demonstration as well.

Yeah, the March was cool. All the females from Gloria Steinem, to Janelle Monae, the Mothers of the Movement, Alicia Keys, which featured Maria Hamilton, mother of Dontre Hamilton was killed at Red Arrow Park in Milwaukee in 2014. Even men like Michael Moore, Jidenna, and Maxwell all appeared.

Like I said: that was a jammed packed event not only for empowerment, but also directed at one man: Donald Trump. The same Donald Trump whom back in 2005 had the quote “grabbing them by the p*ssy” on a well known daily entertainment TALK SHOW of Access Hollywood! And many of the females at the time had on the same shirts or jeans with messages about “Donald can grab my ****** anytime.” REALLY!  Talk about Locker Room conversations. But many might know that it wasn’t all those who said it.

The turn up for the march of course went high of course. But online, the turn down of the march: MEN. As I was viewing the live feeds of the march on Facebook Live, there were men of course that were talking smack if you will about the march, there’s going to be a whole lot of sandwiches missing, back in the kitchen talk, or um some black dude on a black TV host Facebook page saying it should be stopped, and bringing up about America’s problems of overseas. WHAT!!!!

OK MEN: Settle down. It wasn’t our march. It didn’t address our concerns. And if I wanted a freaking sandwich, I’ll get it myself. Men: I’m sure we had our hatefest about this march of women hearing them roar.

But my question is: when are WE AS MEN are going to have our own march? Like for real.

When are we going to march about our concerns of immigration?

When are we going to march about our concerns of jobs and careers?

When are we going to march about our concerns of finance?

When are we going to march about our concerns of health – OOPS!  Many of us are scared about going to the freaking doctor to get checked, and having the females to take over. Really? We got reproductive things too!

When are we going to march about our concerns about VOTING RIGHTS and CIVIL RIGHTS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about our Fathers, Sons, Uncles, Nephews, Grandfathers, Male Mentors that need those connections to bond? SPECIFICALLY, BLACK MEN!

CALLOUT: Hey Fraternities: All of you. BGLO (Alpha Phi Alpha, Kappa Alpha Psi, Phi Beta Sigma, Omega Psi Phi, and Iota Phi Theta), Service, and many others. What are you doing to reach out to Men, especially young males in your communities? What are you doing also to reach out to men that want to join your frats for life that want to help your cause? Not just the young crowds, but also the SEASONED VETS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about housing?

What about the MALE concerns of education? Besides that High School Diploma, job and not actually going further. Specifically with our sons, and other male relatives? Is college on the mind also?

When are we going to march about our concerns about: racism, sexism, body shaming (heck we body shame like crazy everyday), gun violence, the phobias of transgender, homosexuality, bullying in all angles, etc. Being single. Even Introverts, Ambiverts, Extroverts? Oh I know what it is: “We men don’t get all sensitive. Don’t bring that up to make us look weak.” Hate to say it, but it’s all ready out there. Females, stop laughing.  And don’t go all MLK and the dream with that one line!

When are we going to march for our OWN male needs? No disrespect to the women whom feel that the equal thing should be on the table, but the fact of the matter is, when I see all these women’s meetings and seminars, or events, where are the Men’s meetings? For example: in the church there are more reps for females than males. There are female meetings but not male meetings. There are females in the church per se whom support the church in sense of programs and events, but the men don’t. Except when the men might have a their own fundraiser and a day on Father’s Day to set aside to support.

I ASK AGAIN: WHEN ARE WE: THE MEN ARE GOING TO MARCH FOR OUR CONCERNS?

If many of the Men, whom were watching the Women’s March in DC or in their Cities, did anyone of male folk actually steal some ideas?

Men, we need to get to work. Straight up. Enough about us on the things that we can’t touch, but what about the things that the women can’t touch, but we can to propel our concerns? Hmmm………..think about it.

And also: Educated!

 

 

 


Oh for those of us whom of the Generation X, Y and Millennials whom are 18 and up to about 45, next week we like those many before us that have to make a decision: voting in a new administration for our country. Plus maybe activating or reactivating those whom want their seats back in the Senate, House, or others. No matter how we feel about the candidates or their stance, know this: WE NEED TO VOTE! No more hiding before the keyboards or being so called conscious about not voting period. The voting games maybe somewhat “rigged” but what are we doing to “unrig” it? Other than whining and complaining everything on Social Media or our cliques. Oh yes, I just went there.

To us voters between 18-45 years old:

It’s me, Stephen. You know that blogger you’ve noticed lately?

I haven’t written a blog letter in a minute, but I feel this is the blog letter that must be written. Our generation is in Crossroads mode.We see the signs of concern. Majority of us probably will and will not vote for a cluster of reasons. But look here: if you are not voting this Election Season towards the end of this year and write some stupid remark, then you must be dumb as hell. Do you realize that our future is on the line? Majority of us don’t have the caliber of our Baby Boomer and Greatest Generation counterparts who raised us to be where we are now. Yes, we have alot to be grateful for right now, but we must not overlook the playbooks that got us here in the first place. Many of us got great degrees, owing our stuff like clockwork. Nothing wrong with that. I see that everyday. But again, we didn’t get here on our own. Many of us know that we had folks whom acted wise and gave us butt whoppings acting up pushed us to a point where we want to be.

Had a chance to talk to my 70 year old mother today and we compared contrasts about why there are those of us who know about the assasinations of MLK and others in our history books, BUT NEVER LIVED IT! She highlighted that if it weren’t for Black people in Milwaukee years ago, there wouldn’t be black folks living near the Grand Aveune Mall or any other part of Wisconsin Avenue. And it seems that about the Millennials: the act of not acknowledging about the past before them and keeping it current is not right. If you are a Millennial and only will vote for the locals and not national is not a good idea. If you are a Gen Y that stated on Social Media that you will not vote: that is inexcusable! And if you a Gen Xer who would think that Daffy Duck, Casper the Ghost, Jesus Christ, Lion-O, Cobra Commander, Optimus Prime, Megatron, or Mickey Mouse would make the cut on your ballot, CLUELESS! That will get no play. NONE. And the thing is it’s like we don’t no part of this.

This also probably have ties to slavery in some ways that the way of thinking of back then, translates to now. Yeah I said it!  I know some of you probably don’t want to hear that, but guess what: It’s part of the painful truth like White Supremacy. And we in the black community know it.

Remember when Cory Booker talked about of the Gen X’ers  being on third base after all being drunk and happy like we don’t see the real reasons why we can’t have all this goodies that many of our folks fought hard to get! And I don’t give a care how educated we are. Yeah we got those degrees hanged up on our walls and offices. But many of US aren’t educated to give back to our Alumni functions for scholarships!  Hmmmmm…Oh you think I ruffled the feathers? I told the truth!

Many of us aren’t “educated enough” to go to the doctor, and yes ladies I know it’s “Movember” in which men have to be on our game when our health is on the line. But here’s my question, isn’t every month a Movember?! Whereas the every month is Aids, Cancer, Diabetes Prevention, Domestic Violence Awareness, Gun Violence Awareness, and any other Awareness on the calendar? Tell me I’m wrong! Not just men, but also women and children.

I need to see a “VOTING AWARENESS” Month. And it doesn’t matter whom is on the ballot, I just want to Vote Up!

I want to see a “CAREER AWARENESS” Month in which many of us whom are unemployed and underemployed that want to work and make a freaking LIVING! Many of us or some of us got that drive, but not actually executing it to the next level.

If we can have THOSE AWARENESS Months like Cancer, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Childhood Health,  Bullying, Gun Violence Awareness and any other awareness that we put up each month, I want to see a Career Awareness and a Voting Awareness month. I suppose you guys like that, huh?

For voting: I think we’re just not engaged. I think the sign came at the top of the year that 2016 will be a “Hard Election” in which the main Administration of the Obamas will be going out in January 2017. And yes, every single hater on the planet will be waving that goodbye flag in a racist manner. President Barack Obama will be deeply missed that he wasn’t that bad after all. Maybe there were those that should have given him more credit of the work he did. Maybe those so-called fools who decided to go against all the calls that Obama did try to bring out should have worked. Even fully try to decide the best course for the Afforable Care Act. In which like Black Lives Matter is working. That’s right I said it!

What does it all mean, you ask? Well yes we’ve made some great strides, but the work IS STILL NOT DONE! That means we have to work hard, do our jobs everyday, give back, fight the forces of racism, sexism, shaming, and any other ISM that is on our target list. For us black folks, we have to always work twice as hard. That will never change no matter who is in office. Enough of us being all so-called conscious after looking at Hidden Colors. Enough of all the mess. Enough of the “I gotta go get my hair done than voting” talk. If we can stand in line to get that new IPhone or at the club looking at Lil’ Boosie, can we stand in line to vote on November 8th and EVERY SINGLE ELECTION DAY AFTER THAT?!

The elders will be leaving us soon and they have already solidified the future, but it’s mainly up to us to take care of the things we have to do to extend the life of groups, organizations, churches, your business connections, the schools, colleges, Alumni Associations, and others. It’s not just the next four years, it’s the four after that. And so on.

So: GenX, Gen Y and Millennials: STOP BEING SO F-ING LAZY! Stop this being that “this won’t effect me”. Oh it will. After Election Day is done, don’t even think about complaining on Facebook, your texing buddies, or any other connection that you weren’t the ones who went to the polls and didn’t cast a ballot. I’ve been voting for 20 years out of my life and I voted in boring elections, high elections, and elections I never really cared about. Plus when Obama was being elected for the first time. But I still voted regardless and I don’t have a complaint to do it!

So why in THE HELL are we tripping? STOP THE PAIN! STOP THE LAZINESS! And just put away all this mess that voting that won’t make it. It will make it, but you have to put in the WORK! I don’t care if you hate Hillary’s guts or like her ideas, or despise the effect of Donald Trump and what he recently said about nasty women, the disabled, getting the clues of turning back the clock with Jim Crow,  and the on going talk about the 1994 Crime Bill that BILL CLINTON put into effect way back. Hillary had nothing to do with that. Let’s be clear on this. Now add that to the radio or websites.

This is not a reality show, nor back in High School where you used to believe EVERYTHING! But in reality, when leaving High School and those rumors, will be addressed and debunked personally.

VOTE UP!

Sincerely,

Stephen