Last time on this blog: Normally, this is still election season in which you’ll see primaries and general bids for the picks to be. And many will indeed go to the polls. Check this, I am a Election Inspector for the City of Milwaukee that has been in the game for 8 years. From those who are good and yes that had folks yelled in my face! No matter if it’s a full day or a half day. For this also, it’s part II: the General State Version Election. 

For this: here it comes again – The Stephen’s Spot Rules returns. My tips, and my rules of the voting game in Wisconsin – PART II!

First thing: When the day comes, the polls will be open from 7am – 8pm. Now there is a forecast of a high voter turnout of 80%. However regarding this, already many of you or some probably voted early either by mail or in person at your City Hall Areas. But for you last minute voters: yes like the last time, you can still vote up on the day of Election Day. And word is that Milwaukee will be the key for this State Election.

Second Thing. When going, make sure you are at the right (and I mean THE RIGHT) polling place! If you’re not sure, the Election Inspectors (and or the Chief Inspectors) will help you to find the correct place to vote up. And if you are at the right spot, walk in to the rooms and when you come to the tables, state your name and address. And if your name is listed in the books, sign your name in the book to verify, and the EI’s will give you a ballot and a number.

By the way: NO ID’S NECESSARY! Only state your name and address to the EI’s (via the state law). And plus If I were a real voter, use this to your advantage and thank the U.S. Supreme Court for blocking this rule!

Third thing: Now since you have your ballot, look at it carefully. The categories and names you’ll see are the winners from the August 12th Election. For this ballot coming up it’s a non- partisan ballot – meaning for this is that it’s a two sided ballot that you can only vote for your chosen party. If you pick a Democratic contender, you have to select the democratic candidate in the categories. If you pick Republican, same thing. Constitutional or sometimes Independent, same thing. ONLY PICK ONE CANDIDATE IN EACH CATEGORY!  On the other side, you’ll see 5 questions for a referendum in which you the voter will have to answer. More on that later on. After that has been done, you take your ballot and insert into the machine and you will receive your I Voted Sticker.

NOTE: Now there might be barriers. So listen up if you might encounter them. 

If you show up at the polls, and if you state your name, and if your name is NOT in the books: chances are the EI’s might ask you the question: “When was the last time you voted?” The reason being if you haven’t voted in Wisconsin in the last 5 years per say, you need to re-register on site. When you re-register: fill out the forms provided, with your current name, address, city, state and zip. And of course you have to certify that you are of age, no felonies, no convictions, lived at your residence for 28 days, etc. Plus also when providing your info: you could also use your Wisconsin Drivers License or State ID Number or your last 4 digits of your Social to register. Plus other listings of Proof of Residence like a Utility Bill, your Government License, College Students that have an official letter from their College or University, and many others. Don’t worry, the Polling Places will have a listing of what you need to register or re-register.

If your name has changed due to misspelling or if you got married, or changed it for religious reasons, or if your neighbor near you who was a voter for amount of years that recently passed, the EI’s will have a Correction Form with them in which you the voter will verify the changes either in address, name, or deceased.

If you are a convicted felon: PAY ATTENTION ON THIS!

If you’re name is on paper and if you are still finishing your parole, you can’t vote. HOWEVER, if you’re name is off paper, yes you can vote.

About 2 years ago: the state warned us about “Tweeting Ballots”. Here’s what I know. If you snap a picture of your ballot that is a sample or unmarked, it’s valid. HOWEVER if it’s already snapped and you made your choices to show it off, you’re asking for jail time and/or pay a fine. Votes should be private all the way. Even in the era of social media. So Facebookers, Twitter folks, Googlers in all, don’t even try it. However, you can snap a pic of your I Voted Sticker.

When marking the ballots of your choice, and after you insert it into the machine, you might hear an rejected error sound. What do you do? The EI’s or Chief Inspectors will inspect the print out and it could be an overvote, or a cross party voted error. In this situation, the voter (you) will have to revote your picks per say. The EI’s will give you another ballot and you have to make your choices again. And when marking the votes, don’t darken the lines so heavily! Draw the lines lightly. And when you put the ballot in the machine (if it all goes well) then you get your sticker. Just a heads up: you only get 3 tries. If you fail all three times, its done. But if you get it right on the second or last try, you’re safe. So it’s best to get the ballots right on the first try!

If your name is in the book, and if you have the word Absentee near it, the EI’s will tell you that it’s noted and will ask if you used it previously. If you did, that counts as a vote for that day. But: if you haven’t used it but still wanted to use the regular ballots, what the EI’s and Chief Inspectors will do in this situation is take your Absentee Ballot, and exchange it for a regular ballot. Plus you might sign your name in the books. The absentee ballots will be soiled or in this case they’ll rip it up. For the POR’s you might to provide additional info like a WI DL Number to verify.

And also in some circumstances: having a witness could be a vital factor of proof.

For the handicapped: it is vital that they receive the real deal voting as much as every other voter.

Also: if the ending of the voting hours around 8pm occurs, and if you’re in line: you can still vote! Remember, everyone’s right of voting counts.

Now since the finals are in November and whoever wins that will be declared the victor.


ALSO there are 5 referendums on the Ballot. And I know that this might be a challenge for those who might be confusing. But I think you just have to read the questions. BUT ON HERE: I’m going to dissect the questions per say to those who might an problem per say. It could happen. So here goes, via the Wisconsin Government Accountability Board.

QUESTION 1: “Creation of a Transportation Fund. Shall section 9 (2) of article IV and section 11 of article VIII of the constitution be created to require that revenues generated by use of the state transportation system be deposited into a transportation fund administered by a department of transportation for the exclusive purpose of funding Wisconsin’s transportation systems and to prohibit any transfers or lapses from this fund?” YES ___ NO ____

My view – In other words: do you feel that the Wisconsin DOT per say, should establish a transportation fund that can be only be used for funding for transportation uses only (i.e. roads, bridges, trains, etc.), and NOT for any other non-transportation project?



My view – In other words: should us human beings or citizens only be for the constitutional rights and not companies and political contributions?



My view – In other words: should the state get more federal money to assist the needs of the Badgercare Customers for health coverage? Specifically for those who need it?



My view – In other words: do you want, or would you like to see the state of Wisconsin increase the Minimum Wage from $7.25 to $10.10? 



My view – In other words: do you want Milwaukee County to give the power of Management and Administrative work to a County Administrator than the County Executive? (i.e. do you want Milwaukee County to give County Administrator Joe Schmoe the Management Administrative jobs than County Executive Chris Abele?)


Now just a friendly warning, I am NOT making any voter to answer yes or no. That’s up to you as a voter to decide. 

So again Wisconsin folks, I know we’re polarized with politics. But one thing for sure, we all have a right to vote for whomever we want to steer the offices. Even if you don’t like the viewpoints of Scott Walker. Or whatever. And if those feel that this election in November don’t mean nothing to sit at home, worrying about your paycheck, or your hairstyle, or your new CD with the banging beats, or your new Gun Permit CCW License that you got, those things might make your voting opposition even worse even if you don’t vote.

By the way, for those who you know very well that got those Lyft Cars, or Uber Cars and you know them that uses their vehicles for going from point A to point B and being paid for it, use that.

For all you Wisconsin Uber and Lyft Drivers: if you have any Election Day Driving specials going on like “I’ll Uber you to the polls”, or “Lyfting you to the polls” specials, start advertising that NOW! I don’t care how much you charge, just help those who can’t get to the polls on their own. 

So in conclusion: Get OUT and Vote Up on November 4th!

Note to all Facebook users:

I need to you to do one thing and one thing only, can you please not comment your Social Security Number on your group pages?!!!

I’m on the news feeds recently and in one of the groups, someone put up a meme per say in regarding this – “Comment below with your Social Security Number.”

Somebody must be real dumb! Really?!!!

Why would someone want to do that.? Don’t those realize that whoever puts out their Social Security Number in the Public or Private groups puts them in danger. And don’t forget about all those Identify Thefts going around that some can put your identity at risk. HELLO?!!!

I think it’s high time that many on the social media stuff need to realize that there are certain things that are imporatnt to your identity should not be shown up on your facebook wall. I mean who am I kidding? Why would you share your social security number with those you don’t know? I know what those are thinking like, “We do it all the time with jobs…..” yes but this is no job offer. Again it’s about setting up folks to get robbed.

Where’s the like button for that?!

And plus this goes for Instagram too!

Another Episode of the Three Way Dance. Where I take three different dance cards of some sorts of different areas of enjoyment or seriousness. For this, it’s all about the Ebola Virus, Raven-Symone’s comment of being colorless and a local comment of Wisconsin’s Governor Race between Scott Walker and Mary Burke. It’s time to go in!

First Take: I want to talk about this whole thing of Ebola. We’ve been watching the news and reading about it online about this deadly virus that killing many in Africa. For those who are effected by the virus either in Africa or America, prayers are sent. Now after reading more about the disease or virus that is a continued plague, I have to ask this, mainly in America of those who are “freaking out”, since Ebola is freaking us out like crazy to get to the doctors, why are we not freaking out when some of us we know gets Cancer of any kind, HIV, STD, AIDS, and I dare say Diabetes?! Where is the freaking out of that notion? And where is the freaking out of the notion of Flu Shots?!!  Now in the past in regarding flu shots, especially around the Fall Season, we’ve been told to “get a flu shot”. HERE IS MY QUESTION: And I’m speculating here and it’s not an opinionated piece. And if you’re a real doctor or nurse in the medical game I would like this to be answered in your knowledge: In regarding flu shots themselves, is it mandatory to get one, or is it optional? Let’s look at the word “mandatory” in meaning that it must be done, usually by law. I haven’t read any laws or restrictions that guarantees of getting a flu shot. Never read one. Again, if you are in the medical game, point me in a direction or a site, or a reference that backs this up. We know it’s mandatory to get checked every year, and it’s mandatory to get our teeth checked every six months! But where is the mandatory written for flu shots?! As far as optional is concerned, it’s basically by choice. Either you get it or you don’t. There are some folks that I know that don’t get flu shots and they stay away from folks who have deadly flus that pop up like a pimple on prom night. Just want to know. Plain and simple.

As far as Ebola again, look Americans. We know it’s here. And yes we had doctors that went to Africa to help fight the cure and came back affected with the virus. And we read about the NBC Cameraman that died in lieu of the virus took place. And also there is an individual that is clinging on to life right now in Texas, that is being watched constantly due to the virus. Whom is now just recently died.  Mainly it’s coming from the air, and we need to be prepared for the next outcome. So don’t’ act like it’s a modern day of the red plague!

Second Take: Raven-Symone.

I know the anti-Negropeans folks are out in full force. Oh, you didn’t know? I know that many in the African-American Community aren’t taking Raven-Symone seriously about her comment on Oprah’s Where are they now? show.

That was the clip was setting off the firestorm. Matter of fact, I’ve heard some black folks say this most of the time, in terms of rejecting their black side and try to get to that Human side per say. But how in the living you know what are you going to get to that human side without acknowledging your side  of being black? I kind of calling that shaming. Really I do. I’m going there. I heard these song lyrics on stat like: “Black is beautiful” and “Say it Loud, I’m black and I’m proud!” I know I’m not the only one heard those lyrics. In a church sermon one day, I heard my pastor talking about those who are acting as “house negros” that do alot more sucking up than those who don’t. Even some black Christians too. Believe me I know. Me, as a black man, African-American call it what you want, I do interact with different folks, but I don’t EVER FORGET what got me to the dance in the first place! What that means is I don’t hide, nor turn down my black side. Yes, we all are supposed to be on that “Human Race thing”, but don’t forget what got you in the human race in the first place of your origin of ethnicity. I’m just saying. For Raven, yeah she may have had her say, and she’s a bright young woman, who once lighten the room as Olivia on the Cosby Show, and “That’s So Raven”. I get it. But I don’t think she realized that there are those whom are young fans of her’s of African Decent, have probably asked the question based on her commentary. So, is it was feeling ashamed or just non acknowledgement?

And plus why do at times that black folks (as least some) don’t want to acknowledge to be black or had to cringe when to talk about the ethnicity when they were born with? Zoe Salanda commented this years ago about her cringing when talking about her ethnicity. WHAT?!!!! This is the same actress who wants to play Nina Simone in a movie, and previously played Columbiana, a younger Lt. Uhura, and many other roles. But this “in cringing being black” must be real silly! I think that it’s time that yes to explore the humanity side, BUT NEVER EVER FORGET: what got you in the humanity side first: Black folks who feel this way, you gonna learn today! This goes for my Gen-X folks, the Gen Y’s and Millennial folks: you’re in this too! No hiding. No cringing! Stop being ashamed!

Third Take: A Bump in the Wisconsin’s preliminary polls for Governor. Plus also a mixed bag. 

Well, it seems that the Mary Burke – Scott Walker race is setting up. Preliminary wise. According to the preliminary polls previously, (via the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel) Walker lead Burke in a 49% – 46% lead among likely voters. For the preliminary polls in August during we were all summered out, Walker lead Burke 47% – 41% among registered voters, while at the same time, Burke herself taken the lead with a 48% – 46% among likely voters at the time.

After the so-called “plagerismgate” of Mary Burke’s Jobs Plan, the Walker folks took a 5% addition over the Burke camp. Really?! All because of the sampling of Job ideas from other Democrats?

Now we’ve all seen the first debate between Walker and Burke. And by the way, the second debate will be in Milwaukee. The very same Milwaukee that Scott Walker didn’t mention in his State of the State Speech. The same Milwaukee that Walker doesn’t particularly like that much. Yeah I said it! During the debate, Walker got stumped. Really he got stumped by a woman! In that first debate, Walker dodged all bullets pertaining to the now blocked-Voter ID option for November 4th, and mostly as we all know: the amount of jobs he wanted of 250,000. If you are a Walker fan, I’ve told you once, and I’ve told you again, he will not get that far and according to the latest numbers: it’s about 130,000 jobs already pumped into the state. And Walker is near the end of  his first term. So where’s the 250,000 jobs again?! NO WHERE! And plus, did I mention that Talgo is gone from the state? And the results of that,

Now we also know that Mary Burke won the first debate. That’s good. BUT Mary must get at Walker for a round 2. Don’t just settle for Round 1 and that’s it. Plus that debate got Mary’s 5 points back to get even with Walker.

Haven’t done this in a while, but I think it’s time for me to get back to do these “I told you so” things about the Badger State Politics per say.

Plagiarism in Politics, broken campaign promises. Oh and these “Militia-like threats” in Poll Watching.

More recently in the current Wisconsin Politics, there was an act of plagiarism that took place between Mary Burke, and the current Governor Scott Walker. The Walker folks recently spotted a flaw in the Burke campaign in relation to the jobs idea to get the state further up. They claimed on their part that Mary Burke stole ideas from other democrats in order to get her jobs plan idea to show. Mainly also since then, the person, Eric Schnurer whom Mary picked as her Campaign Consultant, was fired from his post in this recent story. And yes the Walker folks went all ham on Burke for this. Even sometime after that, Scott Walker himself commented his “I say I believe” speech that Mary Burke can’t be trusted.

Oh, wait a minute!

What most folks realized in the four years that Walker has been in office, he can’t be trusted either! Oh, let me count the ways why:

1) The ongoing phrase of putting 250,000 private sector jobs by his first term. – I told you Walker folks then and I’m tell you now. That was not going to happen. I told you.

2) Slashing folks off of BadgerCare, especially those who are really needy for some sort of healthcare. And still being anti-Obamacare.

3) Act 10 and Collective Bargaining. 

4) Education money was slashed.

5) Voter ID – don’t get me started on that.

And the most obvious: Refusing to accept over $800 million dollars to construct a High Speed Rail route which would have linked Milwaukee and Madison. And the jobs were almost in ink, but was thrown away by Walker, his administration, and also his so-called fans who thought it was a boondoggle that would not work. Really? And also that project, could have been a lifesaver for not only jobs, but also for getting to those hard to reach areas in getting to the jobs. I said this alot and I’m still saying it: Not everyone in Wisconsin doesn’t have a Driver’s License nor a vehicle!

Now that was just a sample that Walker himself can’t be trusted. Heck, I didn’t trust him when he was County Executive of Milwaukee County. Cutting bus routes, raising bus fares. And he came in after the late Tom Ament was existed due to the Pensions Scandal.

This political bull of the stories that rocked Plagiarism like a bad habit, I think and will assume that the Walker folks need to watch what they say because according to the Journal Sentinel, Walker kind of “stole some ideas” per say from other Republicans that got him competing. Oh, what are they you asked? Let’s see:

The “Wisconsin Comeback,” a phrase frequently used by Walker in his re-election campaign manager, comes from the “American comeback” campaign of the Republican Governors Association. The phrase is used by a few other GOP governors such as Sam Brownback,” who has talked in his re-election campaign about the “Kansas comeback.”

And here’s another:

In his successful 2010 race for governor, Walker used a theme of brown bag lunches to emphasize his frugality. That reprised a campaign theme of former U.S. Sen. George Voinovich, an Ohio Republican.

So what does that tell?

If done legally, sampling the words or phrases from other politicians, isn’t bad as long as it’s been done legally with reference. Back in school when we written papers or documents and used words quoted from famous writers of people, the teachers always told us to give the authors credit. Give them credit for sources. I mean that goes for anything. When I cite articles for my blog stories, I give the author or the publisher credit because that is the rule of law regardless.

How is this plagiarism talk is supposed to get people the jobs, health-care, education, infrastructure to better transportation, safety, and many other needy factors that mostly concerns the public? And those who are anti-Mary Burke with this plagiarism talk, is that the ONLY reason why you think Walker will win?

And just recently: there has been groups forming in Wisconsin. To clarify, this is what the “groups” have posted on Twitter:


Oh so these dumb idiots want to show up with guns and to make a threat to those in the African-American/Democratic Areas to vote on November 4th? These fools are so dumb! Having those guns, eh? Is that going to solve the problem? Really? Oh, now you want to get guns? Now you want to get those scared? You want to play this game?!!!!


I want to address the Wisconsin Black folks here. If you saw this post on Twitter, or any other platform, these fools are just looking for a fight. That’s all they are. These fools (like many others) don’t want you vote. Don’t want you to show up with your registration, your ID’s or any other right to cast your ballot in which our ancestors fought and died for in order to express and choose our vote respectfully. If you go to the polls, GO! When you go to the polls – GO! Don’t let these so-called militias scare you out of your right to validate your picks to vote!

As far as these so-called militias: they are asking for trouble! That’s all they are. And plus, if the real Governor himself Scott Walker were a real man, or a real citizen of leadership in his “I mean what I say” speeches, then he should condemn these groups and tell them to stand down. PERIOD! All you Republicans fans in Wisconsin, you Tea baggers Badgers who like guns in all: do you condone this? Coming from those who say “I got a lot of black friends” in all. Your black friends might be in danger in the Democratic areas of the Milwaukee area that you are friends with! Also: where is Sheriff David Clarke in this? Uh-huh Where’s the Sheriff in this? Is he and the County Sheriff Department is aware of this?! They should. We know the MPD might be in effect, and don’t be surprised if AG Eric Holder would be in effect also.

This stunt that these militias are asking for will backfire. Everybody all over town will have their names, address, credit history, criminal records, Social Media Pages, and pics to be on the lookout. Even if you are fans of black Wisconsin media. We got the names!

So for the 25th time: I told you so!

For the third weekend in September, the City of Milwaukee has played host in the past for a couple of years in an event called Doors Open Milwaukee. Now, check this. This is the event where many Milwaukeeans go behind the scenes at Milwaukee’s well known buildings, arenas, structures and most of all, landmarks that we drive, play, work, and also socialize each day. No question, this was an open house in a unique type of way to have the city to “open up” and discover the side of Milwaukee that should be explored.

This year, it was my first opportunity to explore. In the past, I’ve read about it, seen the pictures and heard the stories. But now, I get my chance to explore, and re-explore 3 different sites that I highlighted.

The first was the Sherman Park Senior Living Center. For those that forgotten, this in the past was Peckham Middle School, and later on it was my former Middle School of Jackie Robinson. For the record, I was a student at Jackie Robinson back in the late 80’s and early 90’s. And graduated back in 1991. And plus I used to called it the “Lion’s Den” due to the fact that Robinson’s mascot was the Lions. And the colors were Blue and Yellow, and the school used to have different “families” according to each homeroom and floor. For you old Robinson Lions out there: FAMILY 3!!!!!!

The school turned structure was completely different than my days at Robinson. But the corridors I used to walk through remained the same. The areas where I toured was full of short apartments for seniors. Nothing but washers/dryers, combined bedrooms, living spaces, fitness rooms and a media center that used to be one of the boiler rooms. There were also items encased in glass ranged from office signs, a huge bill board of the area when the school was built, projectors, a big artwork of Barack Obama, an office for Gorman Construction, pictures from events via the archives, and other useful artwork. The Library where I used to have my books on, is still intact, but it was converted to a short lounge. The Auditorium in the facility was the still the same when I left in 1991, but aged overtime. The former cafeteria is now a hallway that houses more visual memorabilia of the school plus an elevator. Back in my day, there was no elevator! And the Gym where I had my recess stuff, it now houses salons, and barber shops for the residents. Talk about total change! And I also heard that most of the senior residents that live in the new area, used to be students at Robinson/Peckham during it’s hey day.

The second site of my first time visitation: The U.S. Bank Building. Now I’m assuming that everyone knows about this structure. It was built back in the 1970’s and had gone through name changes of First Wisconsin, Firstar, and now, U.S. Bank. And still remains the tallest building in the city and state. Still, the iconic building continues to attract both locally and nationally. For this occasion, the one true thing about this area: is the observation deck. For many years, the deck was closed off to the public due to business, but during this event, it gives an open view for the city residnets to see all of Milwaukee from the four areas: The Lake Shore, The South, The Downtown area, and the North Side. I was in amazement and blessed (yes BLESSED) to get my photograph skills on to take pictures and have them on storage. This was, to me one of my must do lists that I had to do while staying and living in the Milwaukee Area. And of course it was long line to wait, and going up an freight elevator up 41 flights. And just for those who want to know and should know, the U.S Bank Center does not have a 13th floor! Just to be clear!

Finally, after church, I visited a church. One of the oldest United Methodist Churches in the city, Summerfield was my final stop of my first time of doing the Doors Open Milwaukee. The church itself still has it’s old school surroundings dating back to the 1900’s. But also the church goes back to the late 1890’s during it’s founding. During my visit, the best view was the sanctuary that had the old structures, and it had some new digs. The windows are a classic that fit the mold of the structure, and overview. Plus with me being part of the UMC, I had to drop by and show them some love and support. But mostly, we networked as United Methodists!

Overall, I have enjoyed the overall structure and behind the scenes looks of this event. And mostly it’s just the new beginning for at least “something to do” in a city that leans identity. But it’s the Brew City and even in an event like this, makes you realize that there is more than meets the eye of exploration.

Three Way Dance Time!

For you new readers, I do this three way dance about mini stories into one big blog story! Well in that case for this: it’s about the NFL related stories of spankings, Domestic Violence and mostly: Packers!

First Dance:

Ok. I’ve asked this question before, and I have written this story previously, and I’m going to say it again. And don’t be ashamed to admit this. How many of us who are grown, got a career, looking for jobs, volunteer, staying active in all, have ever been spanked as a child? Let’s be honest here, who was spanked as a kid? No matter what you did wrong as a child – ever! All of this spanking or whoopings news is just flat out dumb. Ok, so Adrian Peterson, whom plays for the Vikings who I don’t cheer for, was caught in a crossfire because of this “incident” of spanking his 4 year old son in Texas. And the reason we all know why he did it because it was a way that he was raised. Many of us, even yours truly can relate in getting those belts, those switches, shoes or any other object that our mothers and sometimes fathers get on us when we didn’t do right. Yes, I had them to and I’m not making any bones about it. And of course our parents and/or older relatives will tell stories about it in their own way. We get it. Why? they did it. And I’ll bet some of us probably were thinking of the words going to call “Child Abuse” on our parents per say to get them arrested or thrown in jail.

But seriously, why is the subject of spankings is still an ongoing issue when it compares to the NFL and the news? 

Ok, so Adrian Peterson got caught with his hand in the cookie jar per say and the folks in the media blows up. Wow! Why can’t they just report about how to play ball for the next season? Jeez. Other football players have said the same thing in support of Adrian. Even a guy like Reggie Bush said the same thing. But later on he would retract his statement on whooping his 1 year old daughter speech. I have to question those who get offended per say about a subject like this, why are you offended by spankings? Let ask those in the so-called right wing media, or anyother media,  or those sheltered parents who probably got kids who don’t understand in all, were you whooped as a child? Don’t back out now! This spanking story will infact go away. But the memory of being spanked or whooped will not. I mean if we want to see spankings on the NFL Football Field, you root for your team to win over their opponent. This spanking story and many others will disappear, the players will play again and the families will go back to private mode.

Second Dance:

The NFL should implement and include in the October events of Domestic Violence Awareness. They should not only keep the pink, but also add the purple. Yes, we all know about the ongoing talk about Ray Rice, Janay Rice and their concern. And also there were new incidents that even Arizona Cardinals Running Back Johnathan Dwyer has been on the list of those that committed acts of Domestic Violence. And another was, from the Carolina Panthers, Greg Hardy. So yes, we know that the NFL is making their stamp well known: if you have an issue with Domestic Violence in your situation, the league will deactivate you and get this matter resolved. I know that the NFL has an image to maintain. Advertisers like Busch, and Campbell’s Soup are making their voices known to tell the NFL to shape up! You got these young role models out here that don’t want to hear all this mess! And they know it. So yes, the NFL has to change their policies for the better. And speaking of that, these NFL Social Communicators out here, that just hired 4 white women, where are the black women? Seriously, just don’t assume that the white women are the only answer for this. I’ve seen black women give answers too. Just my opinion. And as far as Roger Goodell is concerned, yes I have seen his commentary today about his handling of the situation. Yes he admit he was wrong about it and seems that he does have a plan in solving his end of the Domestic Violence angles in the players. He proposed some key elements in the change of the plans today via

  • Goodell said that the league will look to implement a “conduct committee” that will help to establish procedures on how to handle conduct problems.
  • Goodell announced partnerships with two of the leading domestic violence and sexual assault resources: The National Domestic Violence Hotline (The Hotline) and the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC).
  • “In addition, NFL teams and league staff will participate in education sessions starting in the next month, followed by training programs. These programs are being developed by a top group of experts.”
  • Goodell said he has not considered resigning, despite some public calls to do so.
  • Goodell indicated that he wants more specific punishments for specific offenses, with less gray area. 

With these elements of change, he wants to have this done by the time whomever team goes to the Superbowl. This is what he wants and it shall be. One thing that does stand out, is the educational portions of the use of Domestic Violence Awareness and Sexual Assault Awareness. The main reasons though, many don’t know what to expect when these incidents occur. Mainly is about counting money! And keeping that image is everything stuff. And oh my name is so-and-so and I can’t be sued. Think again! This isn’t about money, nor about ratings, fantasy picks, points to be scored, interceptions, touchdowns, MVP’s in all. This is not about that. This is about getting the whole house (and the WHOLE HOUSE) in order. Like I said you got young fans who look up to an Quarterback, Running Back, Wide Receiver, Defensive Back and got their posters on the wall. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. For you parents: This is a must ask question: those men that are pictured on the wall in your kid’s room right now, you have to ask, is that player a good role model for my Son? Or my Daughter? Don’t forget, females like football also. Just to be clear.

Finally on the card: Packers!

I read a story about a question that the team doing a popular play that is out now. Many of us have seen it. And the Badgers used it a couple of years ago in terms of a Badger Barge. Vic Ketchman of asked the question, “Could the Packers run the Jet Sweep?” Let me answer that: yes, they should! Remember when I posted about blog story about changing the culture, after the Packers got beat by Niners in all? Yes, I admit they need to change the culture in terms of the plays. Many don’t know that the Packers were one of the first teams to display and run the Power Sweep plays when Vince Lombardi was around coaching it. True story. Yes even today, the Packers use the same Sweep Play in a modified way to move their offense. For once as a Packer Backer/Observer: I say put the Jet Sweep in a formation. Put Randall Cobb, Jordy Nelson or even the rookie Davante Adams in the play and run it! For another play like that with the fake outs in the formation, put Eddie Lacy or James Starks to run straight through the Defense. I want to see that! If the Badgers can do that same play that almost got them the Rose Bowl Title, then I think the Packers can do the same. Put a new name for the Jet Sweep for the Packers like the “Lombardi Barge” Or the “Curly Sweep” or “The New Packers Power Sweep”, or the “Packers HB Sweep 2.0″. Call it what you want, but still run the play. Put in play Coach! Come on Ted Thompson make it happen! Oh, another question I’ve been getting is this: how will the Packers will do this year? They already got beat by Seattle. I expected that game to be a tough one for a reason. Why, because Seattle is the team to beat. They have the Lombardi Trophy. Clearly, the opponents have to beat champs, and the champs have to defend the title. And yes, the Seahawks have a bounty on their heads for the whole season to see if they can survive with the trophy in hand until the playoffs. If the Seahawks get beat (and there will be a lucky team to beat them)then the title itself is up for grabs. If not, they get a repeat. Many are picking the Packers to go to the Super Bowl, vs either Denver or Indianapolis. That’s one of those Peter King things. Not me. And I think they’ll repeat as NFC North Champs again!

Likewise, the Pack, (not the so-called slackers!) are still a good team in the hunt. So I wouldn’t count them out for anything.

All in this 2014-2015 season.

The topic of Domestic Violence in terms of various examples has been talked about for years. Many of us, including me had or have relatives, friends, or acquaintances that were in domestic violence disputes or angles. In the last two years, my home church in Milwaukee had sessions about Love Is, in terms of Healthy Relationships. And yes Domestic Violence was the centerpiece topic in relations to men being the aggressor over women. And sometimes that is not being talked about that much that women can have the aggressor angle over men in various ways. On this blog, yes I have highlighted several examples previously the triggers, feelings, actions and others that lead to the legality of the use of domestic violence.

Now I know that many are still talking about Ray Rice. And his former fiance, now wife Janay Rice. And the elevator. And the video. And the Baltimore Ravens winning their game against the Steelers this past week two of the NFL season. And even though that the game was won by Ray Rice’s former team (he was removed by the NFL Offices) the topic of domestic violence and the legality of domestic violence still lingers!

Yes, I’ve heard over the years that Men shouldn’t hit Women. And all others. But what happens if men were to be struck by women and then what, stand down?! Yesterday on my Facebook feeds, there was a Meme about Tiger Woods. And it displayed a picture of Tiger and having this message like: “No one called my incident domestic violence when I was abused.” Or something like that. But then we realize that the subject of Domestic Violence is a double standard. So technically if a female tries to put me out of my misery in a physical, sexual, religious, or financial angles, yes it is an example of domestic disputes. But alas, many will find that funny. Humorous. Crazy funny. It’s not. That is just as a bad as this example this year when a story was posted several months ago about a black woman killed her boyfriend over a #WCW picture. Seriously?!! Why would a black woman kill her boyfriend over a crush picture?!! That right there is an example of domestic violence. And even though they probably didn’t get married at the time (ala Ray Rice and Janay), that angle is valid in terms of the legality. By the way, the new #WCW is called Women Crush Wednesday in which Men (and sometimes Women) post their “crush” on Instagram for the day. The women mostly post an opposite day like #MCM or Man Crush Monday.

Also, what is up with these women per say, who get abused by their counterparts and they stay with them? My advice: JUST FREAKING LEAVE! I mean if a person is getting abused run away fast. I know it’s not that simple. The abuser thinks that they would leave them, don’t want to feel lonely or just being so insecure. That’s like an wrestling adage in which I don’t want to be join forces with someone that I already fought with. No sir. No madam. I can understand about supporting kids and having family obligations. But hey, any life involved in the domestic violence circle that is effected shouldn’t be harmed at all!

We’ve all seen one of Tyler Perry’s movies, “Madea’s Family Reunion”. Don’t lie! Many of you probably got it on storage somewhere in the house. The scenes that Blair Underwood’s character Carlos, as we know, portrayed a high class business executive, a eligible bachelor, hard working man. Good looking. Dressed nice. Rides a good looking car. Come on ladies I know you’ve seen the movie! It’s Blair Underwood for God’s sakes! Yeah that guy. But there was a dark side of his character. He was an abuser, an aggressive person who lunges power and being manipulative of his soon to be bride. But towards the end of the movie, the character Lisa, played by Rochelle Aytes used a pot full of heated grits to get at Carlos plus, using a frying pan and beating him over and over again. And Al Green was playing in the background. I think the angle in all of this, the abused had enough of running, being scared, being controlled, being unaware of her actions that seemed positive. But overall she finally had the balls per say to stand up to the guy!

Now, some of you are saying, “Stephen that was a movie! What does that truly mean in real life situations when couples and or couples to be who are abused, are beaten, or manipulated in real life everyday?” To quote a former Pastor of mine: I’m so glad you asked that question! Because that is question, I am prepared to answer!

In every relationship no matter what happens we all know there are going to be problems no matter what. And to say that there will be always solutions that solve those dilemmas. But however many don’t follow through. They don’t! Either because they don’t know where to go, whom to trust, what to believe, when to convince, why and how to solve these problems head on! Now folks, remember when we were kids growing up and having those older than us that if someone is messing with you or if there is a problem, you tell a grown up? Remember that? When neighbors knew your name, when other family members or close friends knew your name like a book, etc? Do you all remember that? I hope you do! I know most of us are grown. And some are not. But the fact of matter is, folks need to speak up and let those know that enough is enough. The late great wrestler Owen Hart back in his WWF days had a theme music that began “Enough is enough. It’s time for a change!” Females you should know very well. For the men who were abused in many angles, don’t listen to the haters of other men (and/or other Women) who are going to joke about you at the clubs, and the workplace. They will not save you! And I think they won’t do it is because they probably might have those insecure arguments and against mess that Domestic Violence among men is a farce. Any type of violence against anyone is unnecessary.

Oh check this: We all know about the history of Ike and Tina. Like the Carlos character, Ike appeared to all good looking, having a bravado of his music, his goals, his management skills, and also having a hand in starting Tina’s career. BUT: as we all know from history, he too had his domestic violence ways with her over the years. Even this incident was talked about way before it was made public! I can hear my mother reliving a conversation (true conversation) with Tina Turner and several others of my family at the time during her peak of stardom. Even my late Grandmother had to hear this. And yes Tina told the situation over and over again. Plus the question was mentioned about why did she stay with Ike? The response was the usual I still love him commentary. And this question was asked: “WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?” Like the song title that we’ve heard so many times and this should be a burning question to many of those who have been abused, even Janay Rice herself: What’s love got to do with it? I’m serious here! I’m poking the brains ya’ll! Even though some may not want to comment.

So to say, in regarding love in this, and when the abuser over and over again making the hits to hurt, where does love come in when your body is lying a county morgue, or preparing to be buried or cremated? That is what I want to know! Or where does love come in, that your job, your church, your alumni, your college student experience, your personal positive needs are all effected when an abuser of DV comes in and snatches it?

Just as an idea: We all know that the month of October is coming up. The same scary month of Halloween. So I am proposing an idea to the Domestic Violence Awareness Folks and the Breast Cancer Awareness folks. Join forces for sport related events. Have a “Pink and Purple Awareness Party” all month long for October to recognize the awareness of both concerns and continue to the conversation about this always!


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English: Illustration made in Inkscape by Tokyoship. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As a gamer for the last 20 plus years or so, I’ve been in the stores, on-line, and at display shows, I am still fascinated about the gameplay of Nintendo. Don’t get me wrong, Nintendo is still in the conversation for positive reasons, and also normal game playing reasons overall. BUT: in the wake of Madden Season and many others, it’s becoming a concern per say about the status of Nintendo and in my opinion, a now sense of urgency. Does Nintendo, or should Nintendo be more open and grasp the games with the adult crowd? We’re talking 18 and up here. And I know it’s a complicated question, but I believe that Nintendo should up the ante in terms of their units sold or they may have to do the one thing they haven’t done: Sell more of the units WITHOUT Mario and Luigi.

Dear Nintendo of America:

It’s me Stephen. A black blogger not by pay, but by hobby out of Milwaukee.

I’ve been a Nintendo Customer since 1988. That’s 26 years ago this month. And yes, I started out with the Mario Games, The TMNT games, Duck Hunt, Ninja Gaiden, Excitebike, Mike Tyson’s Punch Out, Super Adventure Islands, Batman, Mortal Kombats, The House of the Dead Overkills, and had my share of Hogan’s Alley and Madden Season. Seemingly, I’ve been a fan. And also I’m one of those older gamers that still plays not just for the graphics. I play the game just for what it is: Gameplay. Just playing the game and having fun.

In the last couple of years, yes your units from the original NES, GameBoys, Super NES, N64, Wii and now the WiiU have all been memorable. It has. But now as the changing times are here, and the competition is vastly aware with XBox and PlayStation, It’s time for the Company, the Units of the WiiU and the games themselves to CHANGE THE CULTURE!

What does that mean? With all due respect to the younger gamers, this is nothing against them. Ain’t nothing wrong playing Mario Kart on the WilU. But however for those of us who are way beyond 18, and having this sense of urgency to get the company to turn the page, it’s apparent that Nintendo should restock the weapons and get more games that can sell on the Unit.

For the unit. don’t get me wrong, the WiiU is a good system. But here is an option I think should be in the Nintendo Board Rooms: Sell additional units or new stock of units WITHOUT Mario! That’s right I said it. Sell the units without the Mario games. In this way I think the gamers should get another option than the usual $299.99 plus tax. The units should be sold about 1/2 or 3/4 or the price without the games and plus the gamers should be given to buy the games they really want.

Let’s say if the unit does sell for a well reduced price without including Mario for about (in a half price) $150.00, I think that might be a useful option for those who don’t want to pay $300.00 for a machine. Now if the unit was about three quarters, it would be about $225.00 per set. Again this is for the WiiU Units WITHOUT Mario! Partially if that were to happen, in my opinion, that would sell. Not only it would sell, but it would also help consumers to save money. But more importantly I think it would sell. This is just for the unit only. And I think it should get the numbers up per say, to get to a mark where it’s mostly needed. And it could be on the side.

Just a throwback: I remember buying the SNES years ago, and it was a basic set of the unit and controllers. No games. I remember buying the games separately because I didn’t want to get any of the Mario games. This was around 1993-1994 and it was at a store called Target! True story. 

Also for the games: I know. I know. The games have to be more open to the grown folks. We see God Of War, Call of Duty and many others that dominated the game units of Xbox and Playstation. We’ve seen them. But HOW will Nintendo get the gears going in because of this? What needs to be done is Nintendo must play poker and find a new way to sell the units. I’ve read about those whom turned down Nintendo say, “Sell more units”. Is that all they have to say? Really?! What are they ACTUALLY saying?

Yes I know about Madden 15 is not on the WiiU this year with an dispute of EA Sports. I’ve read about it. And I believe that both sides needs to realize that this should be a vital option to get the both sides to talk and do. Already, Nintendo will have Bayonetta 1 and 2 coming out in the Fall and no, I haven’t play Bayonetta. However yes, I have seen previews and it looks to be a good game. I am also familiar with Assassins Creed, ZombieU, Batman, Darksiders II, and many others that the grown folks should buy after work. Mainly those. Even also with Basketball, and many others.

But I’m here to say this and this only: Nintendo, you need to step your game up! And I’m not talking about basketball or football. You really need to get digging deep here and get moving on this!  Yes, I understand that the use of game-play is your bread and butter. And respectfully so, BUT: STEP YOUR GAME UP! You may have to tap in to companies that want to play poker along with you to get selling more of your units! I can respect your game. BUT in this era, you might need to change the culture with WiiU. And plus, if I was a board member of Nintendo, I would put that in the list of idea to improve revenue! Mainly surveying, focus group sessions, and many others that gears toward the older and should I say, “EXTREME GAME PLAYERS” that want to play!

And about the Madden Games, I want to address EA Sports right now! I don’t know what your beef is against Nintendo, but its time to work with them! Since the NFL season is back on the scene, haven’t you noticed that the coaches are using tablets now? With the Microsoft Tablets in which they and the players can go back over the plays of what was good and bad? Imagine for a second if Madden 16 per say were to come next year and the use of tablets were in play, that should invite the WiiU’s Gamepad in a new fashion to play once again. Use that option! Brainstorm with them! Don’t just sit there.

Nintendo: It’s time to open up. Really open up. Don’t just rely on the Mario’s all the time. Don’t just rely on the games for the Teens and Family. You need more adult related M rated Games to get more grown folks playing! I may speak for those who probably feel the same way, but I’m speaking for myself.

Time to play Nintendo. This time: PLAY HARD!



I want to direct my attention to the readers here on the “spot” one question. How many African-American males (or black men in general) ever have been or are feeling “broken?”

Seriously ponder this question.

I don’t want the black female queens to chime in on this commentary, but feel free to view it if you want. Maybe your boyfriend, husband, neighbor, church member (yes I’m putting the church members in this!) co-worker, boss, leader, pastor, business owner, or any other significant other, or acquaintance that is a black male going through this. Or had gone though it. Actually I want you to do this to ask them this question:Have you ever been “broken?”

The reason why I’m putting this out, is because this is part of an on-going struggle of Black Men in America. We see the signs of despair, memorable past references that were deemed violent, destructive, manipulated, set up, mismanagement – either financially, mentality or spiritually. Plus, racism in all fronts, drugs and alcohol use, and many other barriers that lingers African-American Males in this era.

Today, there was a workshop meeting about this at the Greater Mt. Sinai COGIC Church in Milwaukee. Two speakers, were represented as the featured guests. My current UMC pastor was the first to talk about the Biblical references about Brokenness or the act of being broken. From the first part of the workshop it was highlighted as this:

Adam was broken because he avoided responsibility and blamed others. He chose to hide rather than confront, and made excuses rather than admitting the truth. And the greatest reason for his brokenness was when he teamed up with Eve to bring sin into the world. (Genesis 3:1-19)

Cain was broken because when disappointed, he reacted in anger, and he always took the negative option even when a positive possibility was offered; and his violent nature caused him to be the first murderer. (Genesis 4:1-17)

Esau was broken because when faced with important decisions, he tended to choose according to the immediate need rather than the long-range effect; and the poor Marriage choices. (Genesis 25th – 36th chaps).

Samson was an example of brokenness because he violated his vow to God, and on many occasions disobeyed God’s laws. He was broken because he was controlled by sensuality and sexual desires. He constantly confided in the wrong people, and used his God given gifts and abilities unwisely. (Judges the 13th thru 16th Chps.)

Saul was a example of brokenness because he was impulsive by nature and tended to over step his bounds. He let jealousy of David dictate his life and he constantly disobeyed God! (1st Samuel 9th through the 31st Chps).

Judas Iscariot was the ultimate example of brokenness and total humiliation and unnecessary suffering because he let greed, selfishness, avarice, money and ambition causes him to suffer and commit suicide, rather than seeking forgiveness from God! (Matt 26:1-15 and Luke 22:3-6)

Now: you’re probably wondering what does that have to do with being “broken?” It was referenced before in bibical times during of those mentioned being manipulated by greed, lust, envy, deceit, anger, blaming others, and many more. How many of us know someone that does this everyday? Or even if it was in the past? Think about it.

Another part of the lesson came this:

Definition of the keyword “Broken”

Broken is the past participle of break; reduced to fragments; fractured; nonfunctioning properly; out of working order. To become inoperative or to malfunction as though wear or damage; to begin suddenly or violently or change abruptly into something else!

Or to yield, or submit to pressure, torture, or to have a physical or mental collapse; or to lose control of.

 About those examples, here they are again: 

“Root Causes of Brokenness”

  1. Poverty
  2. Racism
  3. Drug and Alcohol Abuse
  4. Unemployment
  5. Violence and Gangs
  6. Fear of Failure and rejection
  7. Negative Peer Pressures
  8. Being constantly exposed to shame and humiliating situations.
  9. Negative and unproductive relationships with women.
  10. Self-depreciation because of low self-worth and self – regard.
  11. Lack of a real and faithful relationship with God and Jesus Christ.
  12. Financial Management.
  13. Parental Rejection (abuse, harsh, criticisms, constant humiliation, abandonment, etc.)
  14. Demon Possession.
  15. Shame
  16. Failure to dedicate ones to complete life to God through Jesus Christ.
  17. Failure to realize that Power concedes nothing without demand. It never has and never will (Frederick Douglass).

Some of these things I highlighted already in the beginning, but here was an additional insight of why it is. Based on this list, even though it’s probably vague for some, but for many – this is an ongoing constant battle every single time. There were some examples from the list that were highlighted based on Parental Rejection. That involves abuse, being humiliated, feeling abandonment and other factors. Many of you who are Black Men, probably had those whoopings as a child growing up and your mother per say had to comment in reference “You’re just like your daddy!” Or someone had you do something that was on the daring side of an act against your will (i.e. allowing to be molested by a male or female or molest a female), another could be financial concerns – again that could be devastating towards any male. Blaming God is factor of brokenness, but it’s not a viable factor in ties with having those demons if you will. Even having that whole relationship to God and the teachings of Jesus Christ. I know some don’t really believe in God or Jesus, but there are those who feel that it is a true viable parable to reference.

Another highlight: A hip hop reference – Snoop Dogg once said: “There’s nobody out there teaching a man how to be a man. There’s nobody out there teaching a father how to be a real father, and there’s nobody out there teaching a husband how to be a husband.” Yes, you probably are saying why would your Pastor would reference Snoop Dogg in this? Snoop ain’t Broken! But what if he was? Mainly the lyrics, or quotes could translate to see yes there aren’t many men, fathers, and husbands can’t teach others to be real men, real fathers, or better yet, real husbands. Now we’ve been told to be good productive citizens. Like having a good suit real nice, wear a tie, act like what the other folks are doing, use proper language (ala yes maam and yes sir), and stay out of trouble per say. All of that is fine. But that does NOT dictate of being a real Male of the Black race! That’s like for you non-African Americans (who just happen to stumble on this blog just recently, but thanks for reading) were telling us about being Americans in all. And saying if an issue pops up, you comment “Don’t say that! Let’s go to a Packers game or watch the WWE Wrestling match at the BC”. Ummm……..even though we want to see Aaron Rodgers or John Cena, that is NOT going to make you a real man! I’ll give them credit for working hard and having an upbringing. Not knocking the hustle.

Continuing with the conversation:

The second to last part of the workshop came from Pastor James Boyd, who ministers at “The Lord’s Way International” in the city. He also is featured on a radio segment called “Coming Out With Pastor James Boyd” every Friday locally. His part of the segment was more in depth of being broken! What I mean in depth, I mean in depth! He had two men and others who were up and coming pastors in part of workshop that sometimes being broken can lead to healing. Two of the men he had to give advice were Homosexuals (yes they were Gay) and he wanted to let them know about letting go of the pain of the past examples to make room for the now and future. In terms to letting go what others thought and letting them know that the Almighty cares and is willing to make a way for the better. Now many of you probably asking this question: “Why the God references again?!! I don’t believe in God or what does that have to do with Broken Men whom are Black?” In the words of my former UMC pastor, I’m so glad you asked that question. That is the question I am prepared to answer! Many of the things we’re going through right now in terms of actions of we face, were also a reflection of what the biblical folks went through almost the same thing. And even though they didn’t have skyway pagers or cell phones or Facebook or Twitter, but the actions of being broken in all, is the same thing! Many don’t want to believe it now, but probably in the next lifetime, or towards the next lifetime when no one is around that is watching or looking, or taking care of you in the nursing home being sick or nursing back to health per say: Guess what? Minds or thoughts will be changed.

There were several references that came out of the discussion – One, Pastor Boyd talked about being “Publicly Successful”, and “Privately Failing”. Many of us can relate. When we are in the public and doing things well no matter what it is, we are seemed successful. And sometimes behind closed doors, we call fail privately in our actions and examples. Think about it. When was the last time (Note to the Black Males again) has this happened to you?

He also commented that everything we’re going through (no matter what it is) is study time. You guys are probably studying this blog for a future bible lesson right now and don’t even know it. Or how to strengthen an Alumni Group, or finding that new good paying career financially even more stronger than before! And to finalize, what is ever in you, gets caught in the current. I want to paraphrase, whatever is caught in you spiritually or inspirationally will be in the current. Flowing in the current like a river, lake or wind. For us folks who like nature or being wrapped up in nature, this to me ties into that. When feelings of hurt or misguidance, or faith stricken attitudes arises that happens, it will get caught and morely (again in spiritual sense of prayer) will be flowed out. Ever had someone to say, and I’m not the only one who had this comment to say: I’ll pray for you. Or may I pray for you? Ever had that? Now many again might ask, even some young black brothers might comment and ask, “What are they praying for? Who are they praying too?  or is it scripted for me to see it?” I have to comment that prayers at times CAN’T be scripted! They can’t! It comes from within not without. Every December 5th, I say the Lord’s Prayer on my birthday and thanking the Almighty for another year living to see another day of birth! Part of that, is not scripted. It’s already scripted since 1976. It was scripted through my family, and those who saw me since day one! And you will not see this on Facebook or anywhere else. Why? It’s unscripted from print. And it’s memorized by heart.

The mixture of black men today were some Baby Boomers, Gen X, Gen Y, Straight, Gay, Married, Single, United Methodist, COGIC, Baptist etc. Even though we were different denominations, categories of status, members or visitors, it didn’t matter. What mattered was we all had several commonalities of stories and related commonalities of the subject of being broken. And also coming to grips to the ideas to face and solve the ideas of healing of the brokenness. Even I had issues of being broken. You all read about me being discriminated for jobs based on me being black, having being attacked mentally by well known Milwaukee non profits and temp services in relation with my previous education of distance learning with UW-Stout. I’m putting this here! Even also I forgot to mention: yes there were many times I used my gifts and talents in the church, and some felt like I betrayed them with a Church Men’s Day artwork. So yes Black Brothers, I’ve been “broken” in the Church, and I didn’t leave. I stayed not only to confront the problems but also finding new ways to rise above it. And making sure it does not happen to anyone else going in. Many  of us black men doing the judging in the Church, we need to watch it! This goes for black women too! Now black women we know you’ve got the upper hand in all the church departments and offices. But EVEN YOU have to understand that sometimes the actions of brokenness can flow to you also. No matter what it is. And yes, I know you’re peeping my blog in all to see what’s up.

So let this be a lesson, actually a line struck from the movie Batman Forever. The scene took place in the movie after Dick Grayson lost his family in the circus act. And Alfred looked at his helmet and asked him, “Is this a Robin?” and later commented that “Broken wings mend in time. One day Robin will fly again. I promise.”  And he said “Robin will fly again.” Not just the bird, but your new purpose and objectives. Plus an outlook of redemption!

Black men: I’m saying this now. Our wings seem broken for now. Our whole brokenness maybe exposed. Our actions of brokenness in various ways, maybe on the Injury list of what happened. BUT know this: it can be fixed for the better! It doesn’t matter who you are, and/or your current situation may not be “perfect” (and by the way, nobody’s perfect I don’t care what your status is), all broken wings can be mended. Even through grace!

Ok Class: School is in session. 

Many of our young kids and young college students who we helped raise since birth are back in the classrooms and dorms trying to get their education on once again. I know that many parents that are having those moments about leaving their babies and young “soon to be” college women and men behind in order to spend the days or weeks or months in their respective schools. We know it. Many of us had gone through it and knows the pain. BUT that pain might be rewarding in the future if applying promptly. 

But what happens when if, and this is a big IF that if you don’t have children to tuck in or to get up, or to remind them of that spending of the money that we don’t get to see? Are we the folks, who don’t have kids are singled out? Not exactly. We’re part of the village. Period. Like the adage says: It takes a village to raise child. 

Here are my rules that us childless folks who are living the single game can contribute. 

1) Support the Scholarship Programs – We see them. We read them. See if there is a way to donate, or to join the board, or organization that harbors the purposes and objectives.

2) Join your Alumni Associations – OOOOOOHHHHHH I’ve now been preaching this for quite sometime now. If you are  still dominate about your High School, College, Tech School, or University Days that you still got going on since 1990 or earlier, donate to your Alumni Association annually. Donate your time, your resources, your effort, your money or if you’re not making any money as of right now, that’s no excuse. Still get your involvement by attending events, or join the Associations’ Board Of Directors to go to meetings and formulate new ideas. Also if your former school doesn’t have an Alumni Group currently, start one!

3) Be a Reference – Please be one. Not just for jobs, but also for education. No matter the age, grade level, or year status of college. 

4) Volunteer at a school. If a school has a volunteer group (again if you don’t have kids) that those can help to display signs, or artwork, or a teacher’s welcome home party that is well known, do that! If you live near a school that is known in the neighborhood, get in touch with a representative of that school to see if there is any Volunteer Sessions available. 

5) Be a tutor – If you been in the game for a while, in helping students facing poor grades, do this. No matter the grade level. Even with college folks. 

6) if you have a car, substitute your driving availability.  If the buses are late, or if a neighbor is going to be out of town and they left you with babysitting the kids, feel free to step up and get the students to school. 

7) Attend an open house. Yes, you can do this! Take notes on the school, the student population and more. That might tie in to the previous rules above. Also works for the Colleges and Universities too!

8) Church folks – no need to comment. We should know the role of supporting the youth and young folks that are coming up. Stay active and positive. Give what you can. Even if you take pictures of their praise dances in all that COULD benefit their next level of endeavors. Even being that extra support of reference of that student getting more educational support.

9) Be a motivator – same as a tutor. But you have to be upfront. 

10) If you can’t speak infront of folks, or tutor folks, or motivate folks, etc. Don’t panic. There are behind the scenes stuff you can do and support the cause. 

And the final thing of this rules: Provide encouragement, guidance and support. The kids and the young college students are at work right now. When they will reach a point of positive objectives, they will be rewarded of course. But still stay the course of making sure they sail on.

Now: these rules usually applies to anyone. And to those to are married with children in all, this is not to discredit you. Let me be clear, there are adults that want to get involved with this, but they don’t have children of their own to support, in the schools. For me, I don’t have kids. Don’t call me a hater! However don’t get me wrong if I publish a positive picture in the paper that deals with a High School Band winning an award. Or that top student that is being featured in a blog story that I know would be a positive reference. Or maybe assemble my Alumni to help the current students of donations and fund-raising. Or…….you might get the picture. The issue is about staying active! Regardless of your status which is no excuse. 

Ok class: the rules have been enforced. You’re dismissed.