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Ok, I need to say something about this. Women, and those women who read my stuff, quick question: have you really had a blessed International Women’s Day? I’ll leave that up to you to ponder.

My emphasis is really focused on your day being asked the same tired question about this: “When is International Men’s Day?”

Oh don’t lie. Many of us dudes and yes some of you females been asking about a day that is set aside for the men to rejoice of being recognized. Yes I’m talking to you! We’ve seen it over and over again: November 19th. Annually. Every single year. And yet we get mad. Wanna get mad? Get mad and vote out the Republican fools that follow the “Make America Great Again” stuff. And yes Women, in regarding this, some of you probably voted or rooted for Trump in 2016. Tried to tell you.

Now let lay in the horn on the whining. Why was there was “whining” about a International Men’s Day on the International Women’s Day of March 8th?! Taking a deep thought breath here. I can list two to four:

1) Information is Power.

2) Folks are searching for knowledge. Repeated knowledge that many know.

3) Folks really want to know.

And 4) Google and Wikipedia are really a rally source that many don’t access or choose.

There are choices here. I did a Google search here without falling off the cliff last year. I saved my energy for saving of searching for an International Men’s Day. And also I realized that the International Men’s Day does have a website. Matter of fact, here it is:

And the theme for 2018: “Positive Male Role Models”.

From the website, these are the objectives:

Objectives of International Men’s Day include a focus on men’s and boy’s health, improving gender relations, promoting gender equality, and highlighting positive male role models. It is an occasion for men to celebrate their achievements and contributions, in particular their contributions to community, family, marriage, and child care while highlighting the discrimination against them.

Okay…what else?

According to the website, this year in regarding Positive Male Role Models”.

Many boys today don’t know what it means to be a man because they don’t have a man in their lives. Sadly, children will go to bed tonight without saying goodnight to their father because he just isn’t there.

Nearly one-fourth of America’s children live in mother-only families. These frightening statistics are similar to a lessor or greater extent the world over.

More than likely, a woman teaches them at school and at home. So, where do they see and interact with positive male role models? Or, how do the boys learn what it means to be a man? Television? Movies? Internet? On the street?

Even in homes where the father is present, research shows that the average father spends less than 10 minutes a day one-on-one with his child. In our society, emotional and spiritual fatherlessness is becoming the norm. Many of today’s fathers did not have positive role models to show them how to be a father, so they are not there to show their children what it means to be a father.

No matter how great a mother is, she cannot replace what a father provides to a child. Irrefutable research shows that mothers are typically nurturing, soft, gentle, comforting, protective and emotional. Fathers tend to encourage risk-taking and to be challenging, prodding, loud, playful and physical. Children need a balance of protection and reasonable risk-taking. If a positive male role model isn’t around, there is a void in this child’s life. Children without positive male role models are more likely to be involved in criminal activity, premarital sexual activity, do poorer in school and participate in unhealthy activities.

Studies have shown that involvement of a father or a positive male role model has profound effects on children. Father-child interaction promotes a child’s physical well-being, perceptual ability and competency for relating with others. Furthermore, these children demonstrate greater ability to take initiative and evidence self-control.

Okay….So how can men of any kind be more in the lives of children, especially with no kids that they want to support?

Via the website:

  • Encourage positive male role model involvement in your child’s life if you’re a mum. (Mother)

  • If you’re a non-custodial dad, make the effort to visit with your children more often. You can also be very intentional about teaching them important life lessons.

  • If you are an educator, encourage fathers to be more active in the classroom.

  • You can influence the lives of children in your community be being a positive male role model.

  • Faith-based institutions and programs can bring fathers together with their children. Additionally, they can encourage male role models to engage children in their sphere of influence.

  • If you are a community leader use International Men’s Day on 19 November 2018 to celebrate Positive Male Role Models and give awards for the same.

  • Business leaders can encourage employee involvement in community efforts with children. For example, you can promote mentoring with organizations like Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Big Brothers-Big Sisters, youth groups, Boys Club or Girls, Inc.

More from the site:

The November IMD is a significant date as it interfaces the popular ‘Movember‘ charity event and also with Universal Children’s Day on Nov 20 with which IMD forms a 48 hour celebration of men and children respectively, and of the special relationships they share.

The ability to sacrifice your needs on behalf of others is fundamental to manhood, as is honor. Manhood rites of passage the world over recognize the importance of sacrifice in the development of Manhood.

Men make sacrifices everyday in their place of work, in their role as husbands and fathers, for their families, for their friends, for their communities and for their nation. International Men’s Day is an opportunity for people everywhere of goodwill to appreciate and celebrate the men in their lives and the contribution they make to society for the greater good of all.

Methods of commemorating International Men’s Day have included public seminars, conferences, festivals and fundraisers, classroom activities at schools, radio and television programs, Church observances, and peaceful displays and marches. The manner of observing this annual day is optional; any organizations are welcome to host their own events and any appropriate forums can be used.   

Does this sound like an idea? We see this all the time, but this is more on a international level regarding all men. No matter with kids or not.  International Men’s Day is the youngest of the two. This was started in 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago. International Men’s Day is young. It’s a young international holiday that highlights the achievements and accomplishments of Men in the world.

Now many are probably (AGAIN) joking around and want poke the bear about the day that is way young than International Women’s Day.  It’s kind of obvious that there are those who want to know about the day of International Men, but have NO IDEA what the day is about. Where as International Women’s Day comes every year and yes WOMEN, some of you have no idea why you have Women’s Rights. That’s the main reason right there!

And I, unlike those who didn’t  advised me, I had to do my homework on my own. I had to research International Men’s Day on my own. And I had to summarize International Men’s Day ON MY OWN. NO male and NO female never told me to do this. But as a Man, A black man born in America, I had to do my study time and to familiarize myself about this 19th Day of November. We know that this day for us Americans ties in with the Gettysburg Address by Abraham Lincoln.

But on a black history level courtesy of

Even though this date in black history has little or no effect on International Men’s Day, but there are other events that happened on this day before a thought of a International Men’s Day had ever been thought about.

I’m glad that now, that there is an International Men’s Day that us MEN can actually take an opportunity in to talk about our concerns, joys, problems, and to be celebrated for what we do. And even though there are naysayers and haters on both men and women who feel the equality thing should be all the time, it’s not. The haters who call some men, whinny or bitter of asking the same tired question without reason are just haters themselves. They don’t give enough information. All they tell you was or is “November 19th.” That’s it. And no other reasons why. I’m a type of person wants to know “what else happens on this November 19th day” that we should about besides the infamous International Men’s Day.  That is missing! The homework of that is not finished.

Someone (a female mind you) suggested that International Men’s Day should be a day to highlight concerns or something that men really care about. And she’s right. And also it ties in the “Movember”awareness of men’s health awareness. And originally, voting. (For us Americans who vote in November).

For all the mean tweets, stop it. You all ready know. That goes for BOTH men and women!

From the Time and Date Website: Representatives from organizations such as the UN expressed support for the event, although it is not an official UN observance. A petition has called for the UN to make International Men’s Day an official UN observance in the interest of equality.

CALLOUT: Gents, we got to hype up our day in about 8 months. Get prepared RIGHT NOW! And keep pushing the thought of International Men’s Day on the calendar!



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I’m going to go to a specific topic about a health matter that we know very well. And it’s a health matter that many of us don’t want to hear, nor talk about. A health matter that many of us know through family and friends and associated know. The topic I’m bringing up is diabetes. We’ve heard of it, right? We should.

Picture this: you visit your new doctor for the first time in a while. You kept hearing about getting a physical, check up or what ever you call it. You go to a previous eye doctor of any kind to get your eyes checked in all, and then they check your blood pressure. It’s elevated. And you have to get checked up. So you exercised for about a month and then you go to a new medical physician. After your physical is done and getting your blood checked, you think it’s all good right? Not exactly.

This past Tuesday, after I was working for the Election Commission in Milwaukee, I went home to hear about my test results from my physician. Everything else was good, except one thing: Glucose. My glucose numbers was high like a kite of 237 and my A1C was like in the nines; which is kind of bad. And it was ruled that I contracted or diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. The shock and disbelief of my nurse telling me this was not good. According to them, they tracked my blood from 3 months ago. And it was high all this time. Didn’t know it. After the shocking news, there was one other source of info I had to turn to, my mother. And she knows about Diabetes because she was diagnosed over 20+ years ago. We went over the results online to get an idea about what happened and why it happened. She broke it down like, in addition to foods and drinks some of them can spike up you blood sugar. Even stress can cause diabetes. February 24th was the one year anniversary since my father’s passing, in which I know now the result of his death was coronary vascular disease. But what lead to that, was Diabetes and he was 69 years old. We dealt with death for like most of 2017 and it was not a easy experience losing my father so soon. Some of my relatives living and deceased had gotten diabetes earlier and two of my 1st cousins had amputations on their legs and feet cut off.

I have heard the horror stories particularity from those who were diagnosed and they were not good stories.

Now you probably asking like, REALLY?! How did this happen?! You’re 41 years old and African American and supposed to be healthy in all. Guess what? Like any other diseases, disorders or health issues, they can strike at ANY AGE. ANY RACE. ANY GENDER. This like bullets has no eyes to look. You can meet a dude or a chick 10 years younger than me and they have diabetes. No matter how fat or skinny they are. My former physician once told me that you can get diabetes when you get older. You know what, the doctor was right, and that quote was about 6 years ago when I was in my 30’s.

Now I’m not a happy camper that I’m the latest causality of the “Diabetic Universe”. Really I’m not. But right now, I don’t know how I’m going to adjust my life doing this blog with my stories reaching you. No I’m not quitting. This blog is not going away as you think.

Why I am telling this story? Why share this story that I know that it’s going to change my lifestyle, goals, objectives, etc. I’m reaching out to those that do WordPress or other bloggers that know what I’m going through right now. I’m new to this club that I didn’t want to join and now since I’m in this club, I’m trapped in this prison. Can’t get out. I know it’s horrifying and dead scary. But I had this quote years ago while getting checked up was something like: “Check your blood or die!” You know what, I’m bring that back. Even in this era that we think we feel good, but we really REALLY have to be sure. What I’ve learned then and now is that you can’t overlook anything with your health. You really can’t. We all have agendas and ideas to maintain, but to be real, our health comes first to the agendas. We know we want to live longer and see our future folks grow up and have kids of their own. Some of us may not be so lucky. No matter if you are a woman and yes men we must know!

I heard and read from lots of folks whom have this Diabetes to live with day after day, year after year, month after month in all that it’s not going to define them. I want to be clear that I’m not going to let Type 2 Diabetes NOT STOP ME! Oh it has slowed me down, made me humble and made me ask why. But there is another question to say the next day after seeing your doctor, “Now what?” Also, what’s next? And also where do we go from here?

We know and hear that Diabetes is not “a go away thing forever”. Yes you can manage it to a point to get it under control. But it has to stay managed! Stay managed like eating the right foods. Stay managed like getting enough exercise everyday. Stay managed like checking your blood pressure, weight, and checking up with your physician on point. And yes stay managed by taking the meds prescribed. It’s about taking back control of your health and you. Time to get moving.

Even though that it’s been a tough week of mixed emotions so far, I know that it won’t be easy to get through. If this is a lesson to be learned in all, then I’m still learning. This not just a black community health concern, this is an everyone health concern. And yes black folks, this hits us the most! Had to say that in Black History Month, but this rings true in every month. And to point out, I just watched Anthony Anderson’s Video Clip on the Get Real About Diabetes Facebook Page. Here is the thing: Anthony was diagnosed with the Type 2 about 16 years ago. And like many others, he had to ask why? He also mentioned about his father’s passing and other health related matters that hindered him. This is the same Anthony Anderson that was on Transformers, Kangaroo Jack, Barbershop, King’s Ransom, and currently, Black-ish. He also had an episode that revealed that Dre (Anthony’s Character) was diagnosed with Diabetes.

I know that this was not the news to share. But I had to bust this out because there are those whom had this for a while can understand of what I’m going through.

And yes, I’ll get the resources via the American Diabetes Association, and any other Diabetes Support Group that I can reach out to, especially to those whom are African-American knows the deal dealing with this everyday. And I’m going to start where I know: my own backyard of Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

I know it won’t be easy, but I’ll try something for once to say that I know now what I must do. This was a real set back, but it’s not a total set back of my goals and dreams in life!

Pardon my interruption during Black History Month 2018. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. And pardon your interruption of reading my old blogs that gain your interest.

On Valentine’s Day as we know that many of us (except for us Single folks) did have a “day of love” in all, plus seeing ashes on the foreheads on people from the Ash Wednesday Services. Yes, It’s the start of Lent that leads into the Good Friday/Easter Weekend coming up.

But on the 89th Anniversary of the worst Massacres in American History, in regarding the St. Valentine’s Day Massacre in which Al Capone was the kingpin in Chicago, another massacre occurred. But it wasn’t in Chicago. It was in Parkland Florida. A school. Yes a school shooting occurred in Florida and according to the stats, this was the 18th incident this year, BUT the third shooting in this country this year. 2018 is still a young year thus far.

17 people were shot to death some were injured. And the part of that the shooter, Nikolas Cruz was a former student. In which the former student lost both of his parents, he stayed to himself and others. And of course he had fascination in which of a AR-15 was held in his hand shooting up the school.

And it begs the question: What is not (NOT) being done in the safety of the Schools in which we send our young people to learn Monday – Friday? This episode has been repeated so many times. And usually we have done nothing! All of course when this happens, we get the first off on the list, Our thoughts and Prayers are with the families, etc. Now many are hating “thoughts and prayers”. When we get to church on Sunday, and yes many will be in church on Sunday, you will hear the pastor or a lay speaker talk about this as you heard many times. And for those who don’t go, well, you know the routine.

Also, I need to say this. There is really nothing really wrong with “thoughts and prayers” at all. Period. No I’m not siding with 45 or anyone who says this. If you are in a situation that is bad and worst, of course there will be those who will be thinking about you when things like this happens. And the thing is, when we see this, yet again we’ll be asking the same story like question all over again. And again, we’ll be in the same boat like in 2 weeks. Oh speaking of that, when all this is behind us, we’ll be asking the same questions of what can be done to be safe in the schools. Same with the church and others: WE KNOW! It’s going to be in circles again. And we know this because it’s been happening repeatedly. I’m going to make a early prediction that this summer, when the kids are out of school the most: guess what? Some of them will die by gunfire. BOLD PREDICTION! Wait until the summer months comes and yes, many will be looking for programs and summer jobs. And of course, making the option to move. Oh yes you can move out of your currently city, but what happens when the violence or shootings follows you in your mind? And you rehash it EVERY SINGLE TIME?!

Folks: This is not new. And yes many of us are asking like: we got all this techno stuff of phones, computers, email, apps, Social Media, etc. Why didn’t that stuff work? We use for fun and important issues but NOT for protecting our children in school. At least some of that technology is useable to help counter the thought of shootings, rape, domestic violence, hazing, and many other intentions of negative actions.

Now, for those wondering, I don’t have any children. No kids. No teens. None. But yes, outlets are needed to protect them from harm and danger like the ones we see every time.

Right now the students in Florida are really speaking out. They are protesting. And even though many of them aren’t at the voting age, they’re determined to do the law changes that many times us grown folks tried due to false ideologies. We know what they are. The same stuff we grew up listening too.

We often say that kids and teens don’t care about the world around them, some actually know the deal of what’s going on! That’s like they don’t care about tradition. Don’t be surprised if they know tradition! All they have to do is go on that thing called Facebook or Twitter and they get their news there more than the evening broadcast. That’s just them. Others we get our news Online, Paper and TV.

I want all the young blogger readers to hear me on this. Older bloggers step away. Let the young readers in. You young dudes and girls now, whom are doing the protesting and speaking out, get involved in making a difference. We know that us in the grown zone nag on your social media stuff, your music or anything that pertains interests in your Generation. Other Generations can be haters too, but they been called out. Even Gen-X was and is being still being called out being slackers. Really? Many of us made a way of being successful. And to those didn’t believe in us, well keep talking. The more they hate Gen-X, the more fuel of missing out. More like being jealous.

Which brings me back to you young cats. I hope that your voices of what you said today, as of now don’t stop into your adulthood. There are those who will say, “it’s going to last about 2 weeks.” And it’s going to be forgotten about. I want you students of now, prove us wrong later on. I’m dead serious. If you want to change the laws of Guns or Gun Control or anything that’s violence related, you need to continue to speak out. You are more woke than the average folks who claim to be conscious. Keep holding it down. And represent.

Grown folks, hear the young folks of their concerns and dilemmas. But also they will know the truth. Even the truth that we are not telling them. And many of us know the feeling of well….”being lied to” alot.

If the acts of Congress doesn’t follow through: VOTE THEM OUT!

“Faith without work, is dead.” – James 2:14-26

Now I can talk. After all the mess. Most recently, our so-called President 45 had to question about folks who come to our country from poor countries. What has that set up a firestorm you asked?  Dude had the nerve to ask this ridiculous  question which is not so surprising:

“Why are we having all these people from sh*thole countries come here?”

CALLOUT: What kind of Ish is that?!

I know that had to be the most ridiculous question ever! Make that racist! It’s so ridiculous that many feared that it was deemed racist.  Why are many are so shocked about the statement? We all knew what we expected. Getting a crazy man like 45 into office being jealous about Obama’s success in 8 years. Let’s be real America, the hate is real. Matter of fact, the hate has always been real. It’s been real since slavery, since apartheid, since the wars fought, politics formed up and many other things that got the jealousy of the attitude that sparked. We know!

I thought AMERICA was supposed to be the “Land of Opportunity”.

I thought AMERICA was supposed to be this country where folks can actually come here and settle for new dreams.

I thought AMERICA was supposed to have this moniker of welcoming frontiers! BUT after what 45 said about Africa and Haiti being SH*THOLE Countries, I’ll bet those in Africa and Haiti had that feeling like, “this is what America thinks about us”. To our African and Haiti neighbors, NOT ALL AMERICANS think like this. AT ALL. Many of us got neighbors, church members, lawyers, doctors, teachers, scientists, construction workers and supervisors, communications, pastors, bishops, nurses, and countless other occupations that we know very well. Why is that so hard to understand?

Chris Rock back in 2004 described this in his comedy at the time called Never Scared:

Now if you swam here from some sh*tty country that didn’t allow you Bubblicious,  you too are American cos you overcame obstacles and made sacrifices to actually get here. You are a true American, OK? You really are. Don’t let nobody tell you no different.

I hope that many in TrumpLand 45 repeats this AGAIN with conviction. Even though that many of you won’t. Now you probably are saying, “why hasn’t Chris Rock said this recently? “UM……again this was said WAY BACK in 2004! The very same 2004 that many AGAIN that gave George W. Bush the chair for his misconstructed 2nd Term! Yeah you Bush Backers know it. Every pre-first Generation Immigrant American, even if you came from Africa and Haiti, you know the real deal why you chose this country to come to. Maybe you came because of Education, Jobs, or to bring something new to the table in order to have that great opportunity to thrive. Of course yes, you have done it, and in some essence still want to do. But we all know that the biggest mistake we did in November of 2016 is picking this dude Trump to lead our nation. That was and is now, a slap in the face! We can only blame us, matter of fact we blame the 50% of us who chose him over Hillary Clinton. Now personally, Hillary was the favorite (WITH EXPERIENCE) that should have been in the chair right now. OF COURSE, she also was denied of being this concern about the 1994 Crime Bill and many others that see negative. People, we need to stop. If this past election has not taught us anything, I don’t know what has.

Like Chris Rock said in 2004, don’t let nobody tell you no different. Don’t let this comment about your native lands of Africa and Haiti being well “Sh*thole Countries” all because it’s looked poor on paper. Many of you had to withstand the poor situations to rise up from that. I’ve heard stories here in America about Americans GROWING UP from NOTHING. And there are those whom became business owners, teachers, lawyers, doctors, even also Public Service and many others. We heard many time that America is the Greatest Country on Earth. A shiny beacon on the hill and many others. And yes there are times America gets caught in evil situations that should have not been in. It’s the truth. And does that make that a “Sh*thole Country?”

We better watch our words. Matter of fact, 45 needs to stop tweeting his!

Also, I should ask: Is America still that thing call a “melting pot?”




Usually I don’t do this, but I’ll try anything. Yesterday, we celebrated another MLK holiday. Full of speeches, breakfasts, parades, gatherings and also paying homage to King in various fashion. But mostly, we usually put away the stuff and forget. We usually have the photo-ops working and also – FORGET! But now, I’m scratching my head again. Even the first MLK Day under #45.

You realize that the cities like Atlanta and Milwaukee celebrate the King Holiday the most, right?

Remember the song, “By the time I get to Arizona” by Public Enemy? The very same song that was in protest against Arizona NOT recognizing MLK Day? (Reference John McCain)

Why has America labeled King as the “bobble head nice figure” when in fact he really was radical and revolutionized CHANGE?

MAJOR QUESTION: why do many us Americans recite that one line of “I Have A Dream” and NOT read the entire speech?

Was the FBI really jealous of King’s success and actually trying to go after him?

Remember when McDonald’s had MLK Commercials?

How many college students wrote about King and got scholarships?

How many former college students remembered writing about King and remembered the value of those scholarships?

Who remembers the hip hop songs that were Martin Luther King influenced? Hint: go back to the 80’s joints.

CALLOUT: Why do certain members of a political party, (Republican Related) always has to label King a Republican in which his father was a Republican? King was NOT affiliated with a political party. But did supported JFK for President.

Were there any other books that were King influenced that was revolutionary and radical?

Are folks still mad of having a King Holiday? You know which ones!

How many INTERNATIONAL Cities looked at the King Holiday?

You do realize that this April 4th, will be the 50th year since King’s Assassination? NOT HIS BIRTH!

The WWE has been saluting MLK for 25 years through Monday Night Raw. Did you know this?

Why do certain folks, whom like MLK Speeches, can’t DO the work like MLK?

Why did #45 made the King Holiday a national day of service while he’s not being truthful on his part?!

How is it that when the kids speak about King, the adults listen. Why is that?

For those who did the work like King like last year, have they done it this year to influence more folks to do great things?

Was Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity really in the house celebrating King in which he was a member of the organization?

Did the rest of the Divine 9 celebrated King in some sort of service acts?

And lastly: will Dr. King’s only Granddaughter be a new beacon to bring a new era of ideas to change the game?

So here we are.

Happy New Year!

Welcome to the blog story that is traditional. Let’s Review of what I said last year with a twist:

Like Sgt. Hulka used to say in the movie Stripes: “before we proceed any further, we gotta get something straight.”

I’m going to be taking this blog to new heights. It’s not just going to be the same old song and dance. Nope, that is going to be one and done. It’s going to more that just one blog story. No matter if you are in America or in freaking India, be ready. This blog thing will get real. If I got to get my Periscope, or own video thing on here to help my stories, well: that’s what I have to do one day. What does all this mean? It means that I have to get better with the idea of blogging with the issues and concerns. I have to. It’s not just that thing that needs to be done, it must be done to improve. To inspire and yes, to get to the point of view that I need to display.

Yes folks will walk tall, shoulders back, chin up, conscious up to the 10th level, and of course this is an idea that would be beneficial. I thought about destroying this blog and ending a 10+ year streak, all because of other concerns of boredom or that same story. But wait…..this could be a benefit to help and inspire. While many might think that one story from a blog is all there is, think again.

Stephen’s Spot is not just about one blog story. Or one picture. Or one anything. It can be revolutionary, inspirational, conscious, fun, life experienced, or just plain normal. It’s not a one dance show. It’s one in the million that can be experienced if many take the time to read more than one. Now, I know many are just now discovering the blog based on what I written back in 2014 or whatever. But if you (yes you) the reader actually like what I write here, in a sense of right now, thank you.

Knowingly I can’t control what others might read, but by me writing more, and thinking more, it will be fully objectionable for me to carry on. I’m in the 40 year old plus age bracket, and yes this age bracket will indeed test my theory and summarize.

So guess what: you want Stephen’s Spot? I’ve give you Stephen’s Spot! This is not no same ol song and dance. Nope, not here!

So for now: let’s start my New Year’s Tradition of Stephen’s Spot that doesn’t need a repeat: What do want to see and not want to see in 2018! 18 things by the way.


First Five I want to see in THAT YEAR OF 2018:

1) Time to work folks. If this is the year that you will get that real job, the time is now. No more wasting time by waiting on others. It won’t work. We need to have a “Career Awareness Month”. We need to have better job fairs, career expos, have a “seasonal vet” career fair for the mature folks. Not that watered down stuff that many are getting. Even if you still have that degree in display, that many will pass up. We have to do better.

2) If you got to get yourself checked. Do it. You know where the doctors are. As well as the dentists, eye examination folks and more. Matter of fact some of them might be near you right now. And while were at it, we need to for real get educated about the issues of health. I hear say, “you need to do this or that”. or “you need a flu shot.” BEFORE ANY THAT HAPPENS: ASK QUESTIONS! Forget what you saw on Facebook, know that real stuff first! Really stop and ask questions!

3) 2018 means that the Congress will take over with some new #45 laws being placed. If any of the new members screw up, get on their case! Don’t just complain on social media, complain to the So-and-So’s! Write letters, emails with proper sentences! You can do that, you know.

4) You know that 2018 is a mid term voting year. Oh you didn’t know this? Pay attention! It’s not the presidential election, but maybe some of your Governors or County Supervisors will be running on the ballot. Do better!

5) Speaking of the voting thing, this would be a time to get your voter registration checked and/or updated to get ready for the 2018 election. I want to see this happen even more. Plus in the future like all these health months, why can’t we have a Voter Awareness Month? Remember this: FAAN – February, April, August and November!

Next Five I don’t want to see:

6)Like last year: I don’t want to see no one complaining about the lack of this or that in the church. If you don’t have a certain something going in your church, then make something happen! Keep at it! What did I say after my father’s passing: Be empowered, and Stay in the fight!

7) And like many many years ago: I don’t want to see black folks putting other black folks down for stupid reasons. No matter what happens we must continue to look in the mirror and raise up. Jobs, education (past or present) contributions, etc. And that goes for anyone else.

8) Never EVER OVERLOOK THIS – Black Queens: you say you LOVE us Black Kings right? DO YOU?! Here is a challenge that you might not think. Cater to us for ONE DAY at a restaurant, or maybe give us a day that we might enjoy. Think it over! Many of you got Brothers, Fathers, Uncles, Husbands, Boyfriends, Cousins, Neighbors, and many other male influences that you probably know that need that appreciation! You guys go all out for your thing and we’re in the seats. Why not us?

9) I HOPE TO GOD, I don’t want to see credit checks on black folks no more. Matter of fact, not on anyone anywhere with credit checks!

10) I don’t want to see those who didn’t vote gloat. Guess what: Elections have Consequences. Especially in this Midterm Season!

Five More things I want to see:

11) I want to see more of us ALUMNI (YOUNG AND OLD) to reinvest in our Alumni Groups. Not just for the class reunions and everyone also shows up broke, mad, left out and uninformed. And by the way, if you see an Alumni Rep at your class reunion, don’t get no attitude about your daughter or son in college needing money and you think that your old High School has no money. That will not work!!!! Just dumb. Have you heard of Scholarships, like churches hand out every year? Stop playing!

12) I want see the results of us doing the work. Not just the partial results of patting on the back and say “nice work”. But also what did it took to get the results needed. And if your employer is celebrating a milestone of service (10, 20, etc), give him or her the due of respect. It’s the right thing to do. Or even if no one gives you a pin of service: give yourself one!

13) I want us “non scared and scared grown folks in the Black Church Groups” to talk to our youth. Seriously talk to them. Some of them need us to come to them. I don’t care if they are in the schools shooting basketballs or at the community centers or in church playing Madden. Or double dutcng or learning a praise dance. Even tutoring! Let’s learn to #HashtagAndTalk to our young folks. Male members of the church: get the young men involved in these groups! Women, you know what it is.

14) I want to see more black folks in the communities whom think there is nothing there to do, start something! Stop complaining! Stop moaning! Get up and get out and make the stuff happen!

15) Like last year and year ago, here is a thought: I want to see ALL fraternities, and ALL sororities to recruit and meet up with seasoned vets that can help out. Especially those of the black fraternities and sororities. All of the Divine 9 folks: From the Alphas to the Iotas and from the AKA’s to the Sigma Gamma Rho’s: Have a day in which YOU need to go out to the seasoned vets of those whom are 40 ish and up that want to join up to support the groups you represent. And also, don’t be so judgmental about those whom are at that 40’s range. Best place to find us: either at our church events, alumni group meetings, etc. And this goes for the American Legion Family, Masons, Elks, Eastern Stars, and etc. WE SEE YOU!

Final three: want not to see and want to see.

16) Of all the things I don’t want to see: enough of the blame game on Black Lives Matter that seemed violent or racist. For all you Blue Lives Matter, or copying off the Black Lives Matter Movement, you will suck. Instead of hating on Black Lives Matter at least go to a meeting or hear from those who lost a brother, or sister or a parent that was black. Take notes, Blue Lives Matter.

17) Now this might work in this 2018: Get Grown in your work and volunteerism. We know what we need to do, and what to do this year. So why not get involved! And the time is right now!

18) This is for the grown folks 18 and up: HANDLE your grown business! After all, we supposed to be grown after 18, right?

Happy New Year!

Oh I had to do this! Here we go.

For those of us whom lost folks this year, can 2018 be healing for us?

America, were we really ready for that Trump thing?

Big Question: Did the eclipse did the thing for you to be spiritual?

What is the real setback about racism and getting the jobs in the workplace regarding black folks?

Men: did you see Wonder Woman after the ladies kicked you out of the theaters?

Did December 5th rocked for me? For the 41st time? OH HECK YES!

Before I go on: Remember 2007 when I wrote this blog? Like 10 years ago?

Was Sheriff David Clarke’s resignation was really a blessing to get out and say thank you Jesus?

What was the real reason why Roland Martin’s show was cancelled by TV One? They say financial concerns, but it has to be something else!

The Milwaukee Streetcar is almost done with the tracks. Haters any comments?

Why the fear of black communications like black radio, black tv or black internet platforms?

Anyone signed up for the Affordable Care Act, like REAL EARLY not to get penalized?

OJ got out this year. Worth the wait?

Hey, Evangelicals: Are you really STILL down with Trump?

Why do certain players (ie Kyrie Irving) was still in the false belief of the earth being flat? It’s round idiots!

For you black Trump Supporters: you still follow him?

Milwaukee’s problem with reckless drivers is still a dilemma. What has been the hold up?

Just tell the truth employers: you really need black folks don’t you? Stop playing!

Who watches the Judge Show with the married couple on the bench?

Introverts again unite! May we continue the struggle?

Did many of you partied at Summerfest in Milwaukee?

Who got the Nintendo Switch?

Who has bought the SNES Classic?

The Milwaukee Public Schools Alumni showed out again this year. Can it happen again in 2018?

Surprise, Surprise Milwaukee: Are you ready for UW-Stout’s alumni return in 2018?

For many think that the use of Black Owned Businesses would be the key, can they maintain the subject to fix, or to further create?

Hey Harley-Davidson riders: you know we have this 115th Anniversary next summer for the Motorcycles, right? And Milwaukee black businesses: BE READY!

You: the Alt-Right, you must be still playing yourselves. Aren’t you?

Covfefe. What was that?

Who was the really the biggest fool of 2017?

Who really had the unsung character of 2017?

Who really had the top hand of respect of 2017?

Question: Back in the 90’s Steven Seagal and Jean-Claude Van Damme were the best Martial Arts Actors in the game. Now they support Putin. WHY?!!!!!

Of all the shows: was there any show that was really better than Empire or Blackish in 2017? Be honest now.

In addition to the females being sexually harassed in the game, what about the men who were harassed? Terry Crews was the only man in 2017 that told his story. Men, we need to talk!

Who’s ready for Black Lighting in 2018?

Who’s ready for Black PANTHER in 2018?

Who drank the Pepsi Caramel Soda?

Why did Aretha Franklin and Dionne Warrick had that feud? Like really?!

Haters: Having a Black TV Talk Show is not racist. Must we explain why?

Did the WWE Network delivered again?

Has DirecTV Now really sunk in?

You know that the #MeToo movements really started in 2007 by a black woman, right? Tarana Burke is the name.

Folks again this year talked about Colin Kaepernick taking a stand. Well did he proved a point? By being one of GQ’s Awards winners of the year?

Did many knew or realized that Black Male Introverts can actually exist?

Who really did watched the NFL games despite of the protests?

Getting Real: Why do folks on social media mouth off on those that they don’t like? Church, dating, the other side of the moon, you know the usual? And get all “free thinkish” about it knowing half of what they post or talk about is NOT TRUE! Even though all opinions are respected sometimes.

Don’t believe in God? Start!

Is Amazon Fire Stick, Roku, or DirecTV Now really the new thing in TV like right now?

Which is better for those whom are single, or going to be single in 2018? Dating or no dating?

Will we be really saying in the future: “Remember when Barack Obama was running?” Oh think about it!

CALLOUT: For all you haters of Black Lives Matter and the Police Organizations that run the hate to Walmart: were you really that serious about removing the attire, but said nothing about the KKK or the “Stars and Bars”?

Many believe that this year of 2017 was that year. Well, did you claim what you were looking for?

MASSIVE SOCIAL MEDIA CALLOUT AGAIN LIKE LAST YEAR: Can we PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, JESUS, ALLAH, BUDDHA or SCIENTOLOGY: use the “You’re” word on Facebook correctly as well as other forms of Social Media? Like for example, “You’re It!” Not “Your it”. Or “If you don’t follow me on so and so, you’re not welcome here no more. Not “If you don’t follow me on so and so your not welcome here no more.” We need to respell and check our words, folks! – And no stop blaming the Public Schools systems! Blame the person, you.

Who is really the conscious groups: The church folk, the business folk, the activist, the talk show host, or the unsung folk?

Why do Americans have a short attention memory span? All the dang time! Like really!

When many famous folks this year have passed on and we had “this care” about them, where was the CARE for our own folks?

It’s New Years Eve. Stay home or go out?

Since some of the fallen died of heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, or many other factors: are we really looking out for our health needs? This not just to those whom are men, but those whom are females too! Especially those of us who are black!

Which movie rocked the house this year? Besides Star Wars The Last Jedi or Transformers? Or Wonder Woman?

Which music singles or albums have really rocked the house in the year?

Was Amazon Alexa really hard to ask?

Why so many things of #BlackGirlMagic, or #BlackBoyJoy were huge this year again? Well look at the results.

Will many turn up for the Midterm elections in 2018 by not staying home?

Will the United Methodist Church let the ideas of #BlackLivesMatter in the doors?

Who will have the best New Years Eve show? Ryan Seacrest or Anderson Cooper?

For all of my “snow/cold haters”: umm since you like hot weather so much, why weren’t you complaining about the heat EARLIER IN THE YEAR?! Yeah you hot weather dwellers, confess!

If 2017 was the year to “get lucky”, what about 2018 as in to “Get grown?

Will the Green Bay Packers revive to run the table next season? You Packer haters must be thanking the Vikings for putting the injury on Aaron Rodgers.

Will the Wisconsin Badgers Football Team win the Orange Bowl?

Will you continue to read the stuff I put on here? Not just have written like 4+ years ago?

What about that Google Speaker that answers your calls?

Can folks whom are so picky about not going to Church all because of the Pastor or that money really get off the high horse about going and giving advice? Besides behind the keyboards? And acting like foolish keyboard gangsters? They know who they are. Even if they your family members or folks that you haven’t seen in years?

Know any good Doctors that take in folks that know patients families that know them well? Besides those Cigma commercials?

Will many in the black community support (REALLY SUPPORT) black owned businesses that do follow the protocol?

How many black churches will attend Watch Night Services on New Year’s Eve? It’s WAY legendeary than Rockin’ Eve!

Did you support your Alumni this year (not just high school, but college and universities also)?

Why are many of us are NOT EDUCATED that well when it comes to health? Hint it’s not just the men folk here. Women you in this also.

Will there be a “in house online DJ” that will spin the sounds from the crib while many of us are at the house on NYE? THINK ABOUT THAT

CALLOUT: There were bigots on Social Media made names this year. Even those who was at Charlottesville . Who will NOT have a job in 2018?

Any Uber or Lyft Drivers will be on stat on NYE making money?

Any Photohogs and DroneHogs will be on stat making money on NYE?

Will many graduate in 2018 as well as going into the schools in 2018?

If those are really conscious about being pro this and pro that, what about being pro Alumni?

Will Ronda Rousey comeback strong…… the WWE?

Who used a fitbit this year? Or any fit to walk to burn calories?

How many plan to do something daring in 2018?

How many will do the things that they put off in the previous years and actually do it this year?!

What is that one song you want to end your 2017? And the song you want begin with your 2018?

And the last thing I have to ask: I will say this to ask humbly, will you vote in 2018?

Happy New Year!

Let’s get the 2018 thing started.

Well folks. The year of 2017 is closing up shop. Hope everyone had a great Holidays of celebrating Christmas, Hanukah, and Kwanzaa. The year of 2017 will be retired and to be put in the throwback archives for future generations to come. There has been alot of the Good, Bad, and essentially Ugly in this leap year of 2017. The year of the rooster will be back in the cage….or the hen house. As far as the issues: we know what they are.

It’s time, folks. It’s time for the Traditional Stephen’s Spot Annual Review of the 2017! So here we go.


The Good:

Most recently on December 29th, 2017: The Dow Jones ended the year at 24,719.22

The Affordable Care Act got new folks to sign up for the insurance. Just like last year.

As of January 20th, President Barack Obama cemented 8 years. And also formed the Obama Foundation.

The Houston Astros won a World Series Title. A first!

The Golden State Warriors won another NBA Championship.

For the NFL: New England Patriots. Superbowl 51, Featuring former Wisconsin Badgers RB James White getting the W in OT.

For the NCAA Men’s Basketball: North Carolina.

For the NCAA’s Women’s Basketball: South Carolina.

Again: Scandal, How To Get Away With Murder, Empire, The Haves and Haves Nots, If Loving You Is Wrong, and Blackish still dominates.

Scandal entered the season being the last.

And yet, Modern Family continues to roll.

The Eclipse.

Janet Jackson had the concerts going in.

Yet again, the Hallmark Christmas specials came back for another year.

Netflix again brought back Voltron, but also gave us Luke Cage and Fuller House.

WWE Raw and Smackdown was huge in 2017. Ranging from the Women’s Division rising up to NXT and also WrestleMania.


Milestones in 2017:

Robocop turned 30 years old.

Malcolm X movie turns 25.

Meet The Press turns 70 years old.

Golden Globes turns 75.

Dr. Dre’s The Chronic turns 25.


HOT NEWS: Nintendo made waves this year: The Nintendo Switch was hot!


For the Movies (my only picks I should say):

Fist Fight

Dark Tower


Birth of the dragon

King Arthur

Star Wars: The Last Jedi

The Hitman’s Bodyguard all came out this year.

Doug Jones of Alabama beat Roy Moore in the Alabama State Senate Race.

When the BET Awards this year happened the most: New Edition became the Lifetime Achievement Award winners. Plus: the New Edition movie was one of the most watched biopics on the network. Chance The Rapper was awarded the BET Humanitarian Award.

DirecTV Now heated up this year. Unleash the cord cutters.

For the United Methodist Church: UMCOR responded with the buckets of supplies for the victims of Hurricane Harvey. Plus also issues of violence of shootings have been breifed and updated.


For the music: Well not that much but I’ll take this:

Michael Jackson – Blood on the Dance Floor (remix)

Gary Clark Jr. – Come Together

BBD -Three Stripes

Eminem – Revival

Miguel – ShockandAwe

Logic – Everybody/America

Living Colour – Inner City Blues, Preachin’ Blues

Fat Joe/Remy Ma – All the way up

John Fulford – Empire

Jay-Z: 4:44

DJ Khaled – Grateful, Don’t Quit

DJ Khaled/Rhianna – Wild Thoughts

Bruno Mars – Perm

Eric Gales – Change In Me

Kendrick Lamar – Humble

Sharon Jones – Searching for a New Day, Sail On


Well known to retire:

Reggie Bush, Devin Hester, Percy Harvin, A.J. Hawk (Packers), James Jones (Packers) , Vince Wilfork,  Paul Pierce, Metta World Peace, Carlos Boozer, Martina Hingis all hung up their jerseys and cleats.  Also: The Undertaker retires from the WWE.


Straight Outta Wisconsin in a good way:

The Milwaukee Streetcar is still on point. Its coming and the tracks are 90% done.

Train maker Talgo made a comeback: in repairing trains in the same area where it was pulled out due to politics.

The Bublr Bikes still expanded. Again!

The Northwestern Mutual Tower is done. Go see it.

After 15 years of pain in Milwaukee County: Sheriff David Clarke RESIGNED!

According to the recent reports, the unemployment rate around Milwaukee is hovering over 17%. But still a way to go.

The Milwaukee Bucks new arena is in full swing of construction. Should be done in ’18!

Attention Black Milwaukeeans and Wisconsinites: We still have Outdoor Afro in Milwaukee and Madison.

The Milwaukee Admirals officially moved out of the Bradley Center, into the UW-Milwaukee Panther Arena. (For you old heads, the Mecca Arena)

The Milwaukee Public Schools welcomed back the Alumni again.

Milwaukee Public Schools started classes early like August.

Summerfest celebrated 50!

Also celebrated 50: The 1967 Civil Rights Demonstrations in Milwaukee. Plus, the Milwaukee Bucks opened their 50th Anniversary in old Mecca Arena.

For the retirees in Milwaukee: Mike Anderson of Channel 12 and Tom Pipens of Channel 6.

And also on June 2nd several monuments and landmarks in Milwaukee were featured again in Orange.

Milwaukee County got a new Sheriff: Richard Schmidt.

Milwaukee Police Department goes after Reckless Drivers in the Hot Spot Zones of the city.

Several candidates for the Democratic Party of Wisconsin already submitted names for Governor. Even Mahlon Mitchell.

For the Green Bay Packers: Not so much this year. As of now, Davante Adams signed a four year deal to remain with the team. Center Corey Linsley is retained for another extension.

For the Wisconsin Badgers Football team: Say what you want, they are a good team. They finished the season at 13-1. Plus winning the Orange Bowl over Miami. Retained the AXE, Freedom Trophy, and Heartland Trophy. Most of the wins were coming of an undefeated season, which also Camp Randall celebrated 100 years as a stadium. Even though they lost against Ohio State, but still had a great season!


The Bad in 2017

Racism happened again.

Trump enters as #45 for the Presidency.

Charlottesville faced racism with Neo Nazi’s

Shootings happened in Las Vegas during a Country Music Concert.

Shootings happened in Texas this year at a church.

And even shootings happened at Ft. Lauderdale’s Airport.

Hurricanes ravaged Houston, Puerto Rico, Sierra Leone.

The “45” Administration eliminated part of the Affordable Care Act’s Individual Mandate.

Harvey Weinstein, Charlie Rose, Matt Lauer, Russell Simmons Senator Al Franken, and others all stepped down, resigned,  or targeted due to Sexual Misconducts in the workplace.

The angle between the US and North Korea reached a unfavorable pitch.

The U.S. pulls out of the Paris Climate Change angles.

Rapper Meek Mill faces prison time.

After 4 years, News One Now with Roland Martin gets cancelled.

Libya had an issue: Slavery

Tom Joyner made an announcement that his show will end in 2019.

In addition to the gun shootings, there were 337 shootings to date in the country this year.


Straight Outta Wisconsin in a bad way:

125 – the number of victims died in Milwaukee.

Opioid Crisis

Foxconn – in terms of transportation, the black community in Milwaukee.

The 2017-18 Green Bay Packers finished the season at 7-9 and not making the playoffs. And plus: Anthony Barr injured Aaron Rodgers.


Flat out Ugly in 2017

Chicago had topped the homicide numbers of 600.

Sally Yates formally of the Administration was abruptly Fired.

General Flynn was fired.

#45 TWEETED WAY TOO MUCH! To his haters. Even to the mayor of San Juan, Puerto Rico.

ALSO OUT of the 45 house: Sean Spicer, Anthony Scaramucci, Reince Preibus and Omarosa.

White supremacy is still at large.

Sexual Assualt among women is being talked about even more. And also: Men are talking also.



Ugly for Wisconsin:

Racism – yep. It happened.

Carjacking at Gas stations

The American Red Cross cancels their Milwaukee Area Zip Code Response Sectors

Anissa Weier is going to jail under stable mental commitment. For 25 years.

Reckless Driving as usual.

In addition to Sheriff David Clarke, his paper he written, now being investigated by the FBI.

Same ol Milwaukee Shootings.


We Say Their Names. Those whom left us. 2017 had this moniker of having “no chill”. Some of the famous fallen left and right.

Adam West

Bernie Casey

Mary Tyler Moore

Glenn Campbell

Robert Guiallume

Jimmy “Superfly” Snuka

Powers Boothe

Miguel Ferrer

Judge Joe Wapner

Bill Paxton

George “The Animal” Steele

David Rockefeller

Charles Bradley

Aaron Hernandez

Don Rickles

Erin Moran

Chris Cornell


Nelsan Ellis

Chester Bennignton

John Heard

June Foray

Dick Gregory

Jerry Lewis

Fats Domino

Connie Hawkins

U.S. Army Special Forces Sergeant Jeremiah Johnson

U.S. Special Forces Sgt. Bryan Black

U.S. Special Forces Sgt. Dustin Wright

U.S. Special Forces Sgt. La David Johnson

Charles Manson*

Terry Glenn

Earle Hyman

David Cassidy

Della Reese

John Thierry

Jim Nabors

Lowell Hawthorne

Hugh Hefner

Al Jarreau

Dick Enberg

Mamie Johnson

Bobby “The Brain” Heenan

Tom Petty

Chuck Berry

Erica Garner


Here in Milwaukee, we also lost those who gave the city a voice, and a reminder:

Andrew Tyler


My highlights of the year:

Well my highlights of  the year were as I acknowledged my 10th Anniversary as a worker of my church. I survived a decade with a pin. Also, I started and created a summer developers program that didn’t go well, but it was salvaged with a homework assignment. But the challenge of me as I indicated that I am as well as my family are going to the hard reality of the passing of my father. We still miss him. But not forgotten.

Sidenote: I appreciate the 23,615 hits on my blog. This is great, BUT: the “same old reading stuff” bubbles must be busted in 2018! I will find a way to do it, or maybe not. We’ll see.

Don’t be late in 2018!

Call this another “My Double Take”. Actually it is. With all what is going on with the recent bullying and also more sexual harassment allegations. We know what it is. And the thing is, I’m not really surprised at both angles.

First: let me address the bullying angle or the recent bullying angle. We have heard about the Keaton Jones kid who made a video about being bullied in his hometown. And it went viral on Facebook and other platforms on Social Media. We all seen it. And reacted to it. And many of us probably had given Keaton some hope to overcome this bullying. But then came a picture in which it featured his mother Kimberly Jones and other children holding the “Stars and Bars” along with the racial overtones plus a picture of his father openly admit of his racial overtones! But the main focus of this angle is the mother! And the mother goes on the TV or internet that says “Oh I’m not a racist” like everyone in the racist families probably says. Which they really don’t believe.  Of course many of us will get the butt hurt comments about racism. And race is still the commentary that we still talk about, comment, question, and or summarize that we know. But let us NOT let lose focus on the issue of bullying. This is what we should talk about! We all remember when we were back in school getting ribbed on, fighting, messing around, getting folks in trouble, and many of us didn’t want to fight back because we were afraid of getting suspended and those blotches on our permanent records into adulthood. I commented this many times that sometimes that you have to fight back. I said this that we need to stand up for ourselves, and apparently that goes for this era of hashtags, millennials standing stiff, and also us Gen-X’ers need to stop this notion that it don’t mean nothing. We’ve been through this before and many us in Gen-X got bullied or started a body shaming moment that we got big noses, butts and can’t mount to a darn thing all because of your home-brokeness growing up! (As in no Fathers in the home, Mother was the only source, etc. ) Now you want to spread the bad seeds to your children and somewhat grandchildren in the schools now! This is taking place. Yes, I fought back. But I fought back that I was NOT going to take the BS no more. If the schools administration of the Milwaukee Public Schools at the time wasn’t going to take the example of talking about bullying, I will! Either I would have gotten suspended or not. The last time I got suspended in a Milwaukee Public School was in December of 1991, a week after my 15th Birthday in which a class clown pushed my buttons per se and we fought. I was provoked. Simply provoked at John Marshall High School.  And now I see these kids especially this Ashawnty Davis, who saw this Youtube video of her and after that, she committed suicide all because she got bullied in school. Oh, and she was 10 years old! Think about your 10 year olds now.  And also, why are 10 year olds watching Youtube videos NOW of bullying? We are not right.

Technically, we are not doing a good job of addressing the issue of bullying.  We don’t do it enough. And partially that bullying effect was supposed to stop in our adult ages. But that’s a lie. There are folks in the workplaces, churches, clubs, your groups (Alumni Fraternity, Sorority, Rotary Clubs), connections, network and many others that are bullies right now. I encountered a “bully like situation” in 2004 via the Milwaukee Urban League of trying to find a job, but the attacking part on me was on my education: UW-Stout’s Distance Education and Industrial Management. Manpower in Downtown Milwaukee same thing. Spherion, a job employment service even attacked me. Both white folks and a black woman. Grown folks. They been working in the offices for over 20 years in all, but part of them was attacking me of something they didn’t understand. But in 2005, I had to defend myself and my education of what it was. Why I’m saying this: even though that we got our successes in life thus far, NEVER FORGET the pain and hell you went though in order to get it. Many of us supposed to get by without any problems. BUT that is a bold face lie.

CALLOUT: WAKE UP! Wake up right now. I know Christmas is coming and Sagittarius Season is ending with the Capricorns coming. Fight back. 

Now speaking of fighting back: Sexual Allegations in the workplace. Oh, boy.

Seeing most of the men on the NFL Network, ESPN, PBS Talkshows, and others are getting the shaft out of the workplaces based on whispers that the female workers encountered or heard while working. Recently, Donvan McNabb, Marshall Faulk, Ike Taylor, Heath Taylor, and long time ago: Warren Sapp. The allegations were made by former NFL Network employee, Jami Cantor for her side of the story of what she encountered while working. If that’s bad, Tavis Smiley, whom had a love hate thing with President Obama, was recently suspended on his 15th year with PBS, of rumors that he was acting way advanced of approaching females, in which that story was brought up in Variety Magazine and then when PBS heard about it, they somewhat jumped the gun on Tavis. No, I don’t like Tavis Smiley, I don’t follow his viewpoints, nor I don’t follow his opinions of Barack Obama after the disrespect. But I have to say that this needs to be investigated. This reminds me of what Michael Jackson went through with that so-called 13 year old boy whom claimed he was molested. It took down Michael’s credibility and raised his conscious about those who lay claim and doing it for the money. Matter of fact, that’s what it was. All about the money. And after Michael Jackson passed in 2009 as we all know, the accuser came forward and clean at the age of 29 that it was all about getting his money! You females out there: you better not get the money as you think. You assuming that “Oh, Stephen you can’t make a comparison of what Michael Jackson did and what the females make the examples right now. ” Well the angles maybe different, but the ideas were the same. There is something going on in these workplaces that the game is messed up. Oh it seems the norm when we first get hired. But way after that it’s a different story! We know it long afterwards!

And as far as Matt Lauer, Charlie Rose, and others who “openly admit the crime”, that was completely different as usual. And appears that the wall is being broken down being up for so long! For the Today Show, have they really played themselves in which letting go Tamron Hall? Think about it!

But I hate to ask: Are we really that surprised? Be honest. And what are we willing to do about it? Keep typing? Or really addressing the issues to those whom are still stuck on netural and not moving forward?


Men of the world: we have a day. International Men’s Day. Today is the 19th of November in which we acknowledge us. Our man angle in which we know. Of course that it’s not just about our man angle. We acknowledge our accomplishments, our results, end what we do and want to do in our community and families.

And yes, we probably read about the butt hurt comments about a day like today from feminists who subsequently feel that having a men’s day set aside is meaningless. Or just being sexist because a few men in society broke rules about respecting the thought of you females that we encounter everyday. And many you feel that having this day for us in the man’s world is a flat out joke.

So why is a International Men’s Day is somewhat needed? You might have seen this on Social Media today.

That’s just one sample. Like many of you females, we men folk got concerns like you. We are immune to suicides, domestic violence, violent crimes, and face health concerns. We know that issues of Prostate Cancer, Colon Cancer and many other health concerns are at our heads. And some of us don’t really have those things called Doctors to trust. And as far as Domestic Abuse: many of the men have been victims according to the graphic. THIS IS NO LIE! You talk about men being the Aggressors which is true. But if you have abusive women who commit crimes physically, sexually, mentally, psychologically, financially, and yet spiritually, guess who becomes the VICTIM? Yes, MEN!

Years ago, I went to a Men’s Meeting that dealt with the subject of feeling broken. And some of the items I listed were examples of men getting to a point in which these problems are posted this is what we go through at times. Even there were many times I felt broken. Not just because of other men. But also females too. I had females attacking me all because of my education, being bullied growing up because of my size or being quiet. Or body shaming because of big noses or whatever. But at the AGE OF 11, that all changed. My late uncle taught me self-defense (Kung Fu) and that energized a thing called self confidence. Mind driven. And more laser focused. If you went to school in the 80’s and 90’s, you know what I’m talking about. Take notes, women! And many of you women had our fathers historically when they were younger and defenseless telling them that “If you don’t go to that school to beat that person, I’m going to beat you!” But what did that do? Fill in the blank.

Back in the day, when a dude hits you or whatever, you hit them back! That was the law in the Schools. I don’t give a care if it involved those ribbing on you. If that person is ribbing on you and will not stop, you will and must FIGHT BACK! If it’s against a girl or chick, you sit on them. Oh, they’ll use the speech, “I’m a woman” or “You not supposed to hit a female.” What are you supposed to do, man? Either take the hit or SIT ON THEM. Make them miss, blindside them without violence. Out Psych them! Use mindgames. Forget about all the so-called “cuffing season”, It’s mind-games season. Stay one step ahead! And you wonder about why there are so many broken relationships. Stay away from that Single folks! I see all this. Read about it. And you want this to happen to a guy who has a squeaky clean record of not in abusive relationships to get into one? I’ll pass. And all that mess you thought about back in High School is a joke now. Admit the guilt. It’s all BS rumors.

You ask again: why a need for a “International Men’s Day?” Why a day that many believe that a day is set aside for the Men where Men are talked about everyday? And yes, women you get your day in March and everyday. The problem is, we get all these days on the calendar, and the thing is: half of the time we complain. We whizz and moan. Admit it. But on the other hand we do praise those who get the recognition and those who left out, get forgotten. Oh, yes we talk about the negative about us dudes, but MANY FORGET that there are MEN (especially men of color) who are doing positive things in this world besides going to work! Besides being the head of the church. Besides being a leader. There are men whom are active on their health, their finance, their place of employment, their place of volunteerism, their act of valor and reflection of valor, their act of raising families, their act on raising or educating children and many other manly deeds and objectives. You have to ask, where are these MEN right now? Where? Women: don’t get an attitude about there are no good men around, maybe because you have been looking or reading about it negatively! Need to say it. And no it’s not a thing about hooking up. Not today, Satan! Not all men are thugs, the cavemen butt jokes or many other things that many been saying since it’s probably generational, or when that same woman who was 13 years old got picked on in school. And been hating men since then. Let’s be real about this women: not every man is not after your bra and panty straps to get the digits and hashtags. Being honest here.

Another reason why a need for a International Men’s Day besides the other stuff I mentioned is to have a day that we can just be appreciated for the things that are UNAPPRECIATED! I do things in the City of Milwaukee that are UNAPPRECIATED! No matter if it’s Election Inspector Jobs, Photos, computers, or various skills I put on my resume. Even though they are all some what good, it’s UNAPPRECIATED! Even me going to my Alumni Outings and Scholarship Meetings. UNAPPRECIATED! I’m saying this as a black man in America. On point. And you women should know what I’m talking about. If you have NOT appreciated the thought that your Man, Brother, Son, Grandson, Nephew, Uncle, Cousin, or any other Man dude in your life that does all this behind the scenes and get NO appreciation for it: You better start. 5 years ago, when we were saying goodbye to Whitney Houston: one of her former bodyguards once said that “Give flowers to those while they’re living!” We know that women love flowers.
CALLOUT: Men, we need our flowers while we are living right now! Don’t wait until the casket drops to get our flowers (seems to be common with Women at times). Get the flowers right now! Get appreciated right now. Once it’s gone, it’s gone!

Now this is my view of a International Men’s Day. Not just “men being men”. But men doing men things. Real things. And setting the tone for our younger men to grow and raise. Let’s do this not just on this International Men’s Day but EVERYDAY! We know we got issues and concerns. We know we got our health nagging talks. Race, Class, Social Status, Interest, and many other Joys and Concerns on a man angle. Just to keep an eye out. That’s all.

About that “Movember” mustache thing, you know it started with voting right?