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We all know that the month of October is an awareness of three concerns: Breast Cancer, Domestic Violence and Bully Awareness. Everytime we flip the calendar to the 10th month of Halloween we tend to remind ourselves that the issues and concerns of these items are still out there to be informed and also summarized. We get it. Hopefully. But in the recent acts of Sexual Assault discovered by Harvey Weinstein and many others whom did the act, many women are speaking out on the issue that many know very well. As they should. And even a black woman, Tarana Burke whom was a victim of Sexual Assault years ago formed the slogan “Me Too” 10 years ago is now continuing her message of the concerns and lessons she endured. And by the way for you Caucasian hashtaggers , you must know that the Me Too thing actually started by Tarana Burke, a black woman so don’t assumed you “just now” invented it.

Now I’m going to talk about a male’s point of view of being assaulted sexually and bullied. About three years ago, I attended my church’s Love Is event in the subject that dealth with domestic violence in relationships. One of the panelist was by the name of , from the Alma Center in Milwaukee. He was at the time gave a discussion about Domestic Violence from a Man’s Point of View. He talked about the subject called the Manbox. It was about in purpose about in certain times Men don’t get all emotional like women. Like crying. Or instead having you not cry to make sure you’re not weak. Or you have to hit women just because….When I was in the 9th grade at John Marshall High School, apparently I was in a school fight with another freshman at the time. The year was 1991 and it was in December, a week after my 15th birthday hard to believe. We were suspended for about two days since certain words were on repeat. When we were reinstated, a conversation was instilled about being ribbed on shouldn’t lead to fights. Even though that was so-called neutral, but I remember when my mother said that I was at a point where I was provoked. To the then VP of the school. So yes, I was provoked. And folks had to trip about who won the fight. So Ive been more defensive minded since my teen years which expands to this day! It seems that all this goes back to upbringings. Broken homes. The father was not at home or mother was always tripping. Or lack of self-esteem. Or when the pranks or the class clown thing will get his or hers a beat down after all the crap. Most of my MPS years I dealt with bullies. Even those on a sexual assault level that had almost gropped me back in Middle School! And the dude was “messing around.” Plus a female did that almost in the 9th grade as I was walking to class. And I’m like, no she didn’t! It seems like fun and games but it’s a freaking crime! This is not a joke. None. And for you females think it’s a joke and funny that a dude like me went through that, sorry it’s not funny. It’s not.

Why am I telling you this? Many must be like: really?! And what does all of this have to do with bulling and sexual assault? It kind of hit me: When you bully someone, it’s like sexual assault. You’re bullying someone that doesn’t want to be toyed with. Nor ribbed on. If you want that, you’re asking for trouble! Serious trouble. And you best believe that many who have been in that position, will speak out, blog it, or whatever in getting that message that it’s not cool!

If you are in high school or middle school (and I know you’ve been reading my blogs) and had this done to you, get a grown up to talk to. With all this going on with the Cyber bulling on Social Media, and the Sexting on smartphones and those that you can’t stand in a negative fashion in person, it’s time to not talk about it but also defend yourself! It’s time. Stop letting these fools and stupid dumb girls who bully you or sexually assault you to get away with murder! Men, we too have to stand up and declare that this is DEAD WRONG! Many of us Men probably had been gropped, or bullied or both at a time long ago, and many of us didn’t have answers. Now many of us whom have kids, or around kids we best believe that we have to do the protection thing more serious now.

And I should point out that there are “grown bullies” we have to deal with. Like Donald Trump. Yes I’m putting him in this. They are also called haters, racists, sextists, pacifists, all that and very evil. We have to put up with them everyday at work, church, the mall, the club, college rooms, and many other places of establishment. Even when you are looking for a job. And I know because I remember what I went through with the reaction of The Milwaukee Urban League did with me was very bully like from Betty Speed. She was indeed a bully attacking me for my content of my character and education in getting my degree from UW-Stout. Oh heck yes. So many times in Milwaukee I had to DEFEND my education from UW-Stout in a way that I have to tell the truth of what I was doing and having a balance. Manpower, Spherion, and other folks and goons both black and white all hating on a black man like me getting a college degree, by using Distance Education! Talk about being bullied.

And then when I had to go to Alumni functions for UW-Stout in Milwaukee,I felt that I need to “apologize” for not coming to the campus during my 4 years. But wait a minute: Something told me to say this. “Stephen, stop apologizing! Stop it right now. Yes you could have gone on Stout’s campus and completed your degree, but YOU opted to complete it by using Distance Education and getting it done in Milwaukee! You did it your way. Not their way!” End of story.

I know that the previous part had nothing to do with bulling or sexual assault. But partially it does matter in a sense that it will not hinder me to not fall for the “Okie Doke” that might spell Doom for me. They didn’t knew “jack squat” of my objective and goals. None. And that is so sad even in today’s era. Just like bullying.

Yep: Bullies suck! Just like those doing sexual assulting they will get caught and learn! Game over.

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For the second time, I had to sit in my chair and looking at all the upgraded mess in the land of 45. Believe me, I like many of you are still watching football and also being woke in a sense to counteractive with the nonsense that Ol’ Donnie has done.

Oh, what has Ol’ Donnie done now you ask? Same B.S. Everyday! We know it. Most recently another Hurricane struck Puerto Rico. I’m looking at this footage of 45 doing this crazy stunt. Look at this:

This is so stupid! Really. 45 tossing paper towels to the folks in Puerto Rico. Almost like shooting hoops. Um…this is not a basketball game!  It’s not a game, 45! You know better than this. As a matter of fact, he doesn’t know. And YOU the 50% plus percent, it’s your fault. You picked him. Let that sink in. And the rest of world would be like, “whelp those Americans are at it again. You had a great president like Barack Obama that did so well, but then elected a MORON like Donald J. Trump”. I know that many in the world doesn’t think that many of us Americans doesn’t think like him. OH NO! But many have this assumption that this is what America is about. We got the land of opportunity in all of that, but when it comes to NOT holding up the ideals, that is when we fall flat on our stomachs. We’ve been flopping for about 241 years since the declaration has been signed. And consequently, over 150 since the birth of Juneteenth Day. That’s right I said it!

But really, who in their right minds would do this and get away with this like murder? That is what this really is. Getting away with murder. And 45 is off to a bad start doing it. The irony of all this is, Donald Trump or the leader of the land of 45 in squeamish is getting away with this from trying to undo the ACA, in which many Americans need to keep up with the Health thing, and many of the things that Obama had, Trump is trying to undo! THAT IS WRONG! And last November that was the straw that broke the camel’s back! And now he wants to build a wall on the U.S.- Mexico border. Ironically, there is wall built on the border anyway. Investigate that!

In speaking of getting away with murder, “Forced Patriotism” is heck of a drug. And it seems that this MORONIC LEADER is still at it when it comes to the NFL. It’s a bunch of nonsense. Again: for all the veterans and servicemen and any other patriotic waving folks whom seem to be on the fence when it comes to the Anthem and Flag and the NFL Players kneeling, let me say this again as a veteran’s son: it’s not about the Flag nor about the National Anthem! Again it’s not about those. It’s about the ongoing concerns and problems whom blacks are the victims being killed for no reason. And it goes many years of being covered up and no one said this or that. Until we get old and gray. And further more, if the kneeling is such a hateful gesture, explain this to me:

 

We’ve seen it at Committal Services. Heck I’ve seen it this year at my Dad’s Funeral! And this is supposed to be disrespectful?!

Give me a break!

Literally.

Part IV is coming: Scratching my head all this time!


It’s a been a minute since I did a Three Way Dance. Well this is the “first” three way since my father’s passing, but like the last couple of blogs, it’s time to get back to work. Oh yes, I got something to say about the dance I want to bust out. More like shutdown.

First Dance:

Many of us in Milwaukee had been hearing and seeing on social media about this Drag Racing announcement in areas of where us citizens and the police might be distracted and it might go out with it. What I’m referring to is this:

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Oh do we have a problem. Look I had to block out the F-Word because on the real advertisement or “announcement” that is was fully explicit. Plus also the locations of this so called drag race might be going down this weekend at the places of the Midtown Center, 76th and Mill Road near the old Pick N Save spot (WHICH IS A CHURCH NOW!) and East Capitol. And also, this is a ad and potential drag race is made up for the young folks whom probably will have nothing to do in Milwaukee.

I’m looking at this ad on Facebook and I’m like really?! Why would our young people would do this and at three different locations in Milwaukee knowing the Milwaukee Police will be on watch anyway? You young folks in Milwaukee are very very dumb doing this. Oh please, you will be thinking about jail time when doing this. And we all got this programs and stuff to do in the summer coming up and this is the thanks we get?! Really?!!

Grown folks of Milwaukee, we need to up on our game. I know it’s the first day of June in which the LBGT, Black Music, Father’s Day, The first day of Summer and a hidden message of Men’s Health Month will all  play. But don’t overshadow that our youth folks who pull this stunt per se about Drag Racing in different parts of Milwaukee will get away. I’ll bet many even those whom are Police Officers and I dare say the Sheriff Departments will be watching because if any of them catch them and throw them in jail for racing or paying that hefty fine, don’t say nothing! As I say this: GET WOKE Y’ALL!

Second card: Again, Racism still exists.

I should say racism still exists no matter how the achievements and being black.  We all know that by now, LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers will be doing the job by defending their title in the NBA Finals. Against the “Dub Nation” that is. But this recent act about his LA house being tagged with the N-word, that game is in a whole other itself.

LeBron is a NBA Champion, an Olympic Medalist, came out the Midwest as one of the best in the East, and yes, is loaded with talent. But none that does not equate the hate he felt about his house being vandalized with the N-Word on his house. King James said this, by the way:

 

In 1998: I heard in church that it is hard being a BLACK MAN in AMERICA! You non-blacks who think it’s all smoke and mirrors, don’t know squat about us being faced with hate EVERYDAY! I got 2 college degrees, a part-time job as a secretary, doing work for my Alumni and giving back by helping out voters register and pretty soon, I’m going to run a Summer Program for my church, and this month I will mark 27 years as a member of my home church. But I’ll bet many might look at that and say that’s good for a black man. BUT I am constantly (CONSTANTLY) reminded that racism still exists. Even my Father way before he passed away said that exact same thing. That’s one lesson I’ll never forget. NEVER! I even encountered racism when I submitted a resume for a job here in Wisconsin 7 years ago and also about August of 2010, I got a letter from Florida that the company I submitted a resume to awhile back, didn’t accept any African-American applicants to be trained nor hired. And months later after October 2010, I was awarded $5000.00 because of my civil rights were violated because I was one of the black applicants that didn’t get hired properly. You see, there are those in Wisconsin that do want black folks to remain poor. Remain poor until they die. Seriously, Badger State?!

What also I’ve heard that FS1 Sports Analyst Jason Whitlock said that LeBron James hadn’t experience the real racism like Emmett Till did in 1955 when he was killed at 14. He also says that guys like LeBron’s statement of regarding race in all, effects the poor, not him.

Well that’s BS.

Sorry Jason, but no matter WHAT your achievement is, your accomplishments, your hardwork from the gutter, you hardships to success, your level of consciousness, your brand of melanin attitude, or anything that deals with the success of being successful thus far as an African-American Male or Female. But remember that one scene out of the show “A Different World” when Dwayne Wayne was responding to Dean Cain’s character:

 

Yes non-black folks, African-Americans BUILT THIS COUNTRY! No matter if were the first or the next, or behind the scenes, we built this nation. Yes, many of us don’t wave the flag as much, but we have the reality that we started this joint! But all alas, no matter what achievements we get, we still get called names. Hear that Jason?!! We still get called the N-Word out of ignorance. You got #45 talking about him taking shot from the haters while in the White House, but many of the Americans gave Obama (excuse my French,)HELL due to racism in all in his 8 years in Office! And this is supposed to be Post-Racial?!

Speaking of that: let’s go to the last dance.

Yesterday, Kathy Griffin was pictured  in displaying the picture of a “beheaded bloody” Donald Trump. Oh yeah it was a gag. Funny. Poke your head as a joke. But it didn’t seen funny at at per se towards the Administration and of course young Barron.

But here is the thing, if many considered the Trump pic being graphic and offensive, what about this?

And I’m sure that we’ve seen this on Facebook.

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Oh we’re mad a Kathy’s​ picture, but totally forgot about when Obama got dissed with the pics of him being hung, burned in flames and other stuff. Hypocrites! You tend to forget, but hey it’s America right? And 45’s response is……..oh he has no response. Duh!

So Kathy apologized and admit that she went too far with the “joke”. And it costed her the gigs upcoming and her New Year’s Eve program with Anderson Cooper on CNN. Yes, CNN has New Year’s Eve specials now. All because she displayed a pic of 45 beheaded. Wow. And you know partially her career is over. But you know she’s going to get a gig anyway. Just wait. And to the conservative fools who though this was done, I have a question: Why isn’t Ted Nugent in jail after what HE said about Obama?! I smell hypocritical mess. We know it. And also many folks looking foolish about the mess about the negative talk about Michelle, Sasha and Malia. Hmm….what about that?!!!!!

That’s right. Dead Silence! Crickets!

And with that, the struggle continues on.


Let me say this: Happy Mother’s Day to all of the Mothers who are grinding. Those whom are old school, new school, community, and many others. Oh yes it’s your day and you probably had a blast.

For now, I’m scratching my head again.

So James Comey got fired by #45. The same one that took down Hillary and the so-called emails.  Are we suprised?

Oh I see that the class of 2017 at Bethune Cookman College did not appreciate the presence of Betsy DeVos. And the folks on Social Media (in an opposite sense) had to call them disrespectful or “they won’t get any jobs” speech. Who’s the blame? Not the students! And for the record, she did talked “smack” about the HBCU Schools! Let’s be real.

If you’re a black graduate from Liberty University and just heard #45 spoke, and after the stuff he pulled so far, what is going through your mind?

What’s it going to take to solve this? Seeing a bunch of folks protecting a statue with torches?

Really, Steve Harvey? You fired your staff and having this “shield” that you don’t want to talk? Dude, stop!

Is Facebook really that hypocritcal? You get your movie clips with music banned but they don’t remove a pic with someone being hanged. Really?

Most recently, there have been alot of Sky Fox drones for news. Can there be more Sky Fox drone Jobs? Hmmmmm…..

In Wisconsin, can there be “Telepresence Jobs” and “Fab Lab Jobs” in the making for us over 30 years old? Training perhaps? With Bachelor’s and such.

Who is making all these so called memes about the Holy Bible and Slavery? Like the design and slave boats?

Does Wisco have a “Real Strong” candidate against Scott Walker? I mean a real strong candidate? No weak folks in 2018!

So folks hate these “spinning fidgits” that are being advertised. Being all distractive. How so?

Why I don’t see more POC in the Sons of The American Legion, Auxillary Legion or the Legion Riders? Especially in areas where not enough POC’s reside? I think they need to expand it more to the minority communities.

Milwaukee: did we enjoyed the 2nd Annual MPS Alumni Reunion?

Looking at the polls about the firing of James Comey. 29% only approve of his removal. What about the other percentage?

Milwaukee: what about that streetcar construction?

Why is #45 using the word “tapes”?

Glad to see that the Obamas are not going away. Good. Will the haters listen yet again?

Why is hazing still a problem in Fraternities and Sororities that lead to death? I don’t know it’s time to use a background check on the groups.

Dang, why was a 15 year old black teenager Jordan Edwards, who had straight A’s was recently killed in a car by a local police department in Texas? Did his life (black life) mattered? Oh I don’t hear the “All Lives Matter” groups talking now!

Ok. I have to say this: why was Elizabeth Warren and Bernie Sanders took on the salary speaking funds that Barack Obama is getting?  Let the man get his paper!

Alot of the haters still hate on the Affordable Care Act. And those are supposed to be “Gun Touring Christians and follow the Good Book to screw others” in all. And I’m saying this as a Christian! Um….explain the details of why that about 29 million Americans should not get any coverage of pre-existing conditions. Explain why that those who are diagnosed with Diabetes, MS, Cancer, Heart Disease, or any other health concern should not get nothing to treat! Y’all making me run back to the medical folks for physical. Dang!

And the last question is…….. Mothers, are you blessed once again for Mothers Day? Enjoy and have fun. And always honor those whom are not here physically but around spiritually.

Speaking of which, I will be doing a Father’s Day Scratching head in honor of my father, and other fathers whom are eternally resting. And those whom have stepped up to the plate that act upon like fathers. It will be special. Stay tuned.


It’s been a hot minute since the scratching my head blog has been unleashed. I know it’s been a couple of weeks since my father passed and still dealing with the fact he’s gone.

But I still have something to say about the not so happy current affairs of the country and the world. So here it is.

Why do certain folks have an issue of Angela Rye’s shirt: “We built this joint for free!” Knowing it’s the truth when it concerns African Americans? 

Why do certain folks (Church Minded) have to get attacked knowing that they have to go harder every single time in and out of the four walls?

Is going after North Korea really all that? 

What’s this? Bill O’Reilly got fired from Fox News? And the station is under fire of racial discrimination of it’s black employees. Why hasn’t no one seem to realize that racism still rears its ugly head in America’s DNA? Especially at Fox News!

Stop hating on the Milwaukee Streetcar, Milwaukee. You know folks need jobs right?

Who was so glad to hear Former President Obama’s voice after all this mess of 45?

Men, when the women had Women’s History Month in March, we realize that every “Movember” is our International Men’s Month, right? Why trip?

The Republicans failed to sign away the Affordable Care Act. Why didn’t they say something to change it then 7 years ago? Oh, they were still hating on Obama.

Was Shea Moisture really that marketable to black women? 

For the Serena Williams haters worldwide: she’s beating you. Why hate her and her choice of marriage, and her soon to be child? And Black Kings(and queens): let it go.

Is anyone feeling the Milwaukee Bucks lately? #FearTheDeer #DeerRun

Yo, this Eric Thames “talk” about him doing roids or juicing is nothing but a distraction. Dude was tested three times and nothing came out bad. So what is the real problem? Where are the test results?!! We speculte too much, Americans.

Can African American Men be relaunchers for Adult Internships too? 

If moving out of Milwaukee is a solution to get away from violence, why do the suburban areas have issues of drug problems? And some violence issues too? My father once said, “it’s bad everywhere.”

In 2018: the midterms are coming. Midterm Elections. Can Wisco get rid of Scott Walker and David Clarke for real? 

Introvert folks, are we still good? 

So the State of Wisconsin has this problem of 80,000 plus jobs that need to be filled. As well as Milwaukee. And the companies all say “we need to find people.” Well what is the real problem with hiring, matching, education, training and transportation, in getting that job? 

Was the “Mother of all Bombs” really that necessary in Syria?

So the Nintendo Switch is out. Who is really waiting to see if us “grownfolks” gamers can try it? 

Milwaukee: you realize our 2nd MPS Alumni Reunion is coming in May, right? 

I need to ask this question: and it’s for those who wished reunions. Why do many get mad about a so so class reunion that tried to happen but didn’t work? Also why get mad at all class reunions? You know you can use that to generate your class reunions right?

Why is there not enough representation for African Americans when it comes to groups like The American Legion and it’s subgroups? Note: some of them might have been or are American Legion members.

Why is Wisconsin “the state so far” doesn’t do expungements?

Really Ivanka Trump? Your father is a champion when it comes to women? You know what he said to Billy Bush, right?

Question: is it a check up, or a physical? Make up your minds when going to the doctors, folks. Jeez.

Should TJ Watt be a Green Bay Packer?

In May, Military Appreciation Month is approaching. Why do we get “Veterans Day” and “Memorial Day” mixed up? 

I need to ask: why did we sent our kids back to school the DAY AFTER EASTER?! Back in my day, we started our spring break on Good Friday, then the week was nothing but a break. And the week after, it was back in the classrooms. Explain!

Do folks really believe the fake news on Social Media that folks display? 

Why do folks have to test the Bible in what the folks who want to say that the people are right and the Good Book is bad? Seriously.

If you are a single man with no kids and not married (Especially if you’re Black) why the barrage of assumptions from women who wanted them to have kids and a wife? Um….Last I checked: kids cost money! And many women today have gone “Independent”. Society does suck.

And the last question to ask: Is the truth dead? Or just opinionated? 

I’m back, folks. Get woke! Stay empowered.


For the last three and a half weeks, it’s been a nightmare shocking whirlwind of the death of my father. For the first time here on WordPress, I’m going to summarize the feeling that I experienced losing Dad. This post will be in three parts.

The last time I saw my father alive was Sunday, February 19th, 2017. He was last looking at a picture album full of past funeral bulletins in the last decade or so. As my father was looking at the book and summarizing the funreal programs of my Grandparents, Aunts and Uncles (his parents and siblings) he realized to my mother that he was the last one. The last of the 10. My Dad was the youngest of the five brothers, my uncles. His last visit to my sister’s house in Milwaukee, was February 21st, 2017. He told my mother that he had to go to the store, and then home. He also told my sister that he was prepared to leave. That was the last time collectively within those two days we saw him alive.

A couple days later, my sister had to be admitted to the hospital for her health needs. And all day my mother had been calling Dad. Finding out where he was in all. No answer. Same day, no Answer.When Thursday came, I was going to my Aunt’s house to take over a recipe for a Black History Month Event at a Milwaukee Elementary School. It was a Thursday night watching Scandal and getting prepared. After a middle of that, I received a call from my mother to see how things are going.She also advised me to go over to the house to check in on Dad to see how he was doing. Plus again, no answer. So after I left my Aunt’s house I headed over my parents house. First I called into the house. No answer. Then I walked to the front door and rang the doorbell. Nothing.Then I checked the mailbox and it was full. That was odd to me because it’s not like my father to keep the mailbox this full. He usually takes in the mail and sorts it for myself, my sister and mother. Then I went around to the backdoor to try to gain access to the door. One vital factor,I needed the keys to get in. I had to return to my sister’s house to get the keys in my backpack. Then while I was there, I dropped off the cornbread and called the house to see if my father would pick up. I left a voicemail message to see if he would answer it. No avail. And I told myself that “if he doesn’t answer in the next fifteen minutes, I’m going over there.” So I got back in my mother’s minivan and returned to my parents house. Having a feeling of being scared I went inside just to see what’s been going on. I accessed the backdoor to get into the house yet again. While looking around I had my mother on the cell checking in. I looked upstairs to see if was there. Nothing. Along the way in the living room and nothing but his brown hoodie on the couch next to his Vietnam Veteran Flag. But then, I went downstairs to the basement, where his Entertainment Room was full of movies and CD’s, plus a table, an easel drawing from 1991. And my father was on the floor. I told my mother, “Mom, Dad’s on the floor!” And she asked “what do you mean he’s on the floor?” I called out to Dad to wake him up. Even I shook him a bit to wake him up. I checked his pulse on his neck and wrist. No pulse. Nothing. Then I told Mom that he was not responding.  I called 911 to have the parimedics to come, and while they were arriving I turned him over to have him face up, then did the CPR compressions to try to revive him. His head was slightly bloodied appeared he hit his head hard. And his Right Arm was bloodied with his blood tissue sticking out.  (Warning Graphic Words) When the Parimedics came, they took over and asked the questions. Moments later my mother called to see if we’re there any results, but the bad news that my father who gave me his name….had been dead for two days. I was shocked and numb! And sad. My mother and sister: Sad. Grieving. I was in disbelief. MY OWN FATHER!!! My 69 year old father, died. I was just absolutely shocked sad and numb all around. Later on , the Milwaukee Police Department came over to investigate the basement where he died. And between the police and the Parimedics, I had to answer the tough questions like: “When was the last time you talked with him?” My mind kept thinking back to Sunday, February 19th for a reason. In which that was the final time I saw him alive. Another question: “What kind of medications was he taking? He was taking his medications to upkeep his health, including his blood sugar to see how he was doing in which at the time was his focus. “Was he a smoker? At the time, Dad quit smoking in October 2009 after a major colon surgery. Which he lived to talked about it. And other Health conditions in all. With all that going on, I had to take control of the situation. I didn’t panic, nor freak out. I maintained my composure, answered the many questions as possible and they were impressed. I told them about the work history of what my father did from Allis Chalmers, Pfister and Vogel Tannery, the VA Medical Center and the US Postal Service. Plus I mentioned his military service with the US Army and served during the Vietnam War. I also described an attire that he wore the most of his dark blue shirts, blue jeans & shoes. He usually dressed like that in order to do work around the house, or other houses if needed.

My relatives mostly my cousins, aunt’s and uncles, all came over. Plus for a stint, it was dead silence. And the thunderstorm was brewing above with hailstones early Friday Morning. Later, my pastor and his wife came over to check out the situation. After many was assembled we all had prayer. I started to say that “you know me since the beginning. You know what I’m about”. After the prayer, I was given the honors to cover up my Dad with a yellow sheet. But before I did that, I uttered the words “you empowered me sir. You Empowered me!” And I made another vow “I got your back.” After I covered him up, I went back upstairs with the family by shutting the doors. Plus there were others from the Milwaukee County Coroner’s office wanted additional info to provide in all. Moments later, my pastor and one of my older cousins wanted to see Dad. I took them downstairs to the room, uncovered the sheet and at the moment, my pastor have given a prayer at the spot. He wanted to see him, and he did. Not a good look for my cousin’s reaction with grief. After that, we went back upstairs with me covering up the sheet and closing the door. Much later, I felt I needed to take a break, and sat in my Dad’s bedroom. Then, my mother came in the house, sobbing. And she called out my name when I was upstairs. I went to her immediately and hugged her tight. She thanked me for coming over knowing that I had felt scared of what happened to Dad. She was relieved of that part. Later on she wanted to go downstairs to see Dad. Along the way, she saw his last meal of greens and Barbecue Porkchops. As myself, my mother and uncle went downstairs, I opened the doors and the three of us hugged each other tightly while grieving. All she saw was him covered up except his foot. And after that, I closed the doors to his Entertainment room. Much later, here come the Undertakers. The representatives from a local Funeral Home stopped by to get Dad out of the room and with him covered. They got him and took him away to do further summarizations of his death and what lead to it.

After that, I looked to the heavens and told my late grandparents, aunts and uncles that “S.T. is home.” Meaning that he was on his way to be with them. S.T. was my Dad’s nickname growing up.

Many of us had our hugs, but I had many of them the most. After all that, this was the most hard beginnings I began to endure.

Part two of “Losing Dad” will continue featuring the hard facebook post, and preparations for his funeral.


This whole thing about trolls are just whatever. We read about those everyday just making a fool of themselves everytime they put out a meme, a comment, a posting,  or making fun of someone or something that can lead to someone being banned from Social Media for life. Oh yes we know.

Henceforth, this is in relation to those  whom have no life by making those suffer. Oh yeah: what goes around, comes around.

Milo Yiannopoulos or whatever his name is, last year struck a nerve of SNL Actress and Ghostbusters Star Leslie Jones, all because what he was trying to do is to get her to have some thick skin of something like that. THICK SKIN?! REALLY?! All because of a movie that didn’t do justice that well in 2016. But what made matters worse it led to bullying online. This reminds me of those who want to “rib on those” just to gain attention. That’s all there is. And these “Ribbers” HAVE NO F-ING LIFE! They don’t. Oh by the way, Milo wants to have a scholarship for white folks. Let that sink in.

Fast Forward to 2017. I’m looking at Real Time With Bill Maher this past weekend, and the Milo dude was on the show talking about Free Speech, Trump, his Gay Lifestyle with Pearls, and all this other stuff. I’m like, Who cares? When I looked and listened to this goober, I’m like: Is this the dude that dissed Leslie Jones last year?! Dude looks like a rejected version Morph from X-Men Cartoons! Man, if this was back in the 1980’s he would have been beaten up in a school yard Street Fight. Oh yeah I said it! Back in the day, I got bullied all because of my size and difference. But sometimes I remembered saying this: sometimes you got to a fight back. Period. No matter if it was against some punk kid that kept harassing you all because you wouldn’t fight back. BUT HATERS BE DAM*ED! You will get fought back. Just wait.

I’m going to say this: Milo is a hypocrite. Yeah I said it. He, just any other person will go around and prance around thinking that all this talk poking fun per say is all about Free Speech. Sometimes that “Free Speech” will backfire. Folks who do all this “Shock Jock” comments is all for attention. 10 years ago, ex model Adrianne Curry had her Shock Jock moment when she wants blacks to get over slavery, and to boycott BET and Black History Month all for attention. Guess what? SHE FAILED! She’s not speaking now. She learned her lesson by not dissing black folks in a way of the verbiage “to get over slavery”. Sorry! Even I had a saying all that when Channel 6 here in Milwaukee had blogs!

Just as wise advice to summarize: Black History Month and BET are still alive. Like it or not.

So this Milo dude better be aware. (Warning Shot)

All that shock jocking he’s doing is going to fade out. And basically the best way do it is what Roland Martin suggested on Social Media: Ignore him. Oh yeah, Milo maybe winning the battle now according to those who agree with him per se, but HE WILL LOSE the war later! Trust me on that. And by ignoring this hater will do just that the most. And 10 years from now when I’m almost 50,  he’ll be nothing but a blemished memory that wasn’t all that anyway. Just like any other hater, or troll that will not matter. Not just in the schools, but also Online, at Work, in Church, at the Clubs, at Walmart, the Malls, Summerfest, or anywhere else. Even in the house!



Oh it’s time once again to go back to the learning tree.

For this: it’s once again that my centerpiece is set for Black History Month. No millennials, not black futures month, or a thing being conscious month. Black History Month is back again being 91 years old, and yes there many of us who think we know everything that is Black History. Or do we?

Like many years before, there are spoiler alerts: Stop me if you heard this one:

“I celebrate my people everyday.”

Or: “Every month is Black History Month.”

Or: “Black History Month begins January 1st and ends December 31st”.

Or: “I’m Black Everyday.”

Oh really? Hear me out.

How many of us in the black communities and classrooms, homes and churches and many others (including Social Media) do actually believe that when we say that, it’s almost we’re lying to ourselves?

Think about it. Years back on this blog again, I ask this same question:

What (in the H.E. Double Hockey Sticks) do we do everyday?

We are at work, school, in line to buy that new gadget, that line of weave, that line of new Jordans, that latest new single by J. Cole or a underrated rock band, or the list goes on and on! And the thing is, the age range is not a factor. You mean to tell me we can list all the sports records in Football and how the Atlanta Falcons CHOKED in the 51st SuperBowl(after beating Green Bay Twice), but can’t recite the reasons why black players couldn’t make the roster because of skin color? Or many of us love guns/militarism. Why wasn’t the US Military at the time had black servicemen who did their job for their country, but never got love for the country they served for?

I want to jump back to the quote of “celebrating our people everyday” and such.

If we really celebrate our people everyday, where are those who have NOT BEEN CELEBRATED?! Where are they at? How many of us who bleed that quote of celebrating us everyday never gave the flowers to those whom always been hidden every single time.  It’s always the front runners, the lead dogs, those that got the first divas for being out more than those that didn’t get one trophy for the hard work. And they have been grinding! What about those whom you got on your Social Media lists that has all those boat loaded accomplishments that you read about, but have this so-called opinion of them being so radical with actions or whatever and you don’t say nothing to be appreciative? Some of you may know where I’m going with this! But here’s the kicker. Many of us don’t hardly acknowledge it as much, while still being ALIVE!

5 years ago in February, Whitney Houston’s Funeral was taking place. And one of her former Bodyguards said something about giving flowers to those whom are living. That’s real talk. Every black man, and of course every black woman should be given their flowers RIGHT NOW for not only the appreciation of work, or a birthday, an anniversary, or being a good citizen or family member or friend, but still around.

CALLOUT: Especially us Black Males need that too! 

Many of us give flowers at a time of funerals. But that person lying in a casket or ashes in urns never got the chance to smell the roses while living. We need to recognize and check ourselves that yes, life is short. Anyone of us could be taken out for selfish or health reasons of anytime. That’s also real talk!

And about the phrase: “I’m black everyday or every month.”

Well duh! Of course many of us in the black community are black everyday! And I hope it’s not a diss towards Black History Month. I’ll admit that yes we got this pride of being a proud black man or a proud black woman. We got pride of recognizing our culture, our objectives, our purpose and our existence. We know.

However: I have to stress this, there are those of us whom are NOT proud of our heritage! Inner hate. Being ashamed. Being disregarded of not acknowledging the thought of having a prideful positive outlook of being black overall. Stop me if you have heard this before.

When black folks say “I’m black everyday”, I say: of course! And I dare say: what else?

  • Are you black everyday and helping out your community?
  • Are you black everyday and give back to your Alumni?
  • Are you black everyday and providing a value of support in your families, churches, fraternities, sororities, neighborhoods, and your place of employment?
  • Are you black everyday and giving back overall of the work after you somewhat post on Facebook, and other social media outlet?
  • Are you black everyday and not dissing or shaming the culture that many of us made fun of when we were younger?
  • Are you black everyday that after you have all those meetings and actually go over and review of what happened and how to make it better for the merrier?
  • Are you black everyday (talking to the men) whom don’t do the domestic violence thing, or dissing the health needs, dissing the black women in a ego sense, or financial concerns?
  • Are you black everyday, (talking to the women) who don’t diss all black men whom you think that they are dogs, ain’t all that like some thug, not being appreciated or loved, supportive, or not very extroverted like many of you, or who assumes that he has to make the same amount of cash, or whatever like many of you? As well as not dissing your needs of medical or finance?
  • Are we black everyday, and not hating on our educational values?
  • Are we black everyday and not hating on each other for clothes, money, what you don’t have, when forcing someone to speak, a certain game console, shoes, gadgets, food supply, or anything that is not worthy of being jealous?
  • Are we black everyday and fighting against racism, the gangs, prostitution,  etc?
  • Are we black everyday and do the Christian or religious related thing to things that matter and thinking it straight?
  • Are we black everyday and having a goal to have a better value of our history and future?
  • Are we black everyday and vote in every Election? Should have thought about that in November.
  • Are we black everyday like we supposed to be black everyday ? Just asking.

MASSIVE CALLOUT: We need to be real!

Oh and white folks: look, don’t ask the same tired question about when is a “White History Month” going to happen. Clearly you guys got every month locked in on the freaking calendar. Stop playing with yourselves!

Later on before the month is out, I’ll be doing a review of what was I think stood out in #BHM2017.

But for now: My #BHM2017 centerpiece is displayed on the table while staying in the struggle.

 


Oh did you see the TV?

The 58th Inauguration of the new Administration has passed to you know who, which looked like a ghost town in Washington. But yesterday after looking at the remains, the Women’s March was like a new Tornado that swept in the bare spots that were heavily empty. I mean it was a jam packed wall to wall March and protest. In Washington, it was close to over 500,000 plus that shut the city down! Washington wasn’t the only city: New York City, LA, Seattle, Indianapolis, Chicago, Milwaukee, Boise, and Madison all had these demonstrations. Even London, Sydney, and not really thought about: Antarctica! Yes even Antarctica was in this demonstration as well.

Yeah, the March was cool. All the females from Gloria Steinem, to Janelle Monae, the Mothers of the Movement, Alicia Keys, which featured Maria Hamilton, mother of Dontre Hamilton was killed at Red Arrow Park in Milwaukee in 2014. Even men like Michael Moore, Jidenna, and Maxwell all appeared.

Like I said: that was a jammed packed event not only for empowerment, but also directed at one man: Donald Trump. The same Donald Trump whom back in 2005 had the quote “grabbing them by the p*ssy” on a well known daily entertainment TALK SHOW of Access Hollywood! And many of the females at the time had on the same shirts or jeans with messages about “Donald can grab my ****** anytime.” REALLY!  Talk about Locker Room conversations. But many might know that it wasn’t all those who said it.

The turn up for the march of course went high of course. But online, the turn down of the march: MEN. As I was viewing the live feeds of the march on Facebook Live, there were men of course that were talking smack if you will about the march, there’s going to be a whole lot of sandwiches missing, back in the kitchen talk, or um some black dude on a black TV host Facebook page saying it should be stopped, and bringing up about America’s problems of overseas. WHAT!!!!

OK MEN: Settle down. It wasn’t our march. It didn’t address our concerns. And if I wanted a freaking sandwich, I’ll get it myself. Men: I’m sure we had our hatefest about this march of women hearing them roar.

But my question is: when are WE AS MEN are going to have our own march? Like for real.

When are we going to march about our concerns of immigration?

When are we going to march about our concerns of jobs and careers?

When are we going to march about our concerns of finance?

When are we going to march about our concerns of health – OOPS!  Many of us are scared about going to the freaking doctor to get checked, and having the females to take over. Really? We got reproductive things too!

When are we going to march about our concerns about VOTING RIGHTS and CIVIL RIGHTS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about our Fathers, Sons, Uncles, Nephews, Grandfathers, Male Mentors that need those connections to bond? SPECIFICALLY, BLACK MEN!

CALLOUT: Hey Fraternities: All of you. BGLO (Alpha Phi Alpha, Kappa Alpha Psi, Phi Beta Sigma, Omega Psi Phi, and Iota Phi Theta), Service, and many others. What are you doing to reach out to Men, especially young males in your communities? What are you doing also to reach out to men that want to join your frats for life that want to help your cause? Not just the young crowds, but also the SEASONED VETS?

When are we going to march about our concerns about housing?

What about the MALE concerns of education? Besides that High School Diploma, job and not actually going further. Specifically with our sons, and other male relatives? Is college on the mind also?

When are we going to march about our concerns about: racism, sexism, body shaming (heck we body shame like crazy everyday), gun violence, the phobias of transgender, homosexuality, bullying in all angles, etc. Being single. Even Introverts, Ambiverts, Extroverts? Oh I know what it is: “We men don’t get all sensitive. Don’t bring that up to make us look weak.” Hate to say it, but it’s all ready out there. Females, stop laughing.  And don’t go all MLK and the dream with that one line!

When are we going to march for our OWN male needs? No disrespect to the women whom feel that the equal thing should be on the table, but the fact of the matter is, when I see all these women’s meetings and seminars, or events, where are the Men’s meetings? For example: in the church there are more reps for females than males. There are female meetings but not male meetings. There are females in the church per se whom support the church in sense of programs and events, but the men don’t. Except when the men might have a their own fundraiser and a day on Father’s Day to set aside to support.

I ASK AGAIN: WHEN ARE WE: THE MEN ARE GOING TO MARCH FOR OUR CONCERNS?

If many of the Men, whom were watching the Women’s March in DC or in their Cities, did anyone of male folk actually steal some ideas?

Men, we need to get to work. Straight up. Enough about us on the things that we can’t touch, but what about the things that the women can’t touch, but we can to propel our concerns? Hmmm………..think about it.

And also: Educated!

 

 

 


For many of us, it’s the last leg for President Barack Obama and Family. He will always be a type of President that many will talk about for years to come.

HOWEVER: there are those who felt that he didn’t do enough or should have been more on the Black Community over the Gays, Women, and many others. Of course, we can talk about the times that the Republicans REFUSED to have the vote in, the ACA, jobs, and world issues. And of course we can talk about the many many times that some goober talked about “YOU LIE” and many other hate angles. Oh, including that Mitch McConnell said that he would be a one term president. We know that bullet was dodged.

So today, being that it’s the day that we celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr. And the hopes that many WILL learn besides the dream. King wasn’t always about I Have A Dream. More on that later. With today being for MLK, I’m shifting the focus on the past 8 years that America Had it’s Black President for real and for the yahoos, racists, haters, sellouts, and wackos who felt he didn’t deserve it: YES HE DID!

Who thought that the 8 years was so positive for Obama?

Did the Republicans really succeed badly when they decided to go against Obama?

Why did the “Blue Dog” Democrats had sold out?

They say that Obama was a socialist. REALLY?!

When was the day that Obama had to really defend himself?

Many of you must have forgotten that Barack got a Nobel Peace Prize, right?

Oh for the forgotten doors: Why so much has been asked what he had done? Another reason why Americans have some short memory spans. And I’m not talking about the older folks. Younger folks don’t remember much either. SAD!

So the soon-to-be President Donald Trump had Barack to produce his Birth Certificate and many had followed. You do realize that was a dumb move, right?

Why did Fox News feared Barack’s middle name “Hussein”?

Oh when the time that Osama Bin Laden was killed, were you  or anyone else cheering along with the President’s decision then?

For you: the Tea Party jack offs: Why so racist? Like really!

Has EVERY COLLEGE really had to dig deep about the degrees and jobs that Obama made a declaration to check on?

Has EVERY ORGANIZATION of Debt, or Credit Checks, really assigned themselves well after a few changes when OBAMA made that declaration?

Oh let’s talk education again: specifically community colleges. Have many of us realized that Community Colleges cannot be slept on? Also like science fairs for the kids?

For all you conspirators and jack offs: why making all this mess about him wanting to be killed?

For all you Michelle Obama haters: yeah those kept those so called “ape in heels”, or “she should act more First Lady Like” or like Wisconsin Rep. Jim Sensenbrenner said something about her having a big butt, or others making ridiculous comments about her outfits or just her in general  that weren’t as lady like: Do you ALL realize that you sounded so stupid after making those remarks, and many of you probably don’t have jobs now?

For all you Sasha and Malia Haters: you know that ignorance is a mitch, right?!

And folks, were we so overboarded when Sasha wasn’t at her father’s last speech?

And also: that time when Malia was at Lollapalooza in Chicago and yes she was being a normal carefree teen at 18. But did we really OVERREACT that much?  Yes, Malia will learn accountability as she grows up. 18 doesn’t mean much that well per se.

What about Malia taking a year off before starting college? Should all High School Graduates follow that same procedure?

Did the losers like John McCain and Mitt Romney actually learned their lessons after losing to Barack in 2008 and 2012?

Did Black Entertainment really rocked when Obama was in office?

Did Hip Hop really rocked when Obama was in office? So many Obama references in rap songs like crazy.

For all of the black media: BET, TVOne, Podcasts, Social Media sites, Newspapers, Radio Shows, Magazines, Blogs, Articles, and more: was all that appreciated of the JOLT of Confidence by our work to archive for the Obama-Biden Crew?

For all of the black businesses that printed up Obama T-shirts, hats, buttons, sweaters, jackets, in all: Can we do more of that even after Obama is not in office?

For all the black supporters that backed Obama since DAY ONE: did we really back him up other than hearing the speeches?

For all the black churches that invited Obama to speak: was it good?

For all of the Joe Biden haters: have you disregarded him too much?

Joe Biden was the huge F-ing deal as VP. Agree or Disagree?

Yes, Barack and Joe had the bromance thing going. We know. But others are asking why and how. Really?

Obamacare was the jolt for healthcare. Why are those wanting to kill it for those who want to be insured, get checked, pay less, etc?

For those whom are major confused: Obamacare and the Affordable Care Act are the same thing! Why is that so hard?

 

Did anyone of us got lucky when we can finally take pictures IN THE WHITE HOUSE?

Why do republicans as much want to erase everything that Obama did like he never existed? Hate does come into play.

CALLOUT: For all of my conscious, hotep, and sometimes not connectable black people: what was it that Obama wanted to do for us?

CALLOUT: For all of my conscious, hotep, and sometimes not connectable black people: what was it that Obama should have done for us besides well, being President of the United States?

CALLOUT: For all of my conscious, hotep, and sometimes not connectable black people: did we really partied that much in these 8 years?

CALLOUT: For all of my conscious, hotep, and sometimes not connectable black people that didn’t do enough: why are we mad now that Donald Trump is going in? EXPLAIN! Put down the Hidden Colors and Dr. Umar Johnson speeches for a moment. Just explain why.

CALLOUT: For all of my conscious, hotep, and sometimes not connectable black people that didn’t vote (as well as everyone else): REALLY?

For all the international folks, can you really remind us that Obama was the best thing that America had since Kennedy or Bill Clinton?

CALLOUT: For the international folks that hated Obama. Called him a monkey and all that mess, you realize that your racism is just as deadly as America, right? And you know who you are. Don’t front!

For the racists: You really think that Black Lives Matter was linked with Obama all this time?

About that 60% approval rating though. Really? Yeah really though.

For all the gun freaks: were you really that scared that Barack was coming for your Guns way after the gun issues were handed out? Oh, he Skeet Shooted at Camp David with a rifle. Hmmmm………..

For the misinformed that were way too misinformed about Obama: when will you get your facts straight? Besides him where he was born, got his education, his teachings, his first jobs, etc!

For the doubters: have you underestimated Obama by a slight margin?  Or should I say a big margin?

Who is getting Obama’s book when it comes out in the near future?

Anyone is still or will continue to donate to OFA and/or My Brother’s Keeper? And the female groups?

Did GM rocked the house after the bail out for jobs? Plus the jobs that bounced back to positive digits?

What group of folks are still hating on Community Organizers? Don’t front!

Will this President inspire those to run for office, especially of color?

Will the Obama-Biden Crew continue to be a force that no one can NEVER EVER overstep or deny

And the last question. After 8 years, one term in Illinois: Will you miss “the hell “out of President Barack Hussein Obama II? Admit the guilt.